celeste222
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Hey any one can tell me is that a Must to have a bridesmaid? can i call many jie mei so not need bridesmaid??? Please advices thank you thank you.......
bridesmaid = Jiemei?" Or Bridesmaid + Jiemei?
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celeste222
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Hi Good Morning + eMiLy + Thanks for your advice
now i know wat to do.
celeste222
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oh...... ic ya i think u r rite..... now a day ppl always think is the same. i think i will only ask my gf to be my jie mei on the "jie xin liang" time. anyway thanks atleast now i m clear abt it.
got such things? lol jan4january
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people call 2 happy events to 'double clashes'.
jinnie1982
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me getting married in FEB 2009 but 1 of my jiemei is getting married in APR 2009, will it clash ?
jan4january
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some old folks say better avoid if d dates less than 3 mths, some say a year. for me, i still attend my friend's wedding within 6 mths.
sghellokitty
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Hi,
Bridesmaid normally 1 only. And bridesmaid, since ang moh style, is for church wedding and normally not married. And there is this believe among the ang mohs you cant be a bridesmaid for 3 times. The other gal friends are called maid of honor, so that one you can have like 5 if you want to.
For church wedding, it not a must but if you want to look nice esp you have a bridesmaid and maid of honor so you may want to have the same color dress. If you have the budget, suggest you make it or go to some shops where they all buy the same color. Looks nicer...but not necessary.
Jie Mei - chinese custom and that is for the chinese ceremony where the guy picks the bride. That one, you can have many. For me, my jie mei...I have up to 7 but bridesmaid only 1.
Bridesmaid normally 1 only. And bridesmaid, since ang moh style, is for church wedding and normally not married. And there is this believe among the ang mohs you cant be a bridesmaid for 3 times. The other gal friends are called maid of honor, so that one you can have like 5 if you want to.
For church wedding, it not a must but if you want to look nice esp you have a bridesmaid and maid of honor so you may want to have the same color dress. If you have the budget, suggest you make it or go to some shops where they all buy the same color. Looks nicer...but not necessary.
Jie Mei - chinese custom and that is for the chinese ceremony where the guy picks the bride. That one, you can have many. For me, my jie mei...I have up to 7 but bridesmaid only 1.
fairlady95
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hi ladies,
what happen if your jiemeis fly you kite? i have a feeling i'm experiencing this... my AD is one month's away... and i've to distribute the task to them. one of them MIA and the other tell you that your wedding is such a hassle.
what will you do when these jiemeis happen to be your close friends?
what happen if your jiemeis fly you kite? i have a feeling i'm experiencing this... my AD is one month's away... and i've to distribute the task to them. one of them MIA and the other tell you that your wedding is such a hassle.
what will you do when these jiemeis happen to be your close friends?
sweetcyanide
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i m lost... i thought bridesmaid is more like the leader.. the one closest to you.. she will attend to your every needs like your assistant and is with you when the groom receives the bride?? and the bridesmaid should not be married.
as for jiemei, it's more for the fun like when opening the doors and helping out during wedding reception?? jie mei can be married right??
correct if i m wrong, the jiemeis i plan to have some are married and some are planning for divorce... but my bridesmaid must be clean background de...
as for jiemei, it's more for the fun like when opening the doors and helping out during wedding reception?? jie mei can be married right??
correct if i m wrong, the jiemeis i plan to have some are married and some are planning for divorce... but my bridesmaid must be clean background de...
hi gals! my AD is in dec 09.im not a christian, however i do have my younger sis as my bridesmaid and 3 or jiemeis. total: 4 or 6 ladies.(waiting for HTB to confirm his side)
im not very pandang myself, my best fren's AD is in JAN2010, but i feel i wan her to participate in my wedding and viceversa.. Don't want to miss this part of our lives.
Wendy: im also afraid some of my JM fly kite, so lucky 2 of my frens are willing to be back up for my wedding. maybe u can consider tt too.
this happened to my cuz's wedding,which is next week! she's frantically asking ard for help.
Other than tt, married or divorced is fine with me.
im not very pandang myself, my best fren's AD is in JAN2010, but i feel i wan her to participate in my wedding and viceversa.. Don't want to miss this part of our lives.
Wendy: im also afraid some of my JM fly kite, so lucky 2 of my frens are willing to be back up for my wedding. maybe u can consider tt too.
Other than tt, married or divorced is fine with me.
hi there...
i thought bridesmaid and maid-of-honour are the same? i.e. she takes care of your needs and stays with u in the room, waiting for groom to fetch, and helps during the tea ceremony.
and the jiemeis are the gals at gate crashing and help with other things like reception, other logistics etc...
i was a jiemei for my fren (had my ROM already then), and her bridesmaid is married. I guess it's individuals' beliefs and preferences.
but come to think of it, all my jiemeis/bridesmaid-to-be happen to be single!
i thought bridesmaid and maid-of-honour are the same? i.e. she takes care of your needs and stays with u in the room, waiting for groom to fetch, and helps during the tea ceremony.
and the jiemeis are the gals at gate crashing and help with other things like reception, other logistics etc...
i was a jiemei for my fren (had my ROM already then), and her bridesmaid is married. I guess it's individuals' beliefs and preferences.
but come to think of it, all my jiemeis/bridesmaid-to-be happen to be single!
Hi Christane, for me, I intend to pay for my jiemei's make up (i have 6 in total) on my AD so I will not be paying for their dresses. Besides, my BS had offered me 2x bridesmaid dresses so i will be giving 1x to my maid of honor and 1x to either my mom or my sister-in-law. =)
sharyn_koh
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Hi ladies, based on my frens' weddings, some of them bought the jie meis a present for their efforts. I thought that its a nice gesture and intend to follow. My view on if the bride shd pay for the dresses of tje jie meis is that if the bride insists on everyone wearing the same dress and it has to be specially made, I think the bride shd pay. There was once my sister was the jie mei for her fren and that gal asked everyone to tailor made a dress for the occasion but did not offer to pick up the tab. I thot its ungracious esp when the design is rather restrictive (i.e can only be wore for that occasion)
Generally if the bride just gives a general theme like pink dress, i feel no need to pay.
Any thought?
Generally if the bride just gives a general theme like pink dress, i feel no need to pay.
Any thought?
Hi Sharyn,
If the bride wishes to have her sisters wearing the same dresses, meaning to tailor the dresses, definitely, the bride should pay for it as the tailoring's her request. However, if the bride specifies a color theme, say pink, the bride can still pay for her sisters' dresses as well BUT unless, you're like me, I intend to pay for my sisters' makeup on my AD, I wont be paying for their dresses.
THis is becoz I may not be accompanying my sisters to shop for their dresses thus it isnt nice for me to give them $$ for their dresses. Hence, I will prepay the MUA on my sisters' makeup. As I am quite tight on budget as each Make up and hairdo is abt $70. I have 6 sisters so it's a total of $420! If I still have to pay for my sisters' dresses, I'll burn quite a big hole. Besides, I will be choosing a color theme like white or pink etc in the morning on my AD while they are free to choose whatever color they like for the dinner.
In this way, you're still paying something for ur sisters and if they're your close friends, they'll understand that you have quite a huge financial burden and could not pay off so many things.
Of course, you may also consider having a "sisters-lunch" whereby you can pay the tab. Have it simple, probably bake some cookies and cakes for the occasion. I believe they'll love it! =)
If the bride wishes to have her sisters wearing the same dresses, meaning to tailor the dresses, definitely, the bride should pay for it as the tailoring's her request. However, if the bride specifies a color theme, say pink, the bride can still pay for her sisters' dresses as well BUT unless, you're like me, I intend to pay for my sisters' makeup on my AD, I wont be paying for their dresses.
THis is becoz I may not be accompanying my sisters to shop for their dresses thus it isnt nice for me to give them $$ for their dresses. Hence, I will prepay the MUA on my sisters' makeup. As I am quite tight on budget as each Make up and hairdo is abt $70. I have 6 sisters so it's a total of $420! If I still have to pay for my sisters' dresses, I'll burn quite a big hole. Besides, I will be choosing a color theme like white or pink etc in the morning on my AD while they are free to choose whatever color they like for the dinner.
In this way, you're still paying something for ur sisters and if they're your close friends, they'll understand that you have quite a huge financial burden and could not pay off so many things.
Of course, you may also consider having a "sisters-lunch" whereby you can pay the tab. Have it simple, probably bake some cookies and cakes for the occasion. I believe they'll love it! =)
jingjing07
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Hi all
I got 2 Sis 2 future Sis in law 1 close cousin and many close friends. If i ask all I will have 12 Jie meis.
Is it too Many?
I got 2 Sis 2 future Sis in law 1 close cousin and many close friends. If i ask all I will have 12 Jie meis.
Is it too Many?
krazimitzi
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Hi all, came across this post, just wanted to share what I know about bridesmaids. I'm not from a traditional chinese family so i have no clue at all about jiemeis, but for bridesmaids at least i know a bit!
You would usually appoint your close friends and family members as bridesmaids. their tasks vary from helping in the preparation of the wedding (i.e. DIY crafts, helping you to pick your gown, follow you on your photoshoot etc), to the AD where they would take up various roles such as reception duties, or ensuring the programme runs smoothly, the rings are in place etc.
The "leader" would be the "Maid of Honour", akin to the groom's side "Best Man". Originally she should be single, and preferably your younger sister or cousin or best friend, someone who is the closest to you. Some see it as passing on your bride luck to her, some see it as because she does the most work, she would be more willing to because she's someone close to you!
Depending on whether you will have your bridal party march-in with you, for me I will, so all my bridesmaids will march-in before my Maid of Honour who is last before I come in. My MOH will also serve as my wedding coordinator with the venue and vendors and will be running the whole show because I did not hire a professional wedding coordinator for my AD.
For the Chinese gate-crashing, I will be having some other friends to help, they will be the "jiemeis" - they will meet up in advance to plan the "tekan" games and on that day will be in charge of preventing my hubby from coming in?! This will also include the older generation like my aunts of course as these are so called the guardians of the "nu fang". People usually have criteria for "jiemeis" - they must be good at getting money out of the "nan fang"!
Anyway hence my "jiemeis" will be different from my "bridesmaids" and "maid of honour", as is usually the more western custom. Western custom also states that the husband has to pay for the bridemaids dresses, and that is why my hubby is (being forced to be) doing. But we will make it a fun shopping trip where all the girls go out together to try on and purchase. This way I can also control on the budget for my hubby - what a good wife right! hahahaha
For "jiemei" from what I see of my other friends, they will request for a certain colour theme but it is up to the girls to choose their own dresses, whether they choose to purchase a new one or to use from their current wardrobe, it is up to them. There will still be a small token, either from the bride herself, or they will divide the money given by the groom, depending on your own individual customs. For me, I will be giving them separately.
Well, that is just for me. Everyone has different customs and traditions. What's most important is both sides of the families are happy with the arrangement! Don't forget your elders in your planning!
You would usually appoint your close friends and family members as bridesmaids. their tasks vary from helping in the preparation of the wedding (i.e. DIY crafts, helping you to pick your gown, follow you on your photoshoot etc), to the AD where they would take up various roles such as reception duties, or ensuring the programme runs smoothly, the rings are in place etc.
The "leader" would be the "Maid of Honour", akin to the groom's side "Best Man". Originally she should be single, and preferably your younger sister or cousin or best friend, someone who is the closest to you. Some see it as passing on your bride luck to her, some see it as because she does the most work, she would be more willing to because she's someone close to you!
Depending on whether you will have your bridal party march-in with you, for me I will, so all my bridesmaids will march-in before my Maid of Honour who is last before I come in. My MOH will also serve as my wedding coordinator with the venue and vendors and will be running the whole show because I did not hire a professional wedding coordinator for my AD.
For the Chinese gate-crashing, I will be having some other friends to help, they will be the "jiemeis" - they will meet up in advance to plan the "tekan" games and on that day will be in charge of preventing my hubby from coming in?! This will also include the older generation like my aunts of course as these are so called the guardians of the "nu fang". People usually have criteria for "jiemeis" - they must be good at getting money out of the "nan fang"!
Anyway hence my "jiemeis" will be different from my "bridesmaids" and "maid of honour", as is usually the more western custom. Western custom also states that the husband has to pay for the bridemaids dresses, and that is why my hubby is (being forced to be) doing. But we will make it a fun shopping trip where all the girls go out together to try on and purchase. This way I can also control on the budget for my hubby - what a good wife right! hahahaha
For "jiemei" from what I see of my other friends, they will request for a certain colour theme but it is up to the girls to choose their own dresses, whether they choose to purchase a new one or to use from their current wardrobe, it is up to them. There will still be a small token, either from the bride herself, or they will divide the money given by the groom, depending on your own individual customs. For me, I will be giving them separately.
Well, that is just for me. Everyone has different customs and traditions. What's most important is both sides of the families are happy with the arrangement! Don't forget your elders in your planning!
jingjing07
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Wow, thank you for sharing your insights. I guess my gate crashing and ensuring everything run smoothly will be the same group of girls. =)
Lim Shu Hua
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Does bridesmaid and jie mei wear the same outfit? Or bridesmaid gotta be different?
CelynJui
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Hello, my qns is opposite.. Does anyone knows the minimum jiemeis we can have? HTB doesnt have many friends.. ThanksHello
Does anyone know maximum number of bridesmaids / jie meis that we can have?
Also, is it a must to coordinate dresses for them for church wedding (if they are in wedding procession)?
Hello! There's no fixed min or max number of jiemeis, these people are usually the ones closest to us and we want them to be there with us on our special day. Usually people try to get equal number on both sides so it will look nice on pictures. But there's no hard and fast rules
