Actual day helpers, bridesmaids & groomsmen

[meg12]

I'm the bride but I am an only child and don't really have much friends (good friends are guys actually) and I'm not close to my cousins. My HTB is only son (with sisters) and he's also the kind who doesn't have super duper good friends like brothers.

We are doing away with gatecrash but thinking if bridesmaids and groomsmen are necessary in the actual day stuff.

Also thinking like for banquet, who to be emcee and who to be the one handling the laptop e.g. to play videos or songs at certain times.

Can anyone advise?

 

[dorvino]

Well, whatever it is, you still need helpers for actual day I feel. You and HTB cannot possibly be handling everything on your own on the actual day.
Like the tea ceremony, someone has to help to wash the cups quickly and pour tea, and also keep the angpows/ jewellery that your relatives will be giving you
Someone has to remember to help you pack your kua, shoes and accessories to bring from your parents' house to your HTB's house. And someone gotta pack your white gown, shoes/ accessories after you've changed into your kua.

Yes and for banquet, who will be at the reception table to do last minute arrangement, especially if people didn't turn up at some tables.

Best is to have jiemeis and xiongdi to help, otherwise, I guess everything can be solved with money? Hire professional emcee, hire wedding planner and tell them you don't have anybody to do all these and hence, they have to provide you with helpers.

 

[jkwedding308]

I'm the bride but I am an only child and don't really have much friends (good friends are guys actually) and I'm not close to my cousins. My HTB is only son (with sisters) and he's also the kind who doesn't have super duper good friends like brothers.

We are doing away with gatecrash but thinking if bridesmaids and groomsmen are necessary in the actual day stuff.

Also thinking like for banquet, who to be emcee and who to be the one handling the laptop e.g. to play videos or songs at certain times.

Can anyone advise?

I'm also an only child and being non-Singaporean, most of my close friends aren't even in Singapore to begin with (even if I'm thinking of asking them) and like you, quite a number of them are guys. But as I wanted to forge a closer kinship and friendship with my hubby's sister (he's also the only son like your HTB, lol!), I asked her to be my maid of honour and she felt honoured to be asked and she agreed immediately. So maybe can consider his sisters, depending on how your relationships with them are like? On a technical basis, bridesmaids and groomsmen may not be necessary but you will definitely need helpers, be these hired hands or volunteering friends. There's no rule to say that you can't ask your close guy friends to help out - sure they can't be wearing bridesmaids dresses and stuff but they can probably be an emcee or handle the AV stuff etc. You may not be close to your cousins but maybe your HTB may be close to his cousins and sisters and they too may be able to help in various ways. Having family and friends help out at your wedding often gives them the sense of privilege of being honoured to be involved in the fine intimate details of this big day of yours and it also helps reduce the overall cost as you will be expected to pay more with each and every extra hired help you get...