Jenny, I feel that I should explain myself if not I feel u will hold that grudge forever.
I've reread the front posts again up till the part I came up with this conclusion that u r a shit stirrer.
Everything was still cool until powder took the stand of the mil which I also feel irritated and unreasonable with all the talks about "expectations". I had to keep reminding myself, it's the mil talking, and if I have this kind of mil, what should I do.
Milo did not just blindly agree with powder, he did tried to tone it down and counter some parts where he see fits. Bp tried to do the hugging. But when u come in, everything starts to go haywire.
U turn the whole focus onto powder used of "f" word which I don't think is the main reason y his post sounds so harsh. It's the way he phrased his sentence, the way he set his tone and emotion. Eg. "why don't u go die?
" vs "fxxking hell" which is meaner and scarier?
After throwing the "ç«è‹—" u went off with
"Ya, I better let go, before Powder come attacking me with harsh and sarcastic words again. Better go do better things than wasting time arguing with him here. Bye!"
<-- Making urself as the victim and powder's looking pretty bad. Note that before this, not once you acknowledge his contribution. Filter away all the "f" word, does what he says not make any sense? Or you did the other way round and could only see the "f" words?
So after you "go away" and powder came back and saw your post, he started to defend himself, like what you did. I agree the apologize part is abit uncalled for, since this is a open forum like all have explain. The ultimate post from u is..
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From then on, carol seems to change completely and kinda went into a "give up" mode and started to say sarcastic things. Reread that sentence u wrote urself.. it shows alot about u. If u're really the cultured people like u say, y can't u do the hugging and pacify her, and deliver the message in ur way, unless u don't agree with anything everyone here says, so u just want to shut carol out.
From all the post, one can easily spot who has give positive or negative influence. BP is on ur side isn't it? But her approach is totally different. I believe the thread wouldn't come to this stage if u havnt started that planted that "ç«è‹—" which has burnt a few people and invited afew who just came in to add oil.
Ur intention might have have been good, but ur actions says otherwise.