when married, does yr husband gives u allowance even though wife is working?
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NataDesCoco
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Lol, why nobody answered? I'm really curious too!
NataDesCoco
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Haha anneyu, of course your husband will say no!
NataDesCoco
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In this time and age everything is about equality.. I think like traciee asked, why must give allowance if wife is also working? My htb and I will have a joint a/c but we will both be putting in the same amount monthly, and expenses will come from there.
*cough* Come to think of it.. Like that how to have "si1 fang2 qian2" ar? Hahaha! Si1 fang2 my own qian2 I guess!
*cough* Come to think of it.. Like that how to have "si1 fang2 qian2" ar? Hahaha! Si1 fang2 my own qian2 I guess!
My htb gave me credit cards, to accumulate points for perks. We have no intention to keep joint accounts, but when requires huge amt of payment, will come from mine since he's paying for the daily expenses. Both free to use the amount in our own bank, as we set a budget for ourselves each mth.
Ladies, take my advise...husband must give wife allowance...and must insist. Why? otherwise, they have too much money and goes drinking and womanizing. That's what happened to me. And when I realized and started asking, he's always say not enough...think gals...how can a man's salary not enough for himself? what he spent on?
Next I know, mysterious women came knocking on my door looking for him...and he's nowhere to be found. This is my true life story...we women don't anyhow spent extravangly except for kids and family groceries. Then why does the law stipulates a man must provide for his wife ? If any of your husband isn't giving ...time to think and go to family court and file a court order. I now have a court order that he must provide for me and my kids..regardless whether he have enough or not. This is the law, gals.
God Bless...
Next I know, mysterious women came knocking on my door looking for him...and he's nowhere to be found. This is my true life story...we women don't anyhow spent extravangly except for kids and family groceries. Then why does the law stipulates a man must provide for his wife ? If any of your husband isn't giving ...time to think and go to family court and file a court order. I now have a court order that he must provide for me and my kids..regardless whether he have enough or not. This is the law, gals.
God Bless...
traciee
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I dont think its fair to stereotype all guys this way. There are always black sheeps around.
NataDesCoco
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Yeah I don't think that is true of the whole gender. Although if the husband is earning more than 10k a month and the wife is earning only 2k a month then it might not make sense to pay equally for both parties.
I think for me, if my htb is willing to pay for all the miscellaneous expenses such as our meals together, groceries, entertainment (not including holidays) and household utilities, I don't require him to give me any more allowance, cause that already covers a lot monthly!
I think for me, if my htb is willing to pay for all the miscellaneous expenses such as our meals together, groceries, entertainment (not including holidays) and household utilities, I don't require him to give me any more allowance, cause that already covers a lot monthly!
hippo_woody
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Agree with Traciee.
Neither do I agree with the man giving allowance to the wife if the wife is working also. All fair and equal. Since the feminist wanna push for equal right, equal standing in the society, then we got to "give up" this thought about getting allowances from husband (esp. if the woman is working also).
Its not fair for the men if we tweak the situation to our advantage. For example, when it comes to household chores, husband has to do it also based on the mentality that both wife & husband r working, everything is equal. Then when it comes to giving allowances, things are not equal in this aspect, husband has to give the wife allowances despite her working also, purely based on the very traditional practice that men should "take care" of the family financially.
My HB pays all the monthly household & grocery bills. And I insist that we take turns to pay the condo management fee since I'm also working. He doesn't give me a monthly allowance per se but if I want to buy clothes or handbags, etc. he'll gladly pick up the tabs. He also pays for 2 long holidays per year as well as smaller getaways in-between.
I have ask my hubby to give me 15% of his salary...
But well, now he didn't follow as 15% but indeed everymonth I still get my home pay.
He didn't buy me anything honestly, normally grocery expenses also payout from my side, sometime him.
As long as he got kind of "commitment" mind of his salary to home.
I'm ok with it.
I'm getting husband to pay us is not using this money to buy my own stuff or simply use.
Just want him to have kind commitment of "before married" and "after married".
Also, a guy who have commitment pay to parent will pay to wifey as well, this is kind of "RESPONSIBILITY" to family.
But also don't measure everything in money, else, easy make both in quarrel situation.
To clarify: me and my hubby not always have dinner/movie/shopping outside, we normal cook simple breakfast and I will prepare dinner at home.
But well, now he didn't follow as 15% but indeed everymonth I still get my home pay.
He didn't buy me anything honestly, normally grocery expenses also payout from my side, sometime him.
As long as he got kind of "commitment" mind of his salary to home.
I'm ok with it.
I'm getting husband to pay us is not using this money to buy my own stuff or simply use.
Just want him to have kind commitment of "before married" and "after married".
Also, a guy who have commitment pay to parent will pay to wifey as well, this is kind of "RESPONSIBILITY" to family.
But also don't measure everything in money, else, easy make both in quarrel situation.
To clarify: me and my hubby not always have dinner/movie/shopping outside, we normal cook simple breakfast and I will prepare dinner at home.
Ashley Tan
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I'm quite a traditional thinking. I feel it the responsibility for a husband to give the wife allowance. No matter the wife got work or not.
I'm not " stereotyping"...just look at the women's charter: Quote
Court may order maintenance of wife and children
69.
—(1) Any married woman whose husband neglects or refuses to provide her reasonable maintenance may apply to the court, and the court may, on due proof thereof, order the husband to pay a monthly allowance or a lump sum for her maintenance
Unquote
Do you think those people who put up the Women's Charter are dimwit and not affluent enough to know that today's women are all working?
Take the example; that you are staying with your inlaws or relative(s) who are wealthy...and they don't ask you to fork out any money. Human psychology is that tendency to neglect usage of household items would be high. Otherwise, why are so many wives complainting their maids wastage of food and household items? Because they don't pay for it! But...if you are paying those items, you take extra care to cut wastage & siayang more. Same principles.
I have been in and out of family court these days and I see too many too many cases. Some husbands come in coat and tie and briefcase with girlfriends even !
It's up to you ladies how you want to live your lives but fact is, the Law protects women and we should not abuse it. As to why, you all can conclude yourself.
Adios...
Court may order maintenance of wife and children
69.
—(1) Any married woman whose husband neglects or refuses to provide her reasonable maintenance may apply to the court, and the court may, on due proof thereof, order the husband to pay a monthly allowance or a lump sum for her maintenance
Unquote
Do you think those people who put up the Women's Charter are dimwit and not affluent enough to know that today's women are all working?
Take the example; that you are staying with your inlaws or relative(s) who are wealthy...and they don't ask you to fork out any money. Human psychology is that tendency to neglect usage of household items would be high. Otherwise, why are so many wives complainting their maids wastage of food and household items? Because they don't pay for it! But...if you are paying those items, you take extra care to cut wastage & siayang more. Same principles.
I have been in and out of family court these days and I see too many too many cases. Some husbands come in coat and tie and briefcase with girlfriends even !
It's up to you ladies how you want to live your lives but fact is, the Law protects women and we should not abuse it. As to why, you all can conclude yourself.
Adios...
Tan Xiao Ming
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For me personally I feel that it a husband duty to give allowance to the wife. Whelter that she has got work not.
Koh Li LIng
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Hmm.. I think it's a nice gesture for a hubby to give wife allowance, but ONLY if she's not working. If she's working, it depends on how much she's earning. If she's earning way more, then why should hubby give allowance? It doesn't really make sense.
Thoughts please? I'm also quite interested cos my girlfriends always complain about not having enough money from hubby. But they're big spenders so I think its a good thing their hubbies give them less/none. Lol.
Thoughts please? I'm also quite interested cos my girlfriends always complain about not having enough money from hubby. But they're big spenders so I think its a good thing their hubbies give them less/none. Lol.
shopaholic799
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im in the same situation as you! My hubby said no too =(
flyersummer
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You said it youself, it happens to you. no sweeping statement pls
