twwwwinkle
New Member
Hi....
When hubby decideds to put work first, this means that :
1) He travels a lot
2) Works until very late
3) Is constantly on the phone even when he is with you
4) Even when driving, he is typing an email on his phone
Now that we are preparing our wedding, it also means that:
1) When i go gown fitting, he is standing outside the shop. on the phone, all the time
2) No time to go prepare GDL. He came to shop to pay with his parents, and delegate most of the things to his parents
3) No time to sort out bridal car or settle mc
4) No time to do the schedule
5) No time to go bank and change new notes for ang pao
6) Will be travelling for work 5 days before wedding, but will be back 3 days before actual date
8) Honeymoon cannot exceed 7 days, because no time, he need to go back to work
7) No time to...... no time to.... no time to.... a lot of things
When i try to talk to him about it, we always ends up in BIG fights. He thinks i am too demanding, and thinks that i cannot be " the woman to support the man". He also says that career is most important for him because he wants to lead a better life in future. He also says that his friends wife all very supportive of husband to work hard, and never complains, so he doesn't understand why i am like that.
The truth is i am trying my darnest to be as patient and understanding as i possibly can! I try and try and try.... each time we fight, i feel so heartbroken because he cannot understand that what i ask for is so simple. I just want him to pay more attenetion to me, when he is with me! Not to bring his work along during dinner, movies or other dates.
We keep fighting, and even more so now that our wedding is drawing near and there so much things to do! Its our wedding, once in a lifetime, i feel so robbed of this entire experience because he places work first.
I'm tired. I don't want to fight anymore. But neither can i walk down the aisle as a happy bride too. I know he loves me.... but am i sharing this love with his job? Is it even comparable? Is it just me... or .... ?
Any one sharing the same experience, or anyone can offer suggestions?
When hubby decideds to put work first, this means that :
1) He travels a lot
2) Works until very late
3) Is constantly on the phone even when he is with you
4) Even when driving, he is typing an email on his phone
Now that we are preparing our wedding, it also means that:
1) When i go gown fitting, he is standing outside the shop. on the phone, all the time
2) No time to go prepare GDL. He came to shop to pay with his parents, and delegate most of the things to his parents
3) No time to sort out bridal car or settle mc
4) No time to do the schedule
5) No time to go bank and change new notes for ang pao
6) Will be travelling for work 5 days before wedding, but will be back 3 days before actual date
8) Honeymoon cannot exceed 7 days, because no time, he need to go back to work
7) No time to...... no time to.... no time to.... a lot of things
When i try to talk to him about it, we always ends up in BIG fights. He thinks i am too demanding, and thinks that i cannot be " the woman to support the man". He also says that career is most important for him because he wants to lead a better life in future. He also says that his friends wife all very supportive of husband to work hard, and never complains, so he doesn't understand why i am like that.
The truth is i am trying my darnest to be as patient and understanding as i possibly can! I try and try and try.... each time we fight, i feel so heartbroken because he cannot understand that what i ask for is so simple. I just want him to pay more attenetion to me, when he is with me! Not to bring his work along during dinner, movies or other dates.
We keep fighting, and even more so now that our wedding is drawing near and there so much things to do! Its our wedding, once in a lifetime, i feel so robbed of this entire experience because he places work first.
I'm tired. I don't want to fight anymore. But neither can i walk down the aisle as a happy bride too. I know he loves me.... but am i sharing this love with his job? Is it even comparable? Is it just me... or .... ?
Any one sharing the same experience, or anyone can offer suggestions?