I know single people who have very active social lives and they are happy to be independant and pursuing their hobbies.
I also know singles who are desperate to find somebody, because they are very lonely and people around them are married with families.
Depends on one's personality I guess? For my colleague, he is a shy introvert, a very devout christian, super nice guy albeit nerdy with some weird quirks. He has been looking for someone for very long already, but no takers. After his birthday last year, he joked to us that he was now a "40-year old virgin".
Another colleague once asked him if he ever got the 'urge', since he was still a virgin. He said it was against his religion to pcc, so he just pray. *shrug* like I said, he was weird LOL
Yes he's a Christian, but I doubt there are such rules lah. He's a weirdo. Super nice guy, but a weirdo.
When we have events and he's the designated photographer, all his photos turn out horrible, because all the photos were of people's backs. He said he was embarrassed and didn't dare to photograph females from the front, so all we got were the backs of people enjoying themselves. ZZZZZZZZZzz..
I won't say 'freak' lah.. but yah really weird. He has never had a gf before.
And he has a lot of criteria too! According to him, 9 out of 10 singaporean girls are not pretty. Must be pretty, must be christian, must be bubbly & outspoken (he is super shy and quiet), must not have too much age gap... and he doesn't want online/SDU type of hookups.
I told him, your standards are so high, difficult lah. Summore he is 40 and not exactly Prince Charming. No money no looks no personality, still want to "ai pee ai chee"...
"And he has a lot of criteria too! According to him, 9 out of 10 singaporean girls are not pretty. Must be pretty, must be christian, must be bubbly & outspoken (he is super shy and quiet), must not have too much age gap... and he doesn't want online/SDU type of hookups. '
AB, maybe he list so many criteria to mask his own insecurities about himself. Like, if people ask why he is still single, he can say "because no girl meets my criteria".
LOL Jeff: Why you everything also "balding, tummy pop out, see pix and pcc"?!?!!?! hehehehe
Yah lah his tummy pop out, but he is not balding. He is super soft-spoken, very shy (until irritating), weak & indecisive (don't dare to make decisions also), very thrifty (to the point of cheapskate). When we are in a big group out for lunch, whether he is there or not also no diff... he is like wallpaper, sometimes we accidently leave without him cos we don't realise that he's missing.
But he is really a very nice guy. When he knew that I was looking for a flat, he went all the way to HDB Hub to collect brochures for me on a Saturday. From Dover take MRT to Toa Payoh... just to collect brochures. I appreciate it, but my reaction was like "err.. okay.. thanks??"
May: but he wants Singaporean leh... I think he will remain a virgin forever if he continue like that.
Jeff, its not that rare lah. Don't u notice guys that workout continue to look better and younger despite being in their 30s & 40s? The tummy has to do with the bad diet and lack of exercise than just age.
I agree... I mean he's a very nice colleague and all, but BGR-wise, I find him very unattractive too (and I'm not talking abt looks or big tummy haha). I think the biggest turn-off is his indecisiveness, and shyness.
Milo : the percentage of guys going to PUB and LAZE around at home at the age of 35 to 40+ is ALOT.. ALOT until you see them. most is BLAD. tummy pop out. walk clumsily. smile and say "Ho Sei Bo?" then cheers and drink together. especially on Friday night or saturday night. drink and drive and went home safely...
There is of course, guys in their 35 - 40+ who went to gym, do alot of track miles... exercise, have 6 pack. very fit, hair still shinny, skin still glow... but it's like less then GST.
I went to R.T, it's FLOODED like the zombies in the movie "resident evil"
I went Reservice, our passing rate is only 4%. and in that 4%, most is mere pass. (I mean those in the 35 and above who need FFI)
So most of the FAT BLAD man must secure a lady before when they are younger. when they become fat bald man, hard to get pretty one unless u buy from our big friend : MR. CHINA. but there's high chance the dragon lady run away with all your $$$$..........
He is 40 yrs old but his er.. life experiences... is probably 22? Maybe less? He has never clubbed, smoked, stepped into a pub, tried alcohol, had a gf, gone to a party.... You can teach him all kinds of stuff!!
You interested let me know, I give you his contact hehe
AB, dont be surprised. celibacy is still being practised among the truly religious today.
no, i dont like younger men for the sake of them being younger. i was talking about charm. Boy-men who still retained a bit of their innocence is sweet in a way, but only when they are still in the appropriate age range to act this way. not like when they are 40+...
really reminds me of that movie by steve carrell ...