Sianz81: If she still hangs out with you despite saying all that, could it be that she enjoys your company? Probably can lift her thoughts regarding the other guy.
From a lady's POV, maybe she is unsure about her feelings towards you. I think she likes you, just don't know as a friend or potential bf. For myself, I won't go out with a guy if I do not enjoy his company or see him as a potential. I would rather rot at home! Haha.
Take a step at a time. Give bit by bit and see if this love will blossom. It's a good start!
As far as I'm concerned, I would probably agree that she enjoys my company. That's the furthest I would like myself to think currently. My only intention at this moment was hoping that she would be happy and enjoy going out with me. I dun want to think whether she likes me or not. I just hope to be around whenever she needs me.
Haha..oh well. This statement again. Thanks anyway. She has been feeling very down recently...so the only thing on my mind now is to cheer her up and make her happy. The rest I dun really wish to think.
sianz81, ok la, don tease you liao. Share with you, i was once in your gal's position but slightly different scenario. I rejected a guy before and made clear clear to him that he's not my type and i will never fall for him. Then he continued to ask me out, telling me that it's just platonic kinda of going out. At that time, i don have a boyfriend and i don have any guy in mind, so i just went out with him cos i was feeling bored. We went out (watch movies, shoppings, outdoors, sports, etc) almost every weekend. This went on for a few months, until i got a boyfriend and then we stopped going out.
If you ask me my mentality when i went out with him then, i can only say i went out with him out of boredom. I'm fair to him cos i made clear to him that i will never fall for him liao and he accepted that the going out will just be platonic. But i could sense he was a bit sad when i first told him i have found myself a boyfriend.
That happens 15yrs ago. And now we are both married, but not to each other. We still keep in touch via facebook.
Hard to really say its fair or not fair. One could have easily point out you have taken advantage to that fact that he is always willing and hopeful. Others would feel that they are making use of the person's affection. Just because you made disclaimers doesn't really change the fact that he continues to hold a torch for you.
In a way, you took advantage of the situation and have selfishly made use of his emotions and willingness. But well, we are all adults. Both are willing.
There could be alot of factors why she rejected me.
1) I'm not her type.
2) She has someone else in mind.
Thanks for sharing. Yup, I dun rule out the fact that she goes out with me becuz she is bored. Or some other people will say maybe she likes me or watever. Different people have different ways of looking at things. If we can really know what a person is thinking, then I think we will not have this forum liao. Haha.
Yes milo, There nothing fair abt this thing. I am a willing party. No regrets.
Continue to try. If she's worth anything, she is worth trying for. But by trying i mean you've to push the boundary all the time... Stand up n b counted, make known your intentions, don't play pretend as just a friend. Grab her hand or waist when you cross the road. Hug. Expect her company on valentines. She may decide she won't want to date you anymore. Or she may decide to accept you. Either way you will know soon.
sianz81 u now 29 already correct? the lady how old? another guy in her mind?
what freaking wasting your bloody time. if u 22 then u can take time to get her back, if failed still got time to find another girl.
but now u old already. if she don't want u, going to waste another 5 years find gf? or is your look easy get girls? remember when u older your hair will bald and harder to get chio bu . next time no choice gotta marry those rejects... haiz...