inspectorate
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Anyone care to start the ball rolling....???
What makes you happy in a marriage once the honeymoon is over?
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occasional surprises for me from hubby and for hubby from me...
this usually happens only on special occasions though but on a daily basis, him being attentive to me will make me happy and as his wife, i will reciprocate and do even better! seeing him happy makes me happy too!
but that's because i'm a newly wed ba..maybe those we had married a few or many years can also share?
this usually happens only on special occasions though but on a daily basis, him being attentive to me will make me happy and as his wife, i will reciprocate and do even better! seeing him happy makes me happy too!
but that's because i'm a newly wed ba..maybe those we had married a few or many years can also share?
miloice
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Building the next honeymoon together.
Frankly, its a constant effort and commitment needed by both parties to create new sparks in the marriage. Main thing is don't spoil your own market trying to 'perform' beyond your capability. You will not be able to sustain this kind of standard.
Rather, work on keeping expectations in check. Most disappointments in relationships are not because we didn't do enough. We just expect too much. We enjoy the pamperings by our partners so much more when we are not waiting and expecting it to be given.
Frankly, its a constant effort and commitment needed by both parties to create new sparks in the marriage. Main thing is don't spoil your own market trying to 'perform' beyond your capability. You will not be able to sustain this kind of standard.
Rather, work on keeping expectations in check. Most disappointments in relationships are not because we didn't do enough. We just expect too much. We enjoy the pamperings by our partners so much more when we are not waiting and expecting it to be given.
the thoughts of spending my time with her, day in and day out.
imptly, dun take your partner for granted... dun take your marriage for granted... dun take his/her good points for granted.
love and support each other for the good times and bad times. the subsequent happy stuffs shld just gradually surface..
imptly, dun take your partner for granted... dun take your marriage for granted... dun take his/her good points for granted.
love and support each other for the good times and bad times. the subsequent happy stuffs shld just gradually surface..
saggitarian
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so meaning marriage happiness is honeymoon and nothing else ?
sunshinepeach
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Hw abt trying for a BB? Hubby and I are trying for 1.. The thought of it never fails to brighten up my day.. thinking tat we are gng to build a family 2gether..
Hi qwerty,
it really depends on how the couple similarly views Marriage Happiness, right? I've said my own piece in here liao .
But i know that some wives won't be happy without an overseas trip per year; some hubbies won't be happy without his usual buddies' gathering 2x per week... that sort of stuffs.
Definitely, having both to understand and work on the common goals and each individual's reasonable needs are crucial to obtain a happy life together.
it really depends on how the couple similarly views Marriage Happiness, right? I've said my own piece in here liao .
But i know that some wives won't be happy without an overseas trip per year; some hubbies won't be happy without his usual buddies' gathering 2x per week... that sort of stuffs.
Definitely, having both to understand and work on the common goals and each individual's reasonable needs are crucial to obtain a happy life together.
sunshinepeach
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Yeah.. I agree with Roger!
Honeymoon need not be an overseas trip.. I guess just being happy doing things 2gther? Perhaps like whipping up a meal 2gether at home.. So, everyday can be a honeymoon even if it's at home.
Honeymoon need not be an overseas trip.. I guess just being happy doing things 2gther? Perhaps like whipping up a meal 2gether at home.. So, everyday can be a honeymoon even if it's at home.
Mmm... cho... those 3 things u said, sounds like what girls would like to do to show care, but actually I thought perhaps guys might not care too much for such things. plus the soccer part... i think he would rather watch alone without the baggage! =D Well I can't really say for all of cos...
sunshinepeach
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Actually, i am quite guilty abt the care part.. my hubby always ask me to watch soccer wif him during weekends.. but i rather stay in my room and ZZzzZZZZzzz.. LOL
Actually, whatever Cho mentioned in her post above, I actually did all that...
Sometimes, my HB will prepare the toothbrushes and sometimes it will be me...
he can put the clothes in the washing machine and I will hang them up...
Watching soccer with him can be fun...
He dozes off at times and I can tell him the score...
It all depends on individuals...
there's sure something you will do for your HB/wife.
Sometimes, my HB will prepare the toothbrushes and sometimes it will be me...
he can put the clothes in the washing machine and I will hang them up...
Watching soccer with him can be fun...
He dozes off at times and I can tell him the score...
It all depends on individuals...
there's sure something you will do for your HB/wife.
in addition to wat koikoi has mentioned, recently we have been trying to hav plans for more home-cooked meals.. ard 3-4 times a week to cook and dine in at home..
so tat when we do grocery shopping on sundays, at least we hav e weekend to plan out wat dishes to eat, wat new recipes to try.. in a way, having more meals at home, makes e house feel more like a "home" rather than a place we return to aft work to slep..
so tat when we do grocery shopping on sundays, at least we hav e weekend to plan out wat dishes to eat, wat new recipes to try.. in a way, having more meals at home, makes e house feel more like a "home" rather than a place we return to aft work to slep..
I think the best way to remain in love is to better yourself everyday, always wanting to learn something new, try something different... if each person can tell him/herself that he will be healthier, wiser etc. tomorrow than today, there's really little reason to fall out of love.
In the first place, we fell in love because someone impressed us, and this same person made us feel we impressed them. What better method than the original method...
In the first place, we fell in love because someone impressed us, and this same person made us feel we impressed them. What better method than the original method...
princesshappy
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I guess to me, being happy in any relationship, is to be able to just be there for the person. In my case, we are just both very simple people. Just being there for him, listening to him, talking to him, hugging him or just simply sending him a sms to show that i care, will make him feel happy and safe. same goes for me.of cos there are times where we get bored too, so we try to do different things like playing board games, going for walks after dinner, cooking meals ( we seldom cook), go to places that we don't usually go and etc. i think it is also to try to do different things, so that life is spiced up and not routine. so far, i know that just being there for him, letting him know that you love him and care for him, is the very basic in order for couples to be happy for a whole lifetime. do not let them think or discover that you have taken the other party for granted.