occasional surprises for me from hubby and for hubby from me...
this usually happens only on special occasions though but on a daily basis, him being attentive to me will make me happy and as his wife, i will reciprocate and do even better! seeing him happy makes me happy too!
but that's because i'm a newly wed ba..maybe those we had married a few or many years can also share?
Frankly, its a constant effort and commitment needed by both parties to create new sparks in the marriage. Main thing is don't spoil your own market trying to 'perform' beyond your capability. You will not be able to sustain this kind of standard.
Rather, work on keeping expectations in check. Most disappointments in relationships are not because we didn't do enough. We just expect too much. We enjoy the pamperings by our partners so much more when we are not waiting and expecting it to be given.
Mmm... cho... those 3 things u said, sounds like what girls would like to do to show care, but actually I thought perhaps guys might not care too much for such things. plus the soccer part... i think he would rather watch alone without the baggage! =D Well I can't really say for all of cos...
in addition to wat koikoi has mentioned, recently we have been trying to hav plans for more home-cooked meals.. ard 3-4 times a week to cook and dine in at home..
so tat when we do grocery shopping on sundays, at least we hav e weekend to plan out wat dishes to eat, wat new recipes to try.. in a way, having more meals at home, makes e house feel more like a "home" rather than a place we return to aft work to slep..
I think the best way to remain in love is to better yourself everyday, always wanting to learn something new, try something different... if each person can tell him/herself that he will be healthier, wiser etc. tomorrow than today, there's really little reason to fall out of love.
In the first place, we fell in love because someone impressed us, and this same person made us feel we impressed them. What better method than the original method...
I guess to me, being happy in any relationship, is to be able to just be there for the person. In my case, we are just both very simple people. Just being there for him, listening to him, talking to him, hugging him or just simply sending him a sms to show that i care, will make him feel happy and safe. same goes for me.of cos there are times where we get bored too, so we try to do different things like playing board games, going for walks after dinner, cooking meals ( we seldom cook), go to places that we don't usually go and etc. i think it is also to try to do different things, so that life is spiced up and not routine. so far, i know that just being there for him, letting him know that you love him and care for him, is the very basic in order for couples to be happy for a whole lifetime. do not let them think or discover that you have taken the other party for granted.