What if your immed boss is such a person...

[hopeforpeace]

just knew my immed boss is a 2 headed snake. With us friend-friend, with our dept head bad-mouthed all the staff, incl me. Now our dept head only believes in her that she is the only one that is working in the whole dept. if we so called " can't make it",she should say out during the appraisal so that we are aware our weakness and improve on them and not stab behind our back.

I seldom bother her with my work. I also on her list. I hate such Hypocrite.

 

[phantazia]

YM, if boss are not like that, they won't be your boss lor...juz chill it. You boss is a female afterall.

 

[ajumma]

be more careful and watch ur back... some supervisors r like that cos they want to get into the good books of the dept head...

 

[denise80]

YM, there's a reason why she's your immed boss.
With you ppl, she has to be diplomatic and careful but with the dept head, she could be very candid and honest with her appraisal of u all. I think this is very normal and I'm not sure why you would think she's a hypocrite. This is a workplace, not a classroom about friendships. Would you prefer then to have someone who's very direct with you and who tells you that ur work is downright lousy and that you're incompetent? If she does that, she's a lousy boss then even if you are such a worker because she doesn't know how to put across such messages in a more effective manner that doesn't hurt others. Of course, that being said, she has to learn how to tell you guys the same messages in a subtle manner. But trust me, sometimes it's just hard to tell your ppl messages like the above.

 

[orchids]

If your dept head only believes her, your dept head is also a problem for the rest of the workers isn't it? She's biased, and concludes based on 1-sided hearsay and from 1 source only.

 

[mrs_beast]

boss are like that , can be very helpful / motherly infront of you, but say alot of nasty things behind yr back, trust me, my boss is like that too. time will tell the truth, don bother with her. Just do your part. LIke what Denise80 says, this is not a classroom, ppl like these are eveywhere. Just be careful.

 

[hopeforpeace]

hi all, thanks. I know and I will be careful.

Denise80, we do everything together - outing, lunch, sharing our problems etc for few years. Definitely this relationship is beyond diplomatic. Of cos, I dun blame her for being candid in front of our dept head, but what if it is a frequent complaint session with our dept head? when we only fault once, she deems that we are forever like that. This is not fair to staff, as our direct head, she should let us know first, giving us a chance to improve our ourselves, othewise what is appraisal session. Now our dept head has the impression that we are not assets to company but turning to liabilities. She has no issue wishing us to leave anytime.

once, my ex-direct head, told her her inner thought, the next moment, my ex-head was called in to the dept head, in the end, my ex-head had to tender. I knew during a recent dinner with my ex-direct head.

 

[mrs_beast]

Never share yr secrets etc with your colleagues, esp yr superior, you never know when you will be betrayed..

 

[yongqin]

female boss are scary, especially those not married at 30+ onwards. No offence here, just my past experience. I know there is a very typical 'aunty' colleague at my wkplc whom worked here for 20yrs liao, very typical. Always talk about her house issues on phone at wkplc. Does all those senior 'aunties' does that at wkplace?

 

[s0litude]

my dept head is also one of such kind..hypocrite..but my immediate boss (mgr) is another screw loose man..driving me crazy

 

[denise80]

YM, I believe you can still do something that's within your capacity. Either move on or report on her. Why would you want to stay on in a company like this? What are your chances of progression?

Anyway these ppl are lurking everywhere. In case you ask how I dealt with it. I usually play the game first. Yes, that means pandering to their whims and fancies and once I gain a little more power or get closer to ppl above her, I'll bypass her and it's my turn to rat on her. Simple as that. Of course, work is not all about being scheming and cunning. I still do my best and uphold my personal value and principles..just that when it comes to office politics, you must know how to deal with them strategically. I haven't asked for how long have you worked because I think the more experience you have, the easier it'll be for you to know how to deal with such situations. Anyway, if it's really beyond my power, I'll ask for a transfer or I'll find an opportunity to exit and move to somewhere better.

Yongqin, I don't believe that female bosses are necessarily more scary than male ones. The main differences between male and female bosses reside in their ways of communication and the way they go about monitoring work progresses. The male bosses usually don't go into details and are more result-oriented. They don't care how you get to Rome, so long you get to Rome. They are less emotional at work. This can be good and can be bad. You almost can't tell from the facial expression till the day you're dismissed for instance. The female bosses on the other hand focuses on details and really go into depth. This is not to say they aren't result-oriented but they generally prefer to have a sense of what's going on in every area and aspect. In terms of communication, they are more expressive and perhaps 'cutting with words'. Again, there are many different types of bosses and they can't be simply classified or stereotyped because of their gender differences.

 

[texasholdem]

ways to make life easier is to make him dont exist anymore

 

[the_giving_tree]

Welcome to the working world. The trick is to know how to play the games but not sacrifice your principles. Now that you know your boss is like that, you should be careful about what you share with her. You should maintain the relationship on a professional/working relationship level and not treat her as a confidante or close friend. And when you've put in an effort in a project, make sure higher management knows about it - in subtle ways. There are lots of books out there on how to work with difficult bosses or how to handle office politics. Go and buy one and read.

 

[bedokboy]

for me, given a choice between an 'auntie' boss and a superwoman boss, I prefer the former.

The former at least has no issues, just want to pay the bills, survive, and go home after 6pm.

The superwoman boss will watch every corner and every move u make will be psycho-analysed to death. Very hard to work like that.

Sigh.

 

[denise80]

Bedokboy,

interestingly, I would pick the superwoman boss because I would admire her finesse and abilities and could learn something from her. In fact, I would look up to her a lot. On the contrary, I don't like Auntie bosses because I feel they may not be objective at work somehow.

 

[yongqin]

my current male boss is extremely negative & naggy, i just joined for 3mths. My coll mentioned since day one my coll joined (17yrs ago), he has been like that, always sighed. Maybe 17dyrs ago is too extravagant, but i believe my coll meant he has been like this since long long ago, i always heard my boss sighing & complaining. I nvr seem to see him smile happily also. This male boss is just the oppposite of wat denise80 described, he is very details in doing things.