closet_outpour
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Hi all,
I would like to ask all married/soon-to-be married couples out there how do you set up a home together? Before my bf proposed, he told me previously that he would pay for all the household and grocery bills. Now he's telling me that we should have a joint account, and use this joint account to pay for all the bills. I agree for big purchase items like furnishing, we can split the cost. However, I hate to "see" myself chewing on an apple, knowing in mind that half is paid by him and half by me.
I don't expect him to pay for meals all the time. I do chip in appropriately and he appreciates the fact. Money is very dear to him and to be honest, he hardly sends me home after our dates, let alone take a cab and send me home after a late nite. He'd rather place his money in stocks and shares.
Since preparing for marriage, we have gotten into many arguments especially the part of finances. He's earning more than me.. easily 1.3K more.. lives in a condo and has lesser financial commitments than me. Majority of my male friends and colleagues told me that guys usually pay for the household expenses and some even give their wives a monthly allowance.
I know I have to be very independent in our marriage as he is not known to be a generous guy. Some of my cousins' husbands will not hestitate to buy their in-laws stuff nor bring them out for a meal.
One day, he was asking me what I'll expect for the bridal jewellery. I mentioned that it's usually up to the MIL, what they would like to give their DIL. In most cases, it'll be the MIL will give the DIL a budget and she'll then choose. That's what most of my friends told me... some of them don't have very rich in-laws, but it's the sincerity that counts. Do you know how he replied me... I don't think my mother got money. She'll probably give you from her collection (i recokn it's those obiang kind). Don't you all think it's absurb that such statements are made when the family is buying condo and shares for investment.
When I relate this story to my family and friends, they conclude that he's a very calculative and miser guy. Do you think such a guy is ready to start a family?
I'm stuck at the moment as we have purchased a DBSS flat.What are the consequences if we were to give that up. About 20% (close to 100K) has been poured out already.
Please enlighten me!
I would like to ask all married/soon-to-be married couples out there how do you set up a home together? Before my bf proposed, he told me previously that he would pay for all the household and grocery bills. Now he's telling me that we should have a joint account, and use this joint account to pay for all the bills. I agree for big purchase items like furnishing, we can split the cost. However, I hate to "see" myself chewing on an apple, knowing in mind that half is paid by him and half by me.
I don't expect him to pay for meals all the time. I do chip in appropriately and he appreciates the fact. Money is very dear to him and to be honest, he hardly sends me home after our dates, let alone take a cab and send me home after a late nite. He'd rather place his money in stocks and shares.
Since preparing for marriage, we have gotten into many arguments especially the part of finances. He's earning more than me.. easily 1.3K more.. lives in a condo and has lesser financial commitments than me. Majority of my male friends and colleagues told me that guys usually pay for the household expenses and some even give their wives a monthly allowance.
I know I have to be very independent in our marriage as he is not known to be a generous guy. Some of my cousins' husbands will not hestitate to buy their in-laws stuff nor bring them out for a meal.
One day, he was asking me what I'll expect for the bridal jewellery. I mentioned that it's usually up to the MIL, what they would like to give their DIL. In most cases, it'll be the MIL will give the DIL a budget and she'll then choose. That's what most of my friends told me... some of them don't have very rich in-laws, but it's the sincerity that counts. Do you know how he replied me... I don't think my mother got money. She'll probably give you from her collection (i recokn it's those obiang kind). Don't you all think it's absurb that such statements are made when the family is buying condo and shares for investment.
When I relate this story to my family and friends, they conclude that he's a very calculative and miser guy. Do you think such a guy is ready to start a family?
I'm stuck at the moment as we have purchased a DBSS flat.What are the consequences if we were to give that up. About 20% (close to 100K) has been poured out already.
Please enlighten me!