Unreasonable Sisters-in-laws!

iamviv

New Member
My bf and me are getting ROM in a few months time.
His sisters started sms-ing him bad stuff abt me, insulting me, now, they even insulted my family's backgrd even though they have not met my parents before!
They've been objecting to us being together and has been insulting me time and again!

I'm hurt and noe at this moment, I dun wan such in-laws cos they are too barbarians.

But I also noe I need to learn to let go so my hubby do not need to be stuck as sandwich.

But its v tough.

What should I do?
 


clipperjunk

New Member
oops...anything to learn here is that having good or at least reasonable in-laws should be one of the key criterion to choosing a life partner...it can be hellish if not dealt before...perhaps you can find out what led to their dislike...you may be oblivious that you might have inadvertently offended them in some ways....
 

shatterheart

New Member
rainbow s long u n hb nt staying togethe wth d in-law then dun bother important hb nvr make fuss on u. u married to hb nt their family.... u can let yr hb knw since they dun like u thn u auto distance to them.
 

koikoi

New Member
hans,

you got it all wrong...
You married someone, not only him/her, but the whole lot of his family...
 

mrc

New Member
Rainbow
If you dunno the reason y they hate you, you should ask your bf for the reason. At least you may knw what goes wrong and how to amend the conflicts.
 

sunboi80

Member
I agree with koi koi too...
but for MRC's comments i think it will be tough... if they are prejudiced against u they can come up with 101 things to be unhappy about u... they can make a molehill into a mountain...

Personally, if u can bear with it, just dun bother abt them, time will prove that u aren't as bad as they think, just do wat u have to do as long as it doesn't betray ur conscience...
 

flowerygal

New Member
Rainbow,
You have to decide carefully again & again. Do not live to regret. Chose your partner wisely, not just based on him, but his family as well. Your fiance has to be on your side too. If he is closer to them, perhaps it is to your disadvantage and you will lose out. Do you want such partner for life? Wait end up alot of quarrels btw both of you & become so unhappy. Married couple are supposed to be together for a lifetime. Sometimes we all think that with time, situation may change for the better, but is that true for all?

It is scary to have future inlaws to speak ill of you before marrying. What will happen after that? I have no idea what did they say about you, care to share with us?
 

iamviv

New Member
thanks for all these wonderful advices
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my hubby is on my side but i also noe i still haf to face his family once a while even though we aint staying tog.
we both do not noe the reason y they dislike me. they juz kept commenting tat we need to date at least 2yrs. so she kept asking him to gimme time to show my true colours!
I was like... wth?
 

iamviv

New Member
flowergal...

they said ive no value and my family bkgrd cant be good. cos im desperate to married off =(
previously, his another sis ady said some nasty stuff abt me, in front of me n my bf =(

den i never met them since.

but they juz cont to sms all those nasty stuffs which is not only hurting me, but hurting my bf as well.
 

iamviv

New Member
Dana,

we never quarrel in front of them before. the only reason i can think of is perhaps they still prefer his ex gf, since they've been together for many yrs.
each time i see such nasty sms from her, my heart breaks. it's too insulting...
n i'm v glad that my bf still stand by my side and protects me whenever he can.
ya, all my best friends are telling me to ignore all their nonsense and keep a distance. just 'wayang' to them if needed, such as cny visiting?

this is v shitty. cos the sis who said the most nasty things only met me once. from day one till the last time i went over to his plc, i din act like a guest. still help his mum to wash all dishes which i dun even do such chores at home! i cant tell my mum all these cos i scare she will worry.

i can only learn to ignore all these nonsense which i believe i'll be better in time. =)
 

cuclainne

New Member
rainbow, then your SILs can marry your HTB's ex la .. sometimes some people just take a longer time to warm up to others but your SILs take the cake.

when my husband and i first started dating, he too had just come out from a long-term relationship. initially his siblings, particularly his sister, didn't know what to do with me ie didn't talk to me much etc but i put it as a language barrier. my SIL even went with us when my FIL sent us back to our apartment - i knew she was checking me out.

the husband told me that she was particularly close to his ex, and his mother was too but his mother was nothing but lovely to me and after a while, my SIL warmed up to me .. now even my BIL who used to just keep quiet when he sits next to me, can talk at length.

maybe you just need to persevere and things might change or they won't so then you just have to be prepared to take things as they come.
 

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