Can I check, the pin jing is given by your husband to be or your husband to be parents?
My parents just met my future in laws to discuss about Pin Jin of $3,888 and others 过大礼stuff. My HTB requested to be for a solid gold gifts from my parents which they did agree.
Everything turned out to be fine after the meet up.
Then towards evening, I received nasty messages from HTB and he even threaten that what my parents asked for is too much and sounds like they are selling me away.
Here are the details of what my parents asked for:
$3888 ( eventually return everything to him)
6 cans of pig trotter
四点金（which his parents were the one who initiated to give and they say is a must)
10 tables (fully paid by me and hongbao will be used to foot the bill for the banquet, it has been made known to my FIL)
Is my parent asking for too much??
Estimated $1600 +++ per table and I'm paying 10 tables on my own.
I think I did not mention one point is, the guy side only need 6 tables n he is only paying for those tables, they want us to take the remaining, which are 10 tables. So we are actually helping them. They are not happy because they need to give those 四点金，6 oranges, cans of pig trotter and pin jin ( which my parents told them will return to them when 回礼）
His parents are not going to give up, they want us to go to their house and apologies and now want us to foot the bill for their 6 tables!!! They are selling their Son?
My htb, both my in laws and my own parents are super non- traditional.. It seems like I'm the only one who is trying to do it the traditional way.. Don't think my in-laws would wan to spend the effort to GDL also.. And my mum doesn't seems to have plans to ask for pinjin.. But from my personal views, I feel she should at least ask for something.. How should I nudge everyone to follow the traditions? would it be weird for me to ask for pinjin?
In the beginning, I knew my mom would be expecting this so to make it simple - I removed the chinese customary to make it less complicated. Sometimes, you really need to understand how to tackle with your parents. I personally believe a marriage is the unity of two but when two families come together, it become complicated. Ultimately, it depend how yoy want your wedding to be.
Great idea! Hubby's side ok with it?
We do the chinese customary is for them as a respect. But they just take advantage and make it look like selling off daughter!