Threesome

Discussion in 'Matters Of The Heart' started by adventurous, Aug 31, 2007.

  1. adventurous

    adventurous New Member

    What do you guys think of it? Will you accept if your partner ask for it?
     


  2. green_tranquility

    green_tranquility New Member

    No way...call me selfish haha.
     
  3. idealone

    idealone Member

    it depends on individual. see if you are libral and advanturous enough.
     
  4. ace14

    ace14 New Member

  5. dreamster

    dreamster New Member

    Partner ever has such thoughts but likely not possible. I m not even willing to share him with someone else, wat more a 3some.
     
  6. hunky

    hunky New Member

    PinkyDy,

    What if he is willing to share you with someone else in return for similar favor ? Maybe like with another couple ?
     
  7. sgbabydoll

    sgbabydoll Active Member

    Isn't it less complicated to be in a threesome with two other unrelated people?
     
  8. babygoh

    babygoh New Member

    hmm i guess better not cos you may feel awakard after that i believe it like having something against the nature feeling. no offense to anyone.
     
  9. vios

    vios New Member

    If my partner asks for it, I believe i'll not only reject her instantly but will also evaluate our r/s.
    And, i can't comprehend the mentality of swinging couples (no pun intended) - the thrills of watching their love ones get shagged? - cos' i'm very certain that i won't suggest a threesome or foursome myself.


    Cheers
     
  10. ribenagr8s

    ribenagr8s New Member

    I am just wondering.
    Most guys have fantasies about a threesome. But dont they like 2 men and 1 woman? hahhahaah
     
  11. cuclainne

    cuclainne New Member

    well, most swinging couples believe that it is only one of the roles that they are playing - they will set some rules like you may shag whoever you like but then away from the party, you must not disrespect your partner by continuing an affair with someone you met at a party, etc.

    when most guys fantasise about threesomes, it is usually 2 women and 1 guy .. seldom 2 men and 1 woman because they don't want to feel like it's a competition (in size) and they want to be the sole attraction.
     
  12. idealone

    idealone Member

    sometimes it's 1 woman many men... it's also considered swinging.

    Anyone knows if swinging is illigal in SG? It's not illigal in Korea and they are doing it like it's a Fad now...

    6000+ couples in a club and there are many clubs pertaining to swinging there.
     
  13. cuclainne

    cuclainne New Member

    that is gang bang la ..

    swinging is such an underground thing - you need to know people to be invited to such things. those people who post publicly for others to join them are amateurs - no class.
     
  14. vios

    vios New Member

    Hi cuclainne, this is the part which i couldn't fathom ,"they will set some rules like you may shag whoever you like."
    Not much of a doubt they love their wives/hubbies, but the irony is that, they are totally cool to trade their love one for another in such a party - albeit willingly for both.

    I don't mean to be ignorant, but what is the rationale of 'swinging'? As i put it earlier, the thrill of watching your wife/hubby get screwed?
     
  15. cuclainne

    cuclainne New Member

    they don't see it as trading their love - they see it as showing their love to their partners by allowing them to participate. they don't equate the sex at these sessions as making love to someone you feel for .. to them, it's just sex - no strings attached.

    well, some people do get the thrill from watching - voyeurism - but some people do it because they feel it's the only way to allow their partners to live out their fantasy within their set of rules (no continuation outside of session, etc). maybe one guy's wife fantasises about gang bang but he's not willing to participate so he allows her to do this while he does his own fantasy - maybe he has a foot fetish while she finds it disgusting so she's only too happy to let him find someone to do this to.
     
  16. idealone

    idealone Member

    both parties have to be liberal to accept swinging. In our conservative society, those who actively participates in swinging only forms a very small community and usually they know one another and swings frequently with each other.

    You can ask your partner but not to the extend of forcing if not the relationship will be strained. My ex was into swinging but i was not and thus we broke off.

    After that, i got hooked on it. ha ha opps
     
  17. hunky

    hunky New Member

    sgbabydoll, usually it take time to be comfortable with another person/couple before any threesome activities.. if it was stranger then more of ONS

    Hi cuclainne, you explained it well.. :)

    Roger, once you are hooked it will be hard to stop it.. hahaha
     
  18. vios

    vios New Member

    Hi all, i read this article some time back, and managed to trace it.. yes, about the swinging scene in singapore.

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    Swingers swap sex partners in prudish Singapore
    By Wee Sui Lee

    SINGAPORE, Nov 24 (Reuters) - Every two months, dozens of couples meet in a pub in Singapore, have drinks, mingle, and then decide whether they want to sleep with one another.

    In Sydney or Seattle nobody would bat an eyelid, but the couples are part of a thriving underground swinging scene that is an anomaly for a country where oral sex is illegal and Playboy magazine is banned.

    There are more than 10 swingers clubs in Singapore, most of them private, some of them online. With more than 6,000 members, the Web-based United SG Swingers is one of the biggest. “There are a lot more people that are open to the idea. It’s so widespread now,†said a 42-year-old Singaporean company executive who only wanted to be identified as Jack.

    “Swinging is all about sex. It’s satisfying the urge to have casual sex and doing it with somebody you’re comfortable with,†said Jack, who has been swinging for 10 years.

    For all their enthusiasm, few swingers tell family and friends about their lifestyle, although the practice is not illegal in Singapore.

    “In Singapore, most people will perceive us as perverts,†said a 39-year-old publisher who has been swinging for five years. “Look at our government policies, they say: ‘Let’s open up.’ But our policies have always remained very conservative.â€

    Wealthy Singapore, which has consistently ranked near the bottom in a global survey of sexually active nations, has been struggling to shake off its reputation for prudishness.

    On Friday, it opened Sexpo 2006, the country’s second sex exhibition, featuring an array of toys and seminars.

    SINGAPORE SWING

    At United SG Swingers, people share erotic photographs, exchange personal ads and correspond about the next gathering. It is a close-knit community in which couples recommend good sex partners and criticise those who aren’t.

    A police spokesman confirmed that swinging is not illegal as long as it is done behind closed doors, is consensual and no money changes hands.

    This year, the organizers of United SG Swingers started holding “on premise†parties, where couples can engage in group sex in houses and hotel rooms across Singapore.

    At these parties, the bedrooms have a strict clothes-off rule and the “hard swingers†can engage in partner swapping. The “soft swingers†are couples who stand around and watch, or have sex with their own partners in full view of others.

    Couples who swing say that seeing their own partners in action keeps their passion burning.

    “It’s like looking at cake and wanting to eat it,†said the main organiser of United SG Swingers, 37-year-old IT specialist Josh, as his 32-year-old wife nodded in agreement.

    But some swingers disapprove of these parties, saying they can degenerate into orgies.

    “You can’t establish pure friendships when there’s a large group,†said Ishak. “Genuine swingers would want to establish trust — you can’t trust a person just by meeting them one time and then think they can do it with your wife.â€

    A 34-year-old Australian who attends swinging parties told Reuters that Singapore’s scene is just evolving.

    “It’s very innocuous here, it’s not like other countries,†he said. “Compared to Australia and Europe, it’s more discreet and less lively. Singaporeans are pretty reserved in a lot of ways.â€
     
  19. idealone

    idealone Member

    yes... thats the article... ha ha for people who are looking for the site, well it was closed down and moved elsewhere.

    For starters, it might help to loosen things up by having sex in the same room being watched or watching others. : )
     
  20. hunky

    hunky New Member

    Yup it made it to the news, after that attracted many curious people to the forum and messing up the whole place with funny posts. Having to close it down and now on a restricted access...
     
  21. vios

    vios New Member

    Whatever the case, it is still better to talk about sexual compatibility before marriage. Those who are against/not into threesome,swinging,etc. (eg.me!) would perhaps find someone of the same values.
     
  22. green_tranquility

    green_tranquility New Member

    Some couples can handle swinging well. Some couples don't due to trust issues, and it leads to separations. I learn it from articles about swinging clubs.
     
  23. oveydovey

    oveydovey New Member

    seems like swinging is really evolving .. HERWORLD also talks about it , the husband ask the wife to joiN in the swinging thing and then later calls her a slut ...
     
  24. hunky

    hunky New Member

    OveyDovey, now herworld also talks about it liao.. hahaha.. like that the husband not right la.. ask wife to join then later called her slut..
     
  25. oveydovey

    oveydovey New Member

    Yup Hunky even HER WORLD ... but purpose is not to promote swinging but to highlight to girls we should not be submissive to unreasonable requests.

    Can a guy still say he loves his partner be it gf / wife if he have casual sex / swinging outside ?
     
  26. hunky

    hunky New Member

    this is a subjective qn and it can be done if both of them really into it, and have to be very clear.
     
  27. cuclainne

    cuclainne New Member

    i think swinging is more acceptable in a western society where they think openly about matters like these - examples such as they don't care how many partners their SO have had, same sex couples having same rights as heterosexual couples, etc .. in an asian society, the guy might be willing to explore out of curiosity and can persuade his partner to participate but in the end, his partner is only meant for him and in this instance, having seen her been touched (amongst other things) by other man/men has triggered this reaction.
     
  28. hunky

    hunky New Member

    well cuclainne, you will be surprised that asian is picking up too.. there will be western guy and asian gf, also having just asian couples only
     
  29. crazytots

    crazytots New Member

    actually it's really hard for me to think a girl would want to share her hubby with another woman/man so as to swing????!!!! It's usually the guy who would suggest such an "interesting" activity.Then since the girl loves the guy, she decided to give in to his request. sigh.....
     
  30. hunky

    hunky New Member

    OveyDovey,

    definitely will have problem if the girl is just being submissive and not her own desire to try it out..
     
  31. hunky

    hunky New Member

    crazytots, yup this will be the usual perception cause guys more horny.. haha..
     
  32. crazytots

    crazytots New Member

    hi hunky, it's true!! ha!ha!
     
  33. hunky

    hunky New Member

    crazytots but it is also true that ger are as horny too.. hahaha.. just some nver show it.. right ?
     
  34. crazytots

    crazytots New Member

    a well-bred lady never shows! ha!ha!
     
  35. hunky

    hunky New Member

    well bred will only shows after in the bed right ? haha
     
  36. crazytots

    crazytots New Member

    well-bred lady is to the outside world. horny lady is just to show to partner!
     
  37. hunky

    hunky New Member

    crazytots, yes that usually the case... looks dainty and well behave on the external and one hot and horny one later.. haha
     
  38. sgbabydoll

    sgbabydoll Active Member

    Woah, crazytots, my sentiments exactly. Be a slut in bed for your SO ONLY.
     
  39. iamme

    iamme New Member

    AIDS on the climb.. Better to just leave it as a fantasy.. [​IMG]
     
  40. jessxian

    jessxian Member

    erm...i dun understand...shouldnt sex be a sacred thing to be done with 2 person who is in love to improve the r/s? what is the world coming to with pple agreeing on threesome n gangbangs n even homo or bisexual...sorry to say, call me old fashion, but i definitely 100% guarantee oppose to this kind of thing...where all the morals gone to...? offering sex to strangers for free? worse than prostitute...why ruin oneself like this...wat if someday u meet a guy who truly loves u but know of yr past, altough we would say if he love her he shldnt mind the past, but would anyone feel gd bout his spouse or her spouse doing this? jus my 2 cents
     
  41. madi

    madi New Member

    Hi Jess,
    The world is open now. Many are using this to try out different road not travelled. I am not promoting this act, but could see this trend coming...
     
  42. madi

    madi New Member

    -- double post --
     
  43. idealone

    idealone Member

    not everybody is as conservative as you jess, True, swinging is not the normal course of route but many inventors did not follow the normal course of route and thus invented something new.

    Wat I meant is that we are humans and humans push on new frontiers. So it's normal that some bolder ones and more open minded ones will be willing to try new experiences.

    It would be a boring world if everyone follow the route and live the life millions had lived and died. Jus be another boring person in this world with no new experiences what so ever.

    Of cos, swinging is jus one example. We can also indulge in other things that spice up our life.
     
  44. oveydovey

    oveydovey New Member

    Just be responsible for your own actions loh & whatever it is do not result in any consequences that would make you have any reGrets. Life is short , enjoy the jOurNey.
     
  45. oveydovey

    oveydovey New Member

    O Priscilla .. notice you are "adventurous" so would you be able to accept it ?
     
  46. sgbabydoll

    sgbabydoll Active Member

    oveydovey, who is Priscilla?
     
  47. dead_heart

    dead_heart New Member

    priscilla is the thread starter
     
  48. idealone

    idealone Member

    thread starter with nothing to say. Maybe her SO ask her to join a threesome sesson ba. And she is confused so wanted to see how many of us here actually advocate this activity.
     
  49. hunky

    hunky New Member

    ya priscilla must be action in threesome now and MIA here..haha
     
  50. vixie

    vixie New Member

    i think, to each his own. everybody has their own indulgences. but partner should not force you into taking part if u dun fancy.
     

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