funtasty_funtasty
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I'm getting married next month and recently, I had a chat with my gal fren on household expenses..
Gal fren ask if I'll be contributing to it. I said, yes of course! I'm sharing the reno loan together with HTB and we have both agreed to contribute a same amount of money to what we call "household fund"...we even opened a joint account for this so that each can have a atm card link to this account...so, we'll use this to pay for watever we get for the house plus the bills..
Then my fren stopped me :"hello..why must you pay for half of the household expenses? He is marrying you, he should be paying for all these..you shd keep all ur money for urself..if you want, juz buy some bread, detergent etc..those small things..but, dun pay for half"..
I was thinking, y not? We are going to build a family together, we shd share the burden...my fren's point is, guys must not have too much money with them. so the best is to make them pay for household stuff..she said, altho she is earning more than her HB, she nv split the cost with him.....and all her married frens are doing the same...
She keep reminding me that, he is marrying me into his family, not the other way...
Now, I dun understand...then, what is marriage for? not that I'm doubting myself..just dun understand others' mentality...
Gal fren ask if I'll be contributing to it. I said, yes of course! I'm sharing the reno loan together with HTB and we have both agreed to contribute a same amount of money to what we call "household fund"...we even opened a joint account for this so that each can have a atm card link to this account...so, we'll use this to pay for watever we get for the house plus the bills..
Then my fren stopped me :"hello..why must you pay for half of the household expenses? He is marrying you, he should be paying for all these..you shd keep all ur money for urself..if you want, juz buy some bread, detergent etc..those small things..but, dun pay for half"..
I was thinking, y not? We are going to build a family together, we shd share the burden...my fren's point is, guys must not have too much money with them. so the best is to make them pay for household stuff..she said, altho she is earning more than her HB, she nv split the cost with him.....and all her married frens are doing the same...
She keep reminding me that, he is marrying me into his family, not the other way...
Now, I dun understand...then, what is marriage for? not that I'm doubting myself..just dun understand others' mentality...