hi all...
I stumble upon this forum and was reading a few posts before signing up.
just wondering how do single mothers that arised from divorces get support and are there alot of stigma still when finding partner?
I am myself divorced mom. 2 kids. it's been 5 years since my divorce with my ex husband. since then I have been having a better life fortunately and I am very grateful everyday. have a good job and surrounded with good people and strong family ties. I live alone in my own abode,with a domestic helper to help me with the kids stuff while I work. everything is smooth... but when it comes to rs I found that while I am ready to settle down with my right level of maturity and expectations, many men out there are not. I have been in few rs where we broke up not by some arguments. the guys think I am great person.. but they let me go anyway (and they were crying because they felt so guilty)... because they are not ready for having me with the excess baggage. that made me sad and dissapointed. single guys,single dad, they all still want a no-baggage lady (be it divorce or single)... they told me it's gonna be hard to be having the family merged (then try lah..right.. why chicken out so fast while they have not even tried, I'm not giving up that easily).. but I do know also that ppl don't want to "fail again".
sometimes I regretted to enter any rs knowing it might ended for the same reason again.. but I told myself not to be skeptical. there might be always glimpse of hope and realising my long term goal of growing old together happily.
I am confused really... on surface I have been told by many people that I am very strong and a great woman. to be able to go thru the disastrous 12yrs with my ex,picked up myself and emerge threefold better. but is it? as much as I tell myself I am good alone.. sometimes all I want is someone I can love and love me back.that's all.
I stumble upon this forum and was reading a few posts before signing up.
just wondering how do single mothers that arised from divorces get support and are there alot of stigma still when finding partner?
I am myself divorced mom. 2 kids. it's been 5 years since my divorce with my ex husband. since then I have been having a better life fortunately and I am very grateful everyday. have a good job and surrounded with good people and strong family ties. I live alone in my own abode,with a domestic helper to help me with the kids stuff while I work. everything is smooth... but when it comes to rs I found that while I am ready to settle down with my right level of maturity and expectations, many men out there are not. I have been in few rs where we broke up not by some arguments. the guys think I am great person.. but they let me go anyway (and they were crying because they felt so guilty)... because they are not ready for having me with the excess baggage. that made me sad and dissapointed. single guys,single dad, they all still want a no-baggage lady (be it divorce or single)... they told me it's gonna be hard to be having the family merged (then try lah..right.. why chicken out so fast while they have not even tried, I'm not giving up that easily).. but I do know also that ppl don't want to "fail again".
sometimes I regretted to enter any rs knowing it might ended for the same reason again.. but I told myself not to be skeptical. there might be always glimpse of hope and realising my long term goal of growing old together happily.
I am confused really... on surface I have been told by many people that I am very strong and a great woman. to be able to go thru the disastrous 12yrs with my ex,picked up myself and emerge threefold better. but is it? as much as I tell myself I am good alone.. sometimes all I want is someone I can love and love me back.that's all.