Seperation, How to move on .......after 7 years of together + 7 years of marriages
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i guess regardless of the duration together n now if separated, just get on wif life coz its not gonna change anything
i can say that coz i'm going thru it too, not easy but surviving
altho it's not constructive to use work as an excuse, it actually works for me, otherwise go take up some new activities, always hang out wif frens
so take gd care of urself n always hav ur gd frens n family ard u, u'll b fine
i can say that coz i'm going thru it too, not easy but surviving
altho it's not constructive to use work as an excuse, it actually works for me, otherwise go take up some new activities, always hang out wif frens
so take gd care of urself n always hav ur gd frens n family ard u, u'll b fine
shyantiffy
New Member
aiya... when u opened up to other options (provided divorced wor) & found a better one.. u'll move on lo...
if cannot divorce... & wanna move on... den think better to find a way to communicate to solve things out.
my 2 cent worth..
if cannot divorce... & wanna move on... den think better to find a way to communicate to solve things out.
my 2 cent worth..
I know its very very hard, my previous relationship was 15 years, so can 'fight' with yours. its hard to handle in the beginnning, really really REALLY TOUGH... I cried almost everyday and after a few months still cried every other day, then as time goes by, the things that tringer tears lessen, and very slowly, your heart start to pick up the broken pieces and you will somehow know, you are ready to move on...
its a long and agonising process, I recovered with support of my family and good frens.. I always feel that while you lost some, you gain some. for my case, I rediscovered love from mother and siblings, and love from dear frens...
I hope you are not alone in this, anyway, you can always find support here
its a long and agonising process, I recovered with support of my family and good frens.. I always feel that while you lost some, you gain some. for my case, I rediscovered love from mother and siblings, and love from dear frens...
I hope you are not alone in this, anyway, you can always find support here
miko. It will take time.
But what is important is you must decide one day, to pick yourself up and decide to enjoy yourself instead of grieving over it and feeling sorry for yourself.
Those who have recovered and gone on to find new love are those who had decided. They may have taken 3 months, 6 months, 1 year, or even 3-5 years.
Because you must first learn to love yourself because you can love someone else fairly again. Besides, even if someone wants you now, it wouldn't be fair to him if you're still hung over your last relationship.
But what is important is you must decide one day, to pick yourself up and decide to enjoy yourself instead of grieving over it and feeling sorry for yourself.
Those who have recovered and gone on to find new love are those who had decided. They may have taken 3 months, 6 months, 1 year, or even 3-5 years.
Because you must first learn to love yourself because you can love someone else fairly again. Besides, even if someone wants you now, it wouldn't be fair to him if you're still hung over your last relationship.
The most important thing is to find things to do - be it a new hobby or new friends. Don't wallow in self pity. No matter how dark it is, the sun will tomorrow.
The going is tough but time will help.
I have been separated for the past 2 to 3 years after a 17 years marriage. So I know what you have been through. Hang in there. It will be better tomorrow.
The going is tough but time will help.
I have been separated for the past 2 to 3 years after a 17 years marriage. So I know what you have been through. Hang in there. It will be better tomorrow.
lynette_ling
New Member
Must take things easy. No matter how, life still goes on even though its tough. Just keep yourself happy and do whatever you want to make yourself happy. A good meal or a makeover can also do the trick.
Dear all,
Many thanks for all your sharings & encouragements.
Yap, Life still have to goes on...BUT it so so so tough !!!!!!...Hubby brought up the sepeatation issue in Jan...We went though 3 mths of counselling - Din help to reconcile although found out our underlaying problems...Counsellors said we went to her too late,
BUT i went straight to see her when i got the shocking intention news from my hubby to seperate...There is no 3rd party just that his love for me has died.
We have a lot of arguements last year OF his lack of time and attention to me...
He is a business man who need to travel a lot for his work
He said he cant inject intimacy into our marriage and he feel bad he cant give me love and his time anymore ......??????
I admitted my mistakes for marking some unreasonables demands and yelling at him BUT
He said he is demaged in this marriage.
I move back to my parent place since April to now
STILL cry Every day till now...
I still go to talk to the counsellor myself on the moving on path...SHE feel I am still Very Very unstable Cause I LOVE MY HUBBY TOO MUCH TO ACCEPT ......
Many thanks for all your sharings & encouragements.
Yap, Life still have to goes on...BUT it so so so tough !!!!!!...Hubby brought up the sepeatation issue in Jan...We went though 3 mths of counselling - Din help to reconcile although found out our underlaying problems...Counsellors said we went to her too late,
BUT i went straight to see her when i got the shocking intention news from my hubby to seperate...There is no 3rd party just that his love for me has died.
We have a lot of arguements last year OF his lack of time and attention to me...
He is a business man who need to travel a lot for his work
He said he cant inject intimacy into our marriage and he feel bad he cant give me love and his time anymore ......??????
I admitted my mistakes for marking some unreasonables demands and yelling at him BUT
He said he is demaged in this marriage.
I move back to my parent place since April to now
STILL cry Every day till now...
I still go to talk to the counsellor myself on the moving on path...SHE feel I am still Very Very unstable Cause I LOVE MY HUBBY TOO MUCH TO ACCEPT ......
laundry_woes
New Member
Hi miko,
If u hv done all u can to salvage, there is nothing left to do but to learn to let go. I can understand the helplessness but there's nothing u can do if he's not willing to patch back wif u. I only learnt tis simple logic AFTER my marriage broke down. Tat 1 person alone can't prop up a marriage. Occupy ur time wif activities so tat ur mind dun wander too much. Grieve all u need whenever u hv to. But ultimately, u need to realise tat there's life outside a marriage. There's no such thing as loving someone too much to accept. Did u think none of us love our spouses enough? Juz tat when it's time to move on, it's time.
If u hv done all u can to salvage, there is nothing left to do but to learn to let go. I can understand the helplessness but there's nothing u can do if he's not willing to patch back wif u. I only learnt tis simple logic AFTER my marriage broke down. Tat 1 person alone can't prop up a marriage. Occupy ur time wif activities so tat ur mind dun wander too much. Grieve all u need whenever u hv to. But ultimately, u need to realise tat there's life outside a marriage. There's no such thing as loving someone too much to accept. Did u think none of us love our spouses enough? Juz tat when it's time to move on, it's time.
Dear all,
I am V lost at times, still Cry & Weep every day on the split with my hubby.
The lousy feelings just crap into my daily life & heart Everyday.
I have lots & lots & lots of regrets........
Recalling lots of things... I should have done this or that to him...give him more...pay attention to him more...stand by him more....
BE patient to him more........
People keep telling me - not to cry over spill milk alredy...BUT when it comes to feelings WHO can be so brave and not to think or get emotional!!!
who can not bother anymore...
I still don't know WHEN I can really move on with lifes w/o recalling all our memories...
It's a 14th years Togetherness
I feeling Very Very Miserable EVERY DAY!
Sometime harbour thought of sucide!!!
HELP!!! please share with me
HOW to move on.................
I am V lost at times, still Cry & Weep every day on the split with my hubby.
The lousy feelings just crap into my daily life & heart Everyday.
I have lots & lots & lots of regrets........
Recalling lots of things... I should have done this or that to him...give him more...pay attention to him more...stand by him more....
BE patient to him more........
People keep telling me - not to cry over spill milk alredy...BUT when it comes to feelings WHO can be so brave and not to think or get emotional!!!
who can not bother anymore...
I still don't know WHEN I can really move on with lifes w/o recalling all our memories...
It's a 14th years Togetherness
I feeling Very Very Miserable EVERY DAY!
Sometime harbour thought of sucide!!!
HELP!!! please share with me
HOW to move on.................
dragonfruit
Active Member
miko2006
You need to really stay strong.
I have been through what you are currently undergoing, although at different intensity. And I am glad that I have found the strength to put things behind and live on with my life.
You can do it too, give yourself some time and try not to take a step back into the past, especially the part on past regrets.
Anniversaries are the most painful moments because it simply evokes a stream of past memories.
But nothing is impossible to overcome. It takes time and you need to do it slowly step-by-step. With the help of your counsellor, I am sure you can do it.
Please stay strong. We are all here with you during this period.
You need to really stay strong.
I have been through what you are currently undergoing, although at different intensity. And I am glad that I have found the strength to put things behind and live on with my life.
You can do it too, give yourself some time and try not to take a step back into the past, especially the part on past regrets.
Anniversaries are the most painful moments because it simply evokes a stream of past memories.
But nothing is impossible to overcome. It takes time and you need to do it slowly step-by-step. With the help of your counsellor, I am sure you can do it.
Please stay strong. We are all here with you during this period.
laundry_woes
New Member
Hi miko,
I've posted tis b4 & I'll post it again. It's nothing new. Focus on other things for now. Find support with frens & family. Take up new hobbies, make new frens, go out more often. Do anything to occupy ur time. When the time comes when u have to be alone at night, just bawl ur eyes out. It worked for me. With every cry, I learnt to unlove the person who turned my life upside down.
It's baby steps all the way but it does help. U'll find urself thinking less of him as days pass. U'll release ur responsibilities as a wife as days pass. The hurt gets numb over time. U will always recall memories. They are a part of ur life. But in moving on, u give urself a chance to start anew. To him, it's another chance too.
I've posted tis b4 & I'll post it again. It's nothing new. Focus on other things for now. Find support with frens & family. Take up new hobbies, make new frens, go out more often. Do anything to occupy ur time. When the time comes when u have to be alone at night, just bawl ur eyes out. It worked for me. With every cry, I learnt to unlove the person who turned my life upside down.
It's baby steps all the way but it does help. U'll find urself thinking less of him as days pass. U'll release ur responsibilities as a wife as days pass. The hurt gets numb over time. U will always recall memories. They are a part of ur life. But in moving on, u give urself a chance to start anew. To him, it's another chance too.
mitlancer75
New Member
I wanted to give u some advise on the things i went thru.. but really cant remember when i started to feel better. All i could recall is that i got to know a group of new friends, meet them every day, reduce the time alone, stop talking abt the matter, stop listening to sad songs... before i know it, i m already feeling better, not completely recover, but at least not as painful as i first started. U can also do it, trust me (although i did not think tat i can do it then) Take Care... stay strong.
Dear miko,
Honestly, the best way to let go, is to wish him all the happiness that he wants to pursue.
Don't live to regret any longer, in fact, you probably will have to start reflecting about stuffs on family, close friends and basically, life itself. The self-reflection, self-improvement - you'll be surprised that you could learn alot more stuffs about yourself, and strive to do better on alot more areas in your life.
Take care, miko.
Honestly, the best way to let go, is to wish him all the happiness that he wants to pursue.
Don't live to regret any longer, in fact, you probably will have to start reflecting about stuffs on family, close friends and basically, life itself. The self-reflection, self-improvement - you'll be surprised that you could learn alot more stuffs about yourself, and strive to do better on alot more areas in your life.
Take care, miko.
Heya Miko
Perhaps you can share specific incidents which you thought you could've averted today's predicament?
Reason I ask is because I've seen many occasions where women blame themselves when their hubbies decide to give up. Sometimes, I think it's never one's fault. So don't be so hard on yourself.
There are many phases of recovery and you are at the stage where there is denial and self blame, so it's normal. It's ok to cry out and seek solace with close friends and family but don't wallow in self pity for too long because know that there are still many people who love and care about yah. So be strong and keep busy soon!
Perhaps you can share specific incidents which you thought you could've averted today's predicament?
Reason I ask is because I've seen many occasions where women blame themselves when their hubbies decide to give up. Sometimes, I think it's never one's fault. So don't be so hard on yourself.
There are many phases of recovery and you are at the stage where there is denial and self blame, so it's normal. It's ok to cry out and seek solace with close friends and family but don't wallow in self pity for too long because know that there are still many people who love and care about yah. So be strong and keep busy soon!
I just come to realise...
NO matter how Attractive, Pretty, Sexy,
how good a wife you are,
How well you upkeep the house,
how well you respected your hubby,
Try to be understanding to whatever he do, NO nagging, give him the freedom knowing he is doing his work
Till he said you are perfect, NOTHING need to be changed...
BUT yet, HE still does not want to salvage the marriage, doesn't want to return or recipricoate or want a reconciliation with you
NO matter HOW DEEP HE LOVE YOU BEFORE,
HOW much afford he has put in the marraige,
How much he is done for the family before
ONCE he decided to end the marraige, there is no turning back, he just move forwards with his plans , stuffs he want to do on his own, and a future he want to lead alone w/o U...
IT"S a " 360 " deg. change in attitude, face and heart...
FOR me they are lots of WHY WHY WHY ???
LOTS of regrets... Lots of things i wish to have done ...........
A never die heart for him, EVEN to let him go is because i LOVE HIM
As he choose to leave........
NO matter how Attractive, Pretty, Sexy,
how good a wife you are,
How well you upkeep the house,
how well you respected your hubby,
Try to be understanding to whatever he do, NO nagging, give him the freedom knowing he is doing his work
Till he said you are perfect, NOTHING need to be changed...
BUT yet, HE still does not want to salvage the marriage, doesn't want to return or recipricoate or want a reconciliation with you
NO matter HOW DEEP HE LOVE YOU BEFORE,
HOW much afford he has put in the marraige,
How much he is done for the family before
ONCE he decided to end the marraige, there is no turning back, he just move forwards with his plans , stuffs he want to do on his own, and a future he want to lead alone w/o U...
IT"S a " 360 " deg. change in attitude, face and heart...
FOR me they are lots of WHY WHY WHY ???
LOTS of regrets... Lots of things i wish to have done ...........
A never die heart for him, EVEN to let him go is because i LOVE HIM
As he choose to leave........
ericia2000
New Member
miko, wats' ur religion? r u a christian?
my church have lots of people like u who cant let go, since there's already a wound, DUN keep cutting on the same wound again.
let ur wound recover, although there will be a scar, but the scar will also lighten as time goes by..
y dun u join a church and a cell group and pour out ur feelings to god?
my church have lots of people like u who cant let go, since there's already a wound, DUN keep cutting on the same wound again.
let ur wound recover, although there will be a scar, but the scar will also lighten as time goes by..
y dun u join a church and a cell group and pour out ur feelings to god?
I guess man are very different from woman. I have a fren who will always keep quiet when his gf mankes demands and wait for all of it to reach his limit, den suddenly ask for a break. No matter what the gal says or tries to salvage, nothing will change his mind. I always finds that very scary.
Pls pls try to keep youself occupied and capture your negative thots. U might want to go on a short trip or a spa trip to relax and feel good about yourself?
I believe there are many people around u who cares. Spend time with them ya
Pls pls try to keep youself occupied and capture your negative thots. U might want to go on a short trip or a spa trip to relax and feel good about yourself?
I believe there are many people around u who cares. Spend time with them ya
milo_powder
New Member
hi miko,
So glad to see that you are in the process of healing... that you are now coming to terms with what had happened and has also achieved some realisation about marriage life...
I believed you have emerged as a stronger and wiser person from this experience, which will equip you better for your next r/s when you are ready for one...
So glad to see that you are in the process of healing... that you are now coming to terms with what had happened and has also achieved some realisation about marriage life...
I believed you have emerged as a stronger and wiser person from this experience, which will equip you better for your next r/s when you are ready for one...
sgbabydoll
Active Member
Love is a feeling? That sounds like a gush of wind, which comes and goes. To me, that's not love, that's lovey dovey feelings only.
confused_state
New Member
yes, i agree..
i am gg to ROM with my bf next month.. becos of a arguement he want to break up with me... depstie we have confirmed our wedding venue, bridal package and so on...
we been together for 3 yrs... but now then he wanted to break up.... isnt men all heartless...
no matter what i have done, he cant forgive me...
i am a normal gal, who wanted attention from him, yet he say i am too unreasonable...
why can he have the heart to do so.
miko is right, if he does not love you anymore.... no matter what, he will not come back ....
may be it time i should move on too... but now, i am always feeling very lost...
i am gg to ROM with my bf next month.. becos of a arguement he want to break up with me... depstie we have confirmed our wedding venue, bridal package and so on...
we been together for 3 yrs... but now then he wanted to break up.... isnt men all heartless...
no matter what i have done, he cant forgive me...
i am a normal gal, who wanted attention from him, yet he say i am too unreasonable...
why can he have the heart to do so.
miko is right, if he does not love you anymore.... no matter what, he will not come back ....
may be it time i should move on too... but now, i am always feeling very lost...
sgbabydoll
Active Member
Men can be very determined when the situation calls for it. Don't push your partner over his limit as he might just turn away and walk off, never to come back to you.
Desired, I am also a woman, so I do understand the attention wanting part. But you can make this known to him without coming across as demanding, needy or unreasonable. At the same time, you should also try to make adjustments at your end so that you can get by with less attention from your partner. For example, you can dedicate 2-3 days a week to meet him, and plan your own activities and programmes for the remaining days.
When is the ROM? My suggestion is to inform the hotel and bridal service, etc about the deferment. No point going ahead without a willing bridesgroom. At the same time, let him cool off for some time instead of overwhelming him with your attention by begging for forgiveness. I know it is hard time for you now, but do take heart.
Desired, I am also a woman, so I do understand the attention wanting part. But you can make this known to him without coming across as demanding, needy or unreasonable. At the same time, you should also try to make adjustments at your end so that you can get by with less attention from your partner. For example, you can dedicate 2-3 days a week to meet him, and plan your own activities and programmes for the remaining days.
When is the ROM? My suggestion is to inform the hotel and bridal service, etc about the deferment. No point going ahead without a willing bridesgroom. At the same time, let him cool off for some time instead of overwhelming him with your attention by begging for forgiveness. I know it is hard time for you now, but do take heart.
Dear All, THANKS
Especially to Cynthia,
I like what Cynthia, said ...IT so well describe HOW i feel now!!!
LOST faith and hope in everythings, living by just like a zombie, hopping around just to stay on...with no purpose or direction in life now.
AND doesn't want to think of plan anythings at this moment!!!
A very very very cruel & harsh time to accept this reality...still coping from day to day!!!
NOT easy...
Especially to Cynthia,
I like what Cynthia, said ...IT so well describe HOW i feel now!!!
LOST faith and hope in everythings, living by just like a zombie, hopping around just to stay on...with no purpose or direction in life now.
AND doesn't want to think of plan anythings at this moment!!!
A very very very cruel & harsh time to accept this reality...still coping from day to day!!!
NOT easy...
sgbabydoll
Active Member
Hi Miko, not easy but do take it easy. Though a part of your world may have come to an end, it's still not the end of the world yet. All these will come to pass soon. You will have faith and hope in things again, slowly but surely if you allow your heart to mend. Take heart.
Miko, regrets to hear about your situation.
It's hard to accept. but things occurred will not turn back.
I went thru this (juz pure relationship without engagement). He wanted to break off juz b'coz we can't click (after 6 years of relationship). No matter how hard i tried, he rejected to patch back. After 2 weeks we broke, he told mi he was starting a new relatinship which he felt he was really at ease with her (so called has chemistry). But after a month, he came back to mi saying he wanna patch. He found i m the one who best suit him. after struggling, we do patch & we are getting married soon (2 years away from the incident). Our relation is better than b4 and we appreciate each other now.
I don't know how to console you, but wat i understand is thing can't be forced. It's really need time. Forcing each other to stay along, it's most harsh & hurt. So take it easy & get to know more new friends & change a new environment, if possible.
take care.
It's hard to accept. but things occurred will not turn back.
I went thru this (juz pure relationship without engagement). He wanted to break off juz b'coz we can't click (after 6 years of relationship). No matter how hard i tried, he rejected to patch back. After 2 weeks we broke, he told mi he was starting a new relatinship which he felt he was really at ease with her (so called has chemistry). But after a month, he came back to mi saying he wanna patch. He found i m the one who best suit him. after struggling, we do patch & we are getting married soon (2 years away from the incident). Our relation is better than b4 and we appreciate each other now.
I don't know how to console you, but wat i understand is thing can't be forced. It's really need time. Forcing each other to stay along, it's most harsh & hurt. So take it easy & get to know more new friends & change a new environment, if possible.
take care.
lordmarble
New Member
Don't expect anything from life, expectations hurt. When u don't expect, every moment is a surprise & surprise brings happiness with it. Gud Day
baby_lonblue
Member
i am currently also facing the same situation of trying my best to move on with my life
my situation is i initiated the breakup because of our many problems and i lose hope and faith in him
as i am very afraid of wasting my time on the wrong man
i send an email to him n he reply without addressing my issues, just say that he needed peace due to his stress n pressure from his work n investments and i should not nag and complain etc.....
he just will never take it seriously that i meant a break up
i am very disappointed at his reply and since then , we never spoke
he did send me flowers on my birthday after that only send me sms only talking about the market
but all, i never reply
i just want to move on quietly
it is 2 months already and we have not spoke nor met
Many situation run through my mind, many "what if" this " what if " that .....etc
but i just stop myself from doing anything
I am still feeling pain and cry almost everyday but i encourage myself that life just have to go on and it can only be better if i release myself of the misery if i continue to stay with him
I feel no matter how my friends or family console me, it is me myself that can only help myself to tide through these
still trying, nothing i can do now except to hold a firm belief that time will heal
my situation is i initiated the breakup because of our many problems and i lose hope and faith in him
as i am very afraid of wasting my time on the wrong man
i send an email to him n he reply without addressing my issues, just say that he needed peace due to his stress n pressure from his work n investments and i should not nag and complain etc.....
he just will never take it seriously that i meant a break up
i am very disappointed at his reply and since then , we never spoke
he did send me flowers on my birthday after that only send me sms only talking about the market
but all, i never reply
i just want to move on quietly
it is 2 months already and we have not spoke nor met
Many situation run through my mind, many "what if" this " what if " that .....etc
but i just stop myself from doing anything
I am still feeling pain and cry almost everyday but i encourage myself that life just have to go on and it can only be better if i release myself of the misery if i continue to stay with him
I feel no matter how my friends or family console me, it is me myself that can only help myself to tide through these
still trying, nothing i can do now except to hold a firm belief that time will heal
sgbabydoll
Active Member
Hi Denial, sorry to hear about what you are going through with your bf now. Is your case more of a breakdown in communication?
hi Lilacz,
sorry for the late reply, I was reading others posting more often than my own now.
I have not move on...NUT i am trying...
what else can i do, I have please and beg him for almost 1 year, We seperate for coming 9 months and the divorce paper is already ready for me to sign since last OCT 2007
Lawyer and Courts has been sending reminders to me!!!
WHAT can i do???
BESIDE to accept this cruel and hash reality!!!
I try to live by each day now
Didn't think of anything too far ahead...
Happy to wake up and be alive.
You want to share your updates ...
Just take care of yourself, remember he will not turn back, SO be gentle and good to yourself.
I believe to live a better and improved life is the best thing we can do to ourselves now.
He won't care wherther HOW you going to carry on anymore...even if you cry EVERYDAY!!!
Even if we commit sucide, he might just said ' SORRY ' TO US...
ALWAYS rememeber NEVER to repeat any mistakes we had done eariler...TREAT it as a VERY VERY VERY BIG LESSON LEARN AND REALISATION.
They are still a lot of people around us, who LOVE US, parents, sildings, friends...
DON"T be discourage, AND just let TIME take over, VERY true one,
YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN IN NO TIME...
just let the TIME take over...............
CHINESE NEW YEAR is just round the conrner, i know after a 14 years of Together and Memory, festive is the worst TIME we always have to go though...BE BRAVE, we have got no other choice already...
I am gg away for a short trip during this period.
I catch up with you again...
TAKE CARE!
sorry for the late reply, I was reading others posting more often than my own now.
I have not move on...NUT i am trying...
what else can i do, I have please and beg him for almost 1 year, We seperate for coming 9 months and the divorce paper is already ready for me to sign since last OCT 2007
Lawyer and Courts has been sending reminders to me!!!
WHAT can i do???
BESIDE to accept this cruel and hash reality!!!
I try to live by each day now
Didn't think of anything too far ahead...
Happy to wake up and be alive.
You want to share your updates ...
Just take care of yourself, remember he will not turn back, SO be gentle and good to yourself.
I believe to live a better and improved life is the best thing we can do to ourselves now.
He won't care wherther HOW you going to carry on anymore...even if you cry EVERYDAY!!!
Even if we commit sucide, he might just said ' SORRY ' TO US...
ALWAYS rememeber NEVER to repeat any mistakes we had done eariler...TREAT it as a VERY VERY VERY BIG LESSON LEARN AND REALISATION.
They are still a lot of people around us, who LOVE US, parents, sildings, friends...
DON"T be discourage, AND just let TIME take over, VERY true one,
YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN IN NO TIME...
just let the TIME take over...............
CHINESE NEW YEAR is just round the conrner, i know after a 14 years of Together and Memory, festive is the worst TIME we always have to go though...BE BRAVE, we have got no other choice already...
I am gg away for a short trip during this period.
I catch up with you again...
TAKE CARE!
movingonlife
New Member
hi maomao. as what sony mentioned. life stills go on. time will heal the pain bit by bit.
if u wanna cry.. go on.. give urself a time to grieve.. but eventually u will need to get out of it and move on.
my case is similar to urs.
been together for 13 yrs. 2 yrs into marriage everything broke done. it takes courage to recognise it is best for both parties and you will know what the next step will be.
take care
if u wanna cry.. go on.. give urself a time to grieve.. but eventually u will need to get out of it and move on.
my case is similar to urs.
been together for 13 yrs. 2 yrs into marriage everything broke done. it takes courage to recognise it is best for both parties and you will know what the next step will be.
take care
movingonlife
New Member
true that it may not worth crying over him.. but crying will assist us to release the emotions. if we did not allow such grieve out.. keeping it within oneself will eventually be bad for our body. so do give urself some time to pick up the pieces again.
when u are ready to move on. ur tears will stop and u will be strong enough to know that ur crying days are over.
when u are ready to move on. ur tears will stop and u will be strong enough to know that ur crying days are over.
i didn't want a baby initially...in the beginning of the marriage, but he wanted one at that time..
but just recently, i felt i was ready to try...but unfortunately i miscarried. he said he was already thinking of leaving me when i said i didn't want a baby.said it all adds up from there....but i think it could be worked out if he really wants to try to keep this r/s. but apparently he is resistant to trying
but just recently, i felt i was ready to try...but unfortunately i miscarried. he said he was already thinking of leaving me when i said i didn't want a baby.said it all adds up from there....but i think it could be worked out if he really wants to try to keep this r/s. but apparently he is resistant to trying