Hi everyone, I am new here.. My fiance disclosed to me few week back he was married before and the marriage ended. He said they annulled it. It breaks my heart that he told me after so many years together and we plan ROM. We are supposed to get married in June this year. Even so I forgive him but he does not want to tell me honestly when his previous marriage happen and end. I tried asking him and ppl close to him, no straight ans. Everytime same reply, to move forward, dont talk about past, I really love you, he never cheat on you etc. I dont know if I can commit my life to him when he cant be honest with this one thing.. It is already a big news for me to digest.. I also dont know if he cheated on me with his then wife.. I feel very sad... I need help to find answers.. I need help to know if there is any way I can find out when the marriage ended. Any advice on how to get this info and which org to approach (is it court?),. Anyone who has went through annulment before or has knowledge, will be thankful to hear your advice. I thought of seeing lawyer but like very ex.. we already spent lots on wedding cost..
Dear Samantha you can go ROM website use his IC number to check when he registered his marriage. It's free for up to 3 times a year I think.
That date plus 3 years is the last date he could have anulled. Eg if he register Jan 2017, last he could anulled is Jan 2020
But I don't know how to check for exact date of anullment. I don't think it's on that system.
I have a question, so if you managed to get the date of anullment then what? Are you thinking if that date is before he started with you it's not cheating and you will be okay?
I know for a fact when registering the wedding he will need to show a cert certifying his anullment. ask him for that.
Let's say you saw that date and it's after you started with him ,do you consider that cheating?
I think such things you need to consider the legal process takes months (anullment is faster than divorce if no contest but still take time), so emotionally it wouldn't even be cheating in that sense.
I guess the main red flag is he refuse to tell you the dates. Ask for the Judgment of Nullity
If he refuse to show Ask him why he refuse to show the dates.
Refusal to say why the r/s broke up I can understand because it can still hurt emotionally maybe the girl refused to consumate due to emotional issues etc
But refusal to show something so straight forward as the cert? He don't even need say anything just show you.
One more q. Before you knew about this anullment did he mentiion about past r/s ?
For yourself is this your first real r/s?
How old are you both?