pisces: i kneeled down infront of my parents, in laws, grandparents n great grandmother..other den tt..juz stand up n serve the tea..my parents n in laws didn't wanna us to kneel..but as a form of respect n to feel greatful for them raising us up..i told my hubby we should do it..he didn't mind neither do it..so we kneel loh..but don't kneel before anyone else loh..
cas: from my earlier post..yr mama juz need to buy a set of teapot n cups, the big red god table cloth, orange juice for the groom..(it depend on which dialect u are actually..coz diff dialect hv diff stuffs..) den prepare some ang pow for the hubby's side helpers who come during yr GDL..
den yr mama will need to buy sewing kit, music box, comb, set of sleeping gown, slippers, blar blar blar for her daughter..for the shu tou ceremony..hmm..i dunno how much leh..coz my mama go n bought it herself with my dad..i was told tt it cost her ard $100? but for the groom shu tou stuffs..it cost only $ 30..keke..coz i went n bought it with my MIL..
pk: hmm..i dun get it..wat do u mean by yr in law wants it..? wat stuffs they want..?
pk n matsu: keke..actually..i had a really bad experience with my mum too..even at our GDL..both of us still black face..haha..cold war loh..aiyah..mama all the same one..the thing is..do u feel comfortable with everything like which venue, who u must invite..like yr parents friends..grandparents friend..who be emcee..u all muz be happy n feel comfortable..dun give yrself so much stress..
lucky for me..i chose a venue which is central enough..but same request to hv mini bus fetch them to n forth..grand parents wanna invite friends..even the uncle who open a mama shop below my granny house..wanna invite many friends..wanna more tables..can't confirm any guests from anyone who wanna invite THEIR friends..blar blar blar..the more they complain n suggest..the more headache i am..
at first..im like u..very stress..very angry..very pissed..keep thinking who is getting marry..i kept quiet..dun dare to voice out nor say the word "NO"..but i am the one who getting lots of headaches..so.....
finally..i told them..im not gonna invite anyone else..except my friends n relatives..full stop..i told them im really stressed n really not feeling happy for my OWN wedding..why can't i be a happy bride..everything also muz headache n sometimes will cry due to stress n really feel breathless..
i dare to say im not feeling happy n dun wanna invite anyone coz im thinking since im the one paying for everything..neither one fork out a single cent..coz it's my own wedding..tt's why i never ever let anyone fork out a single cent for my wedding or my new home..i pay every single by myself..so they dun hv a say in it..im happy with the way i handle my wedding..date, time, venue, menu, who to invite..it's my own decision..
that's why i never ever want another one to help me pay or give me money whether on my wedding or when i bought my own home..never at all..tt's why it's a lot easier for me..
im lucky enough tt my MIL juz say.." i'll hv 10 tables..i'll arrange who to sit..all the names.." and i remembered tt time i pop down to visit them during the bbq session at her place..vola..~ she handed me the guests list n sitting arrangement..keke..tt's pretty fast man..
so i use the same method..went to my granny place..ask them who to sit with who..within 1 hr..everything settled..frankly..tt's wat my MIL told me..she's the one who taught me to be relax n voice out how i feel..
if u pay for yr own wedding..who can say anything..? juz be happy n enjoy the whole process..it's yr wedding..make it as YOUR OWN WEDDING sweeties..
it's juz our own friends more headache..
dun tink so much yah gals..voice it out to yr hubby..hv a talk with him..im lucky enough to hv a goo hubby who listen to my complains, nags, frusration n to tolerate my temper during the past few mths before my AD..
