hey Violet, im also going to ROM in Dec
well, initially, i have TONs of problem with my future inlaw.. there is TONs of thing tat i don like abt her interfering.. i have a feeling tat she is trying to make thing difficult for me.. even tat things when wrong but not my problem, she will some how link it to me and say is my fault..
Worst thing... my bf not siding me.. not even comfort me down..
I guess a lot of thing is not really who is right or wrong but is just a diffidence option and the generation gaps with in-laws.. Husband plays a BIG part here..
just wanna share my story
one day, i cant tolerate the nonsense anymore and declare a 'war' out..
(is bad, don try) i pour out all my hard feeling to my bf, dig out all the past incidents.. don know why/how, he went to tell his mother (he didnt handle it well)
and my relationship with her mother turns VERY sour..
After a few days, when she is more cool down, his 2 sisters and grandma step-in and talk to her.. telling her what she done wrong.. like parents must learn to let go their child, let us do our own things, plan our own future and respect us... etc etc..
T/a one of his sis talked to me too, ya got lectured.. i don agreed on some points but for the sake of my bf, im willing to try to get along.. They hinted me tat their mother is quite ok now, so i initial a lunch.
During the lunch, we didnt talk much, cos its very weird for the two of us.. i bought her a bracelet, trying to treat her nicely.. it turns out well.. T/a there are also a few attempt of me asking her out for dinner.. well its hard for me
now, i wont say tat our relationship is prefect, but i guess so much tat we have to learn to respect each other.. esp me.. it kind of unavoidable tat i sure to have disagreement with her, but i learn tat to tell her nicely on the spots, if she become unreasonable, i just stop..
initially, my bf really VERY bad abt handling the both of us. After a few mths of learning, he is better.. we took up courses, listen to pple advise on how to handle situations..
it is really abt communications.. opps.. too long-winder..