Hi ladies, it's going to be a long story...
BF and I are 26 this year. We've been together for 8 years and figured that it's time for us to look for a flat and ROM when the flat arrives. Both of our families have been urging us to get married and they are very supportive of our r/s.
We're looking into Built to Order (BTO) flats as we do not want to be cash-drain after paying COV for resale and reno. Furthermore, we made plans for save up while waiting for our flat to be built. HDB released a BTO at Punggol and we applied for it. We will only know the Q number by September.
Before applying, we discussed with our respective parents for suggestions and after getting the green light, we went ahead. The both of us were filled with excitment, especially my Bf. He loves Punggol and keep asking me what if we manage to get a good Q no etc. I can see how much he wants it. I was really happy to see him so willing to participate in our future.
There comes the issue...
Over dinner last night, in front of BF's mum, brother and brother's GF, his father told him that he has an agent friend who can scout for resale flats for him. If he want to, his father can lend us the money for COV and to return him on a monthly basis. My BF replied (nicely and calmly) that it's okay, we like Punggol. Furthermore, we're just applying. No guarantee that we'll get a good Q number.
And his Father flared up. He started shouting at my BF saying now that he's old enough, he wants to move out. Since BF started working (Project Enginner, 3K/mth), he can make stupid decisions etc. He even scolded the Mother in front of everyone! Saying my BF is as stupid as the Mother (Ie. Do not use brain to think and like a place just based on liking). In order not to upset his Mother, my BF kept quiet and allowed his Father to throw his temper on them in front of the younger brother (24) and his GF (18). After dinner, my BF returned to his room and related everything to me via MSN. In the midst of our conversation, his Father came into the room and ordered him to move out within 3 months.
I am at a lost. I want to ask my BF if he wants to give up the BTO application but at the same time, I know how much this BTO means to the both of us. But I do not want this to ruin the r/s between them...
Any advice?
BF and I are 26 this year. We've been together for 8 years and figured that it's time for us to look for a flat and ROM when the flat arrives. Both of our families have been urging us to get married and they are very supportive of our r/s.
We're looking into Built to Order (BTO) flats as we do not want to be cash-drain after paying COV for resale and reno. Furthermore, we made plans for save up while waiting for our flat to be built. HDB released a BTO at Punggol and we applied for it. We will only know the Q number by September.
Before applying, we discussed with our respective parents for suggestions and after getting the green light, we went ahead. The both of us were filled with excitment, especially my Bf. He loves Punggol and keep asking me what if we manage to get a good Q no etc. I can see how much he wants it. I was really happy to see him so willing to participate in our future.
There comes the issue...
Over dinner last night, in front of BF's mum, brother and brother's GF, his father told him that he has an agent friend who can scout for resale flats for him. If he want to, his father can lend us the money for COV and to return him on a monthly basis. My BF replied (nicely and calmly) that it's okay, we like Punggol. Furthermore, we're just applying. No guarantee that we'll get a good Q number.
And his Father flared up. He started shouting at my BF saying now that he's old enough, he wants to move out. Since BF started working (Project Enginner, 3K/mth), he can make stupid decisions etc. He even scolded the Mother in front of everyone! Saying my BF is as stupid as the Mother (Ie. Do not use brain to think and like a place just based on liking). In order not to upset his Mother, my BF kept quiet and allowed his Father to throw his temper on them in front of the younger brother (24) and his GF (18). After dinner, my BF returned to his room and related everything to me via MSN. In the midst of our conversation, his Father came into the room and ordered him to move out within 3 months.
I am at a lost. I want to ask my BF if he wants to give up the BTO application but at the same time, I know how much this BTO means to the both of us. But I do not want this to ruin the r/s between them...
Any advice?