Odds that she will talk to me

[Xmh]

I met a girl when I was married.

Although it was a short period of time, I really enjoyed spending time with her. She's smart, attractive , shared my interests and we could go on talking for hours. However she never knew that I was married.

Initially, I never planned on telling her. As time went along, it started to weigh on me. Finally, I decided to tell her the truth as I just felt guilty. I think I was prepared for the kind of response that I will get but her strong reaction did still sting. We never talked after that.

I separated from my wife within the same year.

I would like to talk to her again but really do not know how she will react. Can anyone advise the odds that she will be willing to reconnect with me and how can I better my odds?

 

[uglydude]

You committed adultery .... what more is there to say .... u should date her only after ur divorce is finalized ... leave her alone to her thoughts .... let her choose whether to leave u or continue on with u ...

 

[xellos]

"She's smart, attractive , shared my interests and we could go on talking for hours." <- If you divorce your wife for this girl, i would say its gonna be the same after then. Every NEW relationship started with She's smart, attractive , shared my interests and we could go on talking for hours.

For your wife? You talked every other day every other min, these are just stages of life that you have to go through. I can confirmed with you that few years down the road, you probably gonna find another "She's smart, attractive , shared my interests and we could go on talking for hours."

#FACT

 

[life_is]

Guess it was hard to tell her. Sometimes it is better to not talk about own marital status if it is going to make you upset. However, could have made it clear that you were not looking for girlfriend e.g. say you have a complicated relationship status, until things were sorted with your ex.

There is always an initial period of time where the 'connection' is felt, but not quite right to move into a new relationship without sorting out a failed marriage first.

 

[Bunnyslave2014]

Some girls just cannot accept that the man of her affections are married. You did hurt her by lying to her initially. Although you may be separated from your wife you are still legally married. Not many girls can accept dating a guy with this ambiguous marital status. Let alone a third party. You might have committed emotional adultery. To be fair to your future girlfriends and estranged wife sort out the legal proceedings first before you embark on a new relationship.

 

[uglydude]

I think that it is extremely important to be open about your marital status and past before you start a relationship. I have a friend who was turned down because he went thru annulment before...even I was surprised....there are some girls out there who actually do mind about such things.....Better to be open and tell the truth. If the girl is particular about a person past, it is better to move on with your life instead of putting in feelings in the relationship and end up getting hurt.....