hi celest,
haha... u sound like those peek-a-boo teasing shots.
i guess how the shots are artistically woven into the wedding highlights depend on your videographer's skill in choosing the right music , sequencing, timing and background. the right approach will make the photos look tastefully done.
wrt the photos being shown during AD, it depends on the type of guests u guys have and the occupations tt u guys are holding. if there are many conservative relatives, then u may wish to consider your parents feelings. if both hubby and your occupation are not suitable for such 'exposure', then dun risk it to make the photos a hot topic during office gossip.
ultimately, the choice is yours. if you wish to just enjoy the day and make it your own right to have it 'my way', then go ahead. it ain't wrong to bring in a few pictures. it'll definitely spice up the AD though...
now, if the photographer is professional abt it, then there is no worry abt him/her seeing your privates. it not as if the thought/image of seeing one will be frozen in their mind. they're a bunch of professional folks. but do speak to your photographer abt his/her experiences in taking such shots. from there, u'll be able to ascertain your comfort level with him/her. other questions may include like who's in the studio together and whether the photographer will take precautions (e.g. locking the access door).
in addition, your photographer (if experienced) will advise you on the type of pose to model in. 2 reasons, one for your modesty and 2nd, since it is a nude shot, to hide your flaws as there are now no more clothes to hide the flabs. anyway, u will most likely have some towels or bathrobes nearby, so just put them on after the shots and everything will be ok.
cheers!