John, its never easy to walk out of a relationship especially a marriage. Your post makes me feel nostalgia yet also fear from my past. My marriage ended. She my first gf, the very lady who i spend a decade with. Lots of laughters, joys and memory that is in my mind now.
I was almost like you, one prideful person, do house work, do not gamble, smoke or watch soccer and even cook. I am a homely person and my ex wife was similar to yours except that the abuse was directed to me since we have no kids. She would threw things on my feet and once she swung a pole on my legs, i cut me. I was in total shock. I am not frail nor physically smaller then her but i am just astonished on her outburst. I was accused of having affairs.
I have to endure her mood swings, no PTSD or whatever illness but yet everyday its fill with her rants. She was never happy with me and well she do not need to lift her finger for the chores which was automatically taken care by me. But life isn't really that simple as we just perform some house and she will be satisfied.
My wife was unhappy about the marriage as she find me a lesser man that her friend husband. Well the word "Lesser" really take a stab on my pride. She wanted me to rakes in big bucks provide exorbitant lifestyle of which is comparable to those CEO wife. Often i would face discrimination about how useless i was and i can't procure her a penthouse at the district 10 or Orchard RD. Life is very demanding, i have a stressful job and many roles to play.
Finally my health is at risk, i suffered from insomnia and i could not rest in the same bed with her. I will let her rest before me. There was no sex life. Nothing. The distant start to grow yet abuse never cease but increase in leaps and bound.
It take me lots of strength to leave her. There guilt, i did asked if i should endure her longer and maybe she will change but unfortunately the timeline is up, and there is no improvements. Counseling session was not effective as she would not admit her fault.
I am not the husband she want, she is no longer the same lady my heart is seeking for. John, its very torturous to write this post but i feel that you need to figure out what is missing in your marriage and the reason behind your wife actions. Your situation is much more complex than mine due to your children. But nevertheless, its better for your children to grow up a single PARENT then to face abuse everything that will scared their life and affect their growing up.
Congrats on your ability to know that your health is at stake. Please have a serious though about my words. You need to act as its not only your health but also your child health is at stake. Have the strength. Take care
Regards
Dar_da Love
I was almost like you, one prideful person, do house work, do not gamble, smoke or watch soccer and even cook. I am a homely person and my ex wife was similar to yours except that the abuse was directed to me since we have no kids. She would threw things on my feet and once she swung a pole on my legs, i cut me. I was in total shock. I am not frail nor physically smaller then her but i am just astonished on her outburst. I was accused of having affairs.
I have to endure her mood swings, no PTSD or whatever illness but yet everyday its fill with her rants. She was never happy with me and well she do not need to lift her finger for the chores which was automatically taken care by me. But life isn't really that simple as we just perform some house and she will be satisfied.
My wife was unhappy about the marriage as she find me a lesser man that her friend husband. Well the word "Lesser" really take a stab on my pride. She wanted me to rakes in big bucks provide exorbitant lifestyle of which is comparable to those CEO wife. Often i would face discrimination about how useless i was and i can't procure her a penthouse at the district 10 or Orchard RD. Life is very demanding, i have a stressful job and many roles to play.
Finally my health is at risk, i suffered from insomnia and i could not rest in the same bed with her. I will let her rest before me. There was no sex life. Nothing. The distant start to grow yet abuse never cease but increase in leaps and bound.
It take me lots of strength to leave her. There guilt, i did asked if i should endure her longer and maybe she will change but unfortunately the timeline is up, and there is no improvements. Counseling session was not effective as she would not admit her fault.
I am not the husband she want, she is no longer the same lady my heart is seeking for. John, its very torturous to write this post but i feel that you need to figure out what is missing in your marriage and the reason behind your wife actions. Your situation is much more complex than mine due to your children. But nevertheless, its better for your children to grow up a single PARENT then to face abuse everything that will scared their life and affect their growing up.
Congrats on your ability to know that your health is at stake. Please have a serious though about my words. You need to act as its not only your health but also your child health is at stake. Have the strength. Take care
Regards
Dar_da Love