need some advice

[Adeline Lim]

Hi girls, need some advise pls!

In Sept 2012, I met my htb coursemates and they were happily chatting abt the new working environment. Then they suddenly said that my htb is very close to this girl from the same course and same working place. So I told him not to be too close with this girl to avoid remorse.

Recently I met up with them again and they were still saying that my htb and the girl quite close. So again I tell my bf stop messaging her etc and he agreed but I tried to see his whatapps and fb chat group I still see them messaging quite often. I even read what they were chatting and what I saw my htb ask that girl 'GOT MISS ME NOT' in the previous chat when I saw this I was like darm angry and sad towards him. And ytd I ask him again and he shouted at me saying he already stop messaging her why I still bring up this matter. What shall I do???

 

[adelene]

Hi Adeline,

sometimes, people just like to gossip. But if your bf cannot stop messaging this girl , you might want to tell him how you feel towards his behaviour.
When ask him too frequently, it will become very naggy and guy just do not want to be nagged. So stop for a period of time before you ask again.

Talk and spend more time with him will help.

 

[sadman2009]

Hi Adeline,
Reasons why he shouted at you:
1) He actually has stopped msg-ing her already but you accused so he became angry. Coz man doesn't like to be accused.
2) He has become very close to the girl and has developed feelings for her. And his love for you has diminished. It won't be long before he breaks up with you. Or even if he marry you, after marriage he will still continue to mess with this girl and have an affair with her.

Be prepared for anything that may happened. If he wants to continue to be with the girl, messaging her and going out with her .. There is nothing you can do.