Hi all, I really need advices. I am 28 this year and have been with my husband for 8yrs inclusive of 3yrs marriage. However I am unhappy in this marriage and I have strayed a few times before. In the 8yrs our marriage has been rocky. And now I wanted out of the marriage. Knowing him he does not want to divorce me. And recently I have fallen for another guy and I have stayed over his place twice. This makes me realize all the more I wanted out of this marriage. Not because of the new guy but for myself. I do not want to spend the rest of my youth regretting staying in this unhappy marriage. Can anyone advise me how do I break it to my husband that I want a divorce and how do I go about initiating a deed of separation? What are the lawyer charges like as I have budget constraint. Our flat still has 2yrs before it can go to the open market. Pls anyone can advise. Thank you
Need advices desperately
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uglydude
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My friend did it for 4k for a no contest divorce....another spend over 20k just for court fee for a contested divorce......and she also end up paying the hubby 100k just to end the marriage....so make sure your hubby willing to divorce first before even commencing on the divorce proceeding....it can drag for a long time or you better be prepared to fork out money for him to end the marriage for you....
sadman2009
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I suggest if you want to end the marriage fast and smoothly, you will need to give him the house. Don't take back any share. Just tell him that you are willing to give him what he wants if he is willing to divorce. In this way, your divorce can be done and finished in 3 months.
uglydude
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I think that it would be better if you go thru a lawyer to apply for deed of separation.....doing it yourself is possible just like divorce but it involves a lot of filling, paperwork...blah blah...so you are better off finding a proper lawyer to do this.....
As for your extra marital affair...just tell him the truth...ask him to let you go....ask him not to hang on to you anymore since there is no love....you can actually file for divorce now and back date everything since your marriage has already last for 3 years....if your husband is willing to let you go....the divorce will be finalized within 6 months or so upon application by your lawyer....
As for your extra marital affair...just tell him the truth...ask him to let you go....ask him not to hang on to you anymore since there is no love....you can actually file for divorce now and back date everything since your marriage has already last for 3 years....if your husband is willing to let you go....the divorce will be finalized within 6 months or so upon application by your lawyer....
If You want a quick divorce and for him to agree fast...
Just tell him the truth that you have been Fxxxing around and he already wore many hats liao, best if you could provide photos as evidence..
also tell him you don't want maintenance or the house, if have kids, let him have custody..
That would work
Just tell him the truth that you have been Fxxxing around and he already wore many hats liao, best if you could provide photos as evidence..
also tell him you don't want maintenance or the house, if have kids, let him have custody..
That would work
sadman2009
Active Member
If You want a quick divorce and for him to agree fast...
Just tell him the truth that you have been Fxxxing around and he already wore many hats liao, best if you could provide photos as evidence..
also tell him you don't want maintenance or the house, if have kids, let him have custody..
That would work
Agree with what caution said. Tell him you have been fxxking around and will continue to do it. Tell him he can't give you happiness and both of you can live better and happier if divorce. Tell him you are not asking for maintenance or the house. Like this he will divorce you fast and you won't have to wait.
Do remember that you are 28 now. If you wait for another 4, 5 years you will be 33 yrs old. For woman, once you turn 30, your chances of getting a good husband will be very slim. You may need another 2 yrs to looking around for better guys, by then you will be 35. Then, you may have a few failed relationships. For example, you may meet some guys that just want to fxxk you but don't want to marry you. This may take up 3 - 5 yrs of your already limited youth. By then you will be 40 .... Then in the end you may be living alone and miserably.
So, to avoid all these, just to have a good talk with him and have him agreed to divorcing you. If you agree to accept all his conditions, may be he will willing to let you go out now to look for another guy and even live with other guys. Then when the two yrs is up to sell the house, you can straight away divorce and immediately marry the guy that you have been living with.
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