in reply to your qn, i didn't ask any relatives or friends to help out. just that on that day, a cousin came early and she, together, with my bro just automatically pour the tea for the ceremony. think any relative can help in this simple task.
maybe you can tell your dad that no jiemei is normal? coz on my side, no jiemei is the norm, have jiemei is only 1-2 cases. even for my colleagues, some of them also no jiemei. its only a half-day event, better to keep it simple.