insecure_me
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Hi all,
Was having problems to post but now I can finally post.
I need some guidance as well as I’m having mixed feelings.
Ever since my hub started on this new role, things have changed.
1) He stopped wearing his wedding ring claiming it is too tight - is that really possible? He didn’t put on alot
2) He started doing a lot exercise in abit to lose weight.
3) He started to mind his hair, his face, his clothings.
4) His job requires him to travel - always last min arrangements.
5) His job requires him to build rapport with vendors - sometimes also last min arrangements.
6) He responds to me in an irritable way.
7) He brings his phone into the toilet claiming he is responding to his boss
8) He buys extra set of breakfast claiming that is for his female boss as sometimes she also buy for him.
Although he still does his obligations to send me to work, other than that, I feel very neglected as his whole world now resolved around his job and entertainments.
Because of this, I became insecure and sometimes makes a fuss about his travel and entertainments which sometimes end around 3am and once during weekend.
Finally, he lost it and said he is sick and tired of me ringing him when he is outside (I rang only because he said he will be back at 11pm but 12am he is still not home) He said going forward, he will just inform me and if I am upset, he doesn’t care.
I asked him if he wants a seperation, he replied saying he is ok if I want it. I don’t want it but I will do it if he no longer loves me. I asked if there is 3rd party, he said no.
Fast forward, I busted him on one of his trips to Thailand. He said going with a guy friend. But he refused to show me his phone to proof his innocence. Given that we were at the shaky stage, I let it go. He assured me there is no 3rd party.
However, I planted a gps in the car and can see he has been ferrying someone home before coming to pick me. As a result, I always have to wait till 7pm.
I’m really at a loss. He said he wants this family and will use actions to prove it. But even till now, I can feel the disconnect between us and him lying thru his teeth.
Despite subtle messages that I tell him time will reveal everything, he still do all these. I feel that his heart is no longer here but yet he still constantly assures me that he want his family. Is he just waiting for me to catch him?
Was having problems to post but now I can finally post.
I need some guidance as well as I’m having mixed feelings.
Ever since my hub started on this new role, things have changed.
1) He stopped wearing his wedding ring claiming it is too tight - is that really possible? He didn’t put on alot
2) He started doing a lot exercise in abit to lose weight.
3) He started to mind his hair, his face, his clothings.
4) His job requires him to travel - always last min arrangements.
5) His job requires him to build rapport with vendors - sometimes also last min arrangements.
6) He responds to me in an irritable way.
7) He brings his phone into the toilet claiming he is responding to his boss
8) He buys extra set of breakfast claiming that is for his female boss as sometimes she also buy for him.
Although he still does his obligations to send me to work, other than that, I feel very neglected as his whole world now resolved around his job and entertainments.
Because of this, I became insecure and sometimes makes a fuss about his travel and entertainments which sometimes end around 3am and once during weekend.
Finally, he lost it and said he is sick and tired of me ringing him when he is outside (I rang only because he said he will be back at 11pm but 12am he is still not home) He said going forward, he will just inform me and if I am upset, he doesn’t care.
I asked him if he wants a seperation, he replied saying he is ok if I want it. I don’t want it but I will do it if he no longer loves me. I asked if there is 3rd party, he said no.
Fast forward, I busted him on one of his trips to Thailand. He said going with a guy friend. But he refused to show me his phone to proof his innocence. Given that we were at the shaky stage, I let it go. He assured me there is no 3rd party.
However, I planted a gps in the car and can see he has been ferrying someone home before coming to pick me. As a result, I always have to wait till 7pm.
I’m really at a loss. He said he wants this family and will use actions to prove it. But even till now, I can feel the disconnect between us and him lying thru his teeth.
Despite subtle messages that I tell him time will reveal everything, he still do all these. I feel that his heart is no longer here but yet he still constantly assures me that he want his family. Is he just waiting for me to catch him?
