Match made in heaven

[kittenpie]

http://news.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Singapore/Story/A1Story20100929-239616.html

i am so inspired by this story. i think an MCP + a woman with low self-esteem would make a perfect match.

 

[sgbabydoll]

The wife looked dazed from several pictures. She might have been brainwashed by the husband for a long time.

OT - The MCYS officer is quite pretty.

 

[pinktweet]

That is why she can tahan him so many years, see, the son so big liao .. at least 10yrs in marriage ..

 

[kittenpie]

doll, i thought so too. she is strikingly pretty.

the abused wife was kneeling barefeet outside the block of flats. so poor thing.

i posted this story here because many thread starters who write in this forum remind me of the woman in the story. and the man in this story reminds me of some of the men who write in here too...

 

[wat_are_dreamz]

My god! Tis is real sad n the reports stated tat the 2 young boys are v aggressive. I think they might bully their own mother as well. The husband is really crazy! I hope the wife's family n frens can help her to quickly leave tis guy n have a proper decent life w/out fear n insults.

 

[cococherry]

the wife look ill in all the pictures!!

hope the sons won't grow up to be like their dad

 

[susanna_low]

Salute the wife for being able to obey and tolerate his nonsense!

 

[kittenpie]

susanna,

why salute? to me, enduring abuse is not a virtue ...

 

[susanna_low]

May dear, salute in the sense of "salute"..wahaha i read the news ydae, until now i still cant figure why she can manage to do that *scratch head*..i guess she's mentally unwell...

 

[miloice]

Probably stuck in the "for the sake of the kids and complete family" mentality.

 

[kittenpie]

susanna,

oh i get it ... you are being ironic!

haha ... my mind is fixated on the literal today, didnt catch your tongue-in-cheek ...

 

[susanna_low]

milo, eh..tat's too extreme...anyway i wonder hw the children grow up in the right way in that environment? They seem to mimic their father's behaviour.

May, haha u r too serious..actually i wonder hw a person in their right mind will kneel and kowtow till bruised?? tat is too amazing...

 

[kittenpie]

kowtow to the husband ...

gobbling down a packet of food dumped by the husband at the doorstep, the three huddled together outside the flat to share the measly portion. doesn't that remind you of war refugees.

what kind of person does this, and what kind of person forces his family to kowtow to him?

and in PUBLIC?

i have read the follow-up to this incident in the chinese tabloid. the reporter sat down with the guy for 2 hours and the latter poured out his heart, seeming to the reporter to be deeply and genuinely sorry that his wife and sons were taken away from him by the authorities.

he confided that he has a wild temper.

but how does that lead to him commanding his wife to kowtow to him barefoot in the public?

dont you all think that the behaviour of the people in this story simply defies all logic and common sense? undignified and absolutely, awfully disgraceful? distasteful and all very, very weird?

this story proves that there are women who will STICK around and subject themselves to abuse no matter how bad it gets.

and there will always be men who recognise this in women and exploit this worthless trait for whatever it is worth.

this type of folly should be condemned.

we live in singapore where women have opportunity to participate in the workforce and make an independent living.

resources exist in our environment but it is weakness of the mind and the heart that oppresses people and metaphorically imprison them. they don't stand up and walk out because they are confined and fenced in by their lazy and cowardly thinking (if they even think at all).

traces of this abused woman can be found in avatars like Enxuan, etc. they are just the same people in modified circumstances.

i know i am being super long-winded but pls indulge me!

 

[kittenpie]

this story proves that there are women who will STICK around and subject themselves to abuse no matter how bad it gets.

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and why do some women behave in this way?

because they have been conditioned since young that they need men like some miracle survival tool.

it is a social conditioning, messages are being propagated all around us that women need men in order to live or to be validated.

that is why im also very fed up by threads like "i like my boss" where the TS dwells obsessively in her fantasy about her boss. puny person living in a puny mental world, broadcasting her puny worldview via the internet and in effect reinforcing it.

if this behavior is not stupid, i do not know what is!

 

[clark]

May, i am a self-confessed MCP.

Happy and living it !

 

[kittenpie]

you are probably as ugly as you described you were short.

case closed

 

[susanna_low]

this is what i can't fathom...perhaps im "boyish"..

 

[clark]

haha...even short and ugly pple have their attractive aspects.

i am a manly compassionate person !

 

[kittenpie]

why are you telling us that for?

are you trying to market yourself here?

if you have to do that you are probably as short and as ugly as i perceive you to be.

 

[clark]

May, i am only telling you.

Do u discriminate against short and ugly pple ??

 

[kittenpie]

no.

i discriminate against YOU.

 

[clark]

cos i am a manly compassion person ???

Make love and not war.

Dun say superman never tell you.

 

[kittenpie]

because:

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May, i am a self-confessed MCP.

Happy and living it !

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just like you are not embarrassed to talk like this i am proud to tell you what i think about you.

 

[kittenpie]

hmmm ....

let me see, what are you going to next?

are you, like stanzza, going to rattle off a list of your positive attributes in defence of your honour?

so funny, the two of you.

 

[clark]

where is stanzza ? my tag team partner.

i have been traveling and busy with work but i never forget my HIGH-FIVE buddy !

May, maybe...just maybe...i am not as bad as u imagine. Short but handsome.....like tom cruise ??? but asian version.

Stanzaa, some support please !!!!!

 

[clark]

May, may i ask you why u are up so late at night ?

No need to have yr beauty sleep ?

I am not asleep cos of the time difference.

Glad to have yr company. Make love not war !!!!

 

[kittenpie]

yes, you and stanzza like to prove things to internet strangers.

cause the truth hurts, right?

as i imagine. i dont imagine. you have already conveyed to me a mental picture of yourself. this mental picture is vivid enough to override your true image.

happy?

aiyo.

 

[clark]

May, what are u working as ?

 

[miloice]

"milo, eh..tat's too extreme"

what's extreme... we read of all the stupid situations people put themselves in and excuse it as "its easier said than done" and "i'm too soft". Since when is anything easier done than said. Really talk cock excuse they give themselves to continue hoping on hopeless lies.

And pointing it out frankly is being mean, cold and harsh. Now... that's extreme.

 

[susanna_low]

eh i mean extreme until kneel and kowtow 40times..u think a person in the right mind will do that in the first place and also who in the right mind will command their loved ones to do that as well?
Both husband and wife might hv suffered from mental disorder.

Just like the woman who shouted on the MRT in stomp, her sis stood out and explained that that woman was actually suffering from mental illness.

http://sg.yfittopostblog.com/2010/09/27/woman-dishes-out-profanities-to-commuters-on-mrt-train/

 

[miloice]

ting yi.... I have seen that video and commented the same ... that the person is probably mentally unstable. To the public, its something probably funnie... but not to the family. They must have felt really hurt seeing her like this.

But, to suggest that the couple doing extreme acts are also suffering the same disorder is not right. The wife might be suffering from depressing and low self esteem. But not schizophrenia. The person in the video is displaying clear signs of schizophrenia. She is very disturbed and badly harrassed by the voices she is hearing. Hence the completely untriggered outbursts.

 

[susanna_low]

haha i do not mean that they suffered from the same illness

so cute
Yeah..mental disorder consists of different types and it is really common nowadays. Even a few frds of mine are suffering from depression.

There was a time that my mum had terrible mood swings and kept scolding me, hb, dad, bro. Everybody take turns to be scolded and if we keep quiet, she will flung our things on the floor. Then she kept imagine that everybody were talking bad things behind her too. She went to a doctor and was diagnose with heavy depression due to her titinnus. Now she had greatly improved under medication. No more scary mood swing.

 

[nichie]

May

I think this Mr kent or clark is interested in you...the more you scold or discriminate him...the more interest he has on you....my gal's sixth sense....oh...now is 1st Oct..happy children day to all!

 

[nichie]

I don't think this particular woman has any mental problem but she is probably like many of the older generation woman who accepted their fate and endure the pain and suffering for the family or children. It may also she really don't have the ability to support herself or no where to go, these fears cause her to accept her hubby abuse for the exchange of her own survival. It may also simply the lack of literacy and knowledge of the help options available, so its a good thing MCYS get involve.

 

[stanzza]

Oh no clark,

I'm not gg to be pulled into petty debates =D. Come on you can handle a woman on ur own.

 

[stanzza]

Otherwise we might end up in the news also like this case, 2 guys tag team attack on a woman LOL LOL~

 

[kittenpie]

morning stanzza.

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I'm not gg to be pulled into petty debates =D. Come on you can handle a woman on ur own.
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Otherwise we might end up in the news also like this case, 2 guys tag team attack on a woman LOL LOL~
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stanzza, you always say that you are some management personnel in some company out there. but the way you write reminds me of a kindergarten playground standoff where you pitch the girl team against the boy team.

you really sure you are some masters-holding, property-investing guru? i really had you in mind when i posted the link here. are you actually the male protaganist in this horrible abuse story?

Mr Clark has a sense of humour and can take bashing. as for you, you took some bashing from me, you lose and then you swear against the game. why do you take yourself so seriously, hur?

 

[giantemu]

for contrast and compare, i was reminded of another incident where the man stood by with his girlfriend hammer his family jewels with her high heels...you guys remembered that?

Seems more and more people have problems handling their emotions and abuse being dished out by others.

 

[simpleman]

The guy "training" for his warrant officer promotion exam?

Alamak, asking sons and wife to run around the block.. only our CSM/RSM will do that.. or our cadet instructors.

But it is a good thing that MCYS got involved .. hopefully he can wake up..

I never have any MCP characteristics nor condone any such behaviour. To me, women are equal and complementary to men. We are wired different and the 1+1 is greater than 2. If the one man bullies the women, it will be 1 - 1 = 0 .

 

[stanzza]

May,

I find that u take things way too seriously in life. U can progress in money and career with good knowledge, ability to apply that knowledge and make things happen. You dun have to stiffen up u get what I meant? It doesn't help in making money, doesn't help in career and doesn't help in getting you ahead in career. And soft skill is v impt, because only when at least 50% of people support you, you're a leader. Retain some humor, have some fun, get the results though.

And you may not notice it, but you are biased and assume too much. You need to be more objective and rely less of assumption. For example, I have never said that I keep my wife at home to serve me etc. You imply that I'm a mcp and my wife is an obedient wife etc. Really, it is not. But it's really pointless and tiring for me to keep clarifying against assumptions and perception u know?

Normally, I ignore ppl's false assumption. Yes, I did it many times to you also =)

 

[stanzza]

Hey, I can take bashing and jokes. But not personal insults

 

[stanzza]

And don't you find yourself throwing too much strong accusation on other ppl based on your assumption and intepretation of events? Just like this thread?

Doesn't help you a lot in relationship with ppl rgt?

You took the convienent to falsely accuse ppl based on your assumption. And throw the inconvienent to ppl to defend themselves. Not everybody is so free to entertain u know.

And here, I wrote another 3 post to "defend" myself in my inconvience, just because u accuse me by implying that I'm childish again.

Sigh...

 

[simpleman]

Sorry, can't take personal insults then what?

Wanna fight here?

And sorry, what May wrote may be uncomfortable on your ears.. but she has a point to make. The way you wrote has changed significantly over your initial posting but she probably remembers what you wrote earlier.

Anyway, if you want to defend yourself - do so - strike it in her face..

And I find your silly high-five with the midget irritating - my personal view.

 

[stanzza]

SM,

there were many assumption made beyond what I wrote in posts earlier.

Just like this thread. What was reported is that a guy imposed physical punishment on a woman etc. That's about it.

Yes we can speculate the reason for this. But look. All these accusation of low esteem, mcp come out as if that's the truth. We don't even know if this is true. It's a possibility. But not yet certain.

And for my earlier post, the accusation becomes the perceived truth and more accusation based on the perceived truth add on. Is just silly.

fight? of course not la. We r cilvilise.

high five, never mind if u find it silly. Cause I'm having fun hehe

 

[miloice]

one thing is certain, your love for toilets cleaned thoroughly by your loved ones.

 

[kittenpie]

May,

I find that u take things way too seriously in life. U can progress in money and career with good knowledge, ability to apply that knowledge and make things happen. You dun have to stiffen up u get what I meant? It doesn't help in making money, doesn't help in career and doesn't help in getting you ahead in career. And soft skill is v impt, because only when at least 50% of people support you, you're a leader.

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why do you think im like this in real life. May Ong is nothing but an avatar and my online alter ego. i have made her out to be brash, and notice, i often only use it on you. but thanks for the lecture anyway, i think you made some pretty good points.

like i have said, you are probably a very good and nice guy in real life. im only responding to my impression of your online contribution. so far, i have a very poor impression of your (1) MCP (2) being proud of it (3) small-mindedness in other areas.

i dont take any interaction here personally and you should not too. we will never meet in real life, anyway.

 

[stanzza]

Ya cause I never met u in real ma. No I dun take anything personally. U know, emotion does come at the heat of moment (we r human), but I always forget and cool afterwards =). In fact I find u pretty okay overall.

 

[kittenpie]

stanzza,

the point im getting at is - nothing here can be personal because we are all avatars.

we get personal because some facts and truth in what we say to each other disturb our ego.

if you are disturbed by what i say, it is because what i say contain bits and pieces of facts about you that you may, for whatever reason, refuse to recognise.

you get what i mean.

i have been taunting you (yes, in particular, you) because i am goading you on to see some truth about yourself. you reacted instead of responding with wisdom and introspection. doesnt that tell you something about yourself?

 

[stanzza]

Ya there we go again... Ur perceived truth la.

 

[stanzza]

It's flattering but you dun have to "lock" on to me u get what i mean? It's seldom me whom have a problem that need advises in threads.

I'm not so interesting =D