Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)

[cmg_consulting]

Hi perfect moment,

20th Nov is a Bad day for wedding as well. 24th Dec is a neutral day. Not a general auspicious day for wedding in the tong shu. You might want to try 25th Dec? It is a general auspicious tong shu day for wedding.

 

[iamswtgurl28]

hi david..thanks for your immediate reply...i will be booking that date already since it didnt clash anyone in my family(july 18, 2010), cant wait for the tong shu anymore coz im so excited, but i would still want to know when the tong shu is out...ill get back to you again maybe this july or aug..thanks again!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi angel,

You are welcome. Note that the tong shu is a very general date only. It might still end up to be a bad day for both of you. The only way to really determine if a particular date is good for both of you will be via using Bazi.

Hope this helps.

 

[bigman]

Hi,

Is it any good or bad to keep unopened ang pows from previous years?

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi bigman,

There is no good or bad. From Chinese Metaphysics perspective, there is no such "rule" saying you have to keep unopened Ang Pows from previous year. It will not affect your luck or anything, whether if you decide to keep or throw.

Hope this helps

 

[bigman]

Hi David,

Thanks for your reply.. well, I'd like to personally create a self-auspicious belief by keeping my ang pows for the next 8 years (if i can keep them for that long !) hehehe...

 

[bigman]

Hi David,

I've got 2 questions again:

Is it any good or bad to watch porn movies or have sex during Chinese New year?

 

[enter]

Hi David,

Is 20/10/2010 or 10/10/2010 an auspicious Tong Shu date for wedding?

Bride: Tiger
Groom: Horse

Thanks!

 

[luvizgreat]

Hi David
I am planning to hold my wedding on 27th June 2010.My husband is born in the year of horse and i am in the year of snake. Please kindly advise.

 

[eve_gal]

Hi David,

I am planning to hold my wedding in Dec'09 or Jan'2010. Will greatly appreciate if you can advise any auspicious weekend dates in these 2 months?

Groom: Rooster
Bride: Rooster
Bride's Parents: Mum(Dog), Dad(Rabbit)
Groom's parents: Dad (Horse)

Thanks in advance!!

 

[snoww0lf]

Hi David
I am planning to hold my wedding on 21 Nov 2009.My wife is born in the year of monkey and i am in the year of horse. Groom's parents: Dad (Dragon)Mum (Monkey)Please kindly advise.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi bigman,

This is NOT Chinese Metaphysics. You can do whatever you like during CNY.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi stars,

The Tong Shu for 2010 is not out yet. Will be out sometimes around July period. The only way to select 2010 now is via using Bazi, which is more accurate than Tong Shu. A Tong Shu date may indicate good for wedding, but if it does not match your Bazi, it is still considered a bad day.

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Sally,

27th June 2010 is a bad day. Not suitable for any important activity.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Evelyn,

Here are some "general" dates you can use:

Dec 09 - 5/12, 11/12

Jan 2010 - 31/1

Rest of the weekend dates all clashes with either of you or your parents, so not advisable to use

Hope this helps

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi James,

21st Nov 09 is not an ideal good date for wedding. If you can choose, try not to use this date. There are other better dates to choose from.

It will not clash to any of the animal signs you provided.

Hope this helps.

 

[dazzling2008]

Hi David,

I understand from your former posts that ROM overrides all activities, including the chinese customary tea ceremony right?

In this case, I would like to seek your advice which is a better general day for ROM?
20th Sept 2009 or 21st Sept 2009?

Bride - Monkey
Groom - Rabbit
Both Parents - Horses, Dragon and Monkey.

Thanks for your advice!

 

[bigman]

Hi David,

I need to undergo facial reconstruction surgery some time this year... can u advise which days or periods are auspicious so that it will be a good result?

 

[jojy]

Hi David,

I have some doubts in mind that I would like to verify. I been hearing from friends that monkey & tiger cannot get along well. If I were to have baby this year end or early next year, then we might have "tiger" baby.

Me & my hubby are both monkey, is it true that we should avoid having "tiger" baby?

Both parents - Monkey, Dog & Dragon

Awaits your advise!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi dazzling2008,

Yes you are right. But as Chinese, we still want to choose a good date for all wedding related events, including AD and tea ceremony. If you can choose, why leave it to chance?

21st Sept 09 will be a much better date

Hope this helps.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jo&JY,

I rest assure you that there is no such thing as avoiding a tiger baby. And there is also no such thing as monkey and tiger cannot get along well. This is a VERY superficial form of destiny analysis. Destiny analysis uses 8 characters, which is why it is call "Ba Zi". And for the animal zodiac sign, it is just 1 character out of the 8 characters in a "Ba Zi". To see if a couple cannot get along well etc, all 8 characters have to be taken into consideration. Using just 1 character is as good as 12.5% accuracy only.

There are many couples who are tiger and monkey that are happily married. So this alone will prove that this superficial theory doesn't exist. If every single couple who are monkey and tiger divorce, then yes i am convinced

Coming back to your qn again, you can go ahead to have a tiger baby. Whether if the baby brings good or bad luck to the parents will depends on ALL the 8 characters in a "Ba Zi", and not just one animal zodiac sign alone.

I've written an article about this in my blog on my website at www.cmgconsulting.com.sg. It is in David's Blog, 2008, October, entitled "Does Clashing of A Couple's Animal Signs Mean Divorce?" Read it when you have the time and hopefully you will understand what i am saying better.

Look forward to your tiger baby and don't let all these urban legends get in your way

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi bigman,

The date selected for operation will have to depends on your Bazi. You cannot use a general good day for this.

 

[taztaz]

hi david,

whats a good date for C-section from now till 2nd feb? I'm having a baby gal. I'm a rabbit & hubby is ox. thanks!

or how much do you charge for a more detailed analysis? Rather urgent as just advised by doc i need to opt for c-section.

 

[taztaz]

oops pls email me [email protected] to gimme more details on your birthdate selection pricing. thanks!

 

[chinjoon]

Dear David,

we are planning to solemnise on 8th Aug 2009.

Understand from your previous replies that 8th August 2009 is not a good general date for wedding.

May we seek your advise if basing on our following zodiac signs, that there is any chance that this date (8th Aug 2009) can be a good date for us?

Or do we need to change to another ROM date (eg. 9th August 2009)

Our zodiac signs are as follows:

Groom: Birth Year 1981 Rooster (Lunar Birthdate: 3rd Month 27th Day)
Bride: Birth Year 1981 Rooster (Lunar Birthdate: 6th Month 6th Day)
Groom's Parents: Dad (Horse), Mum(Horse)
Bride's Parents: Dad (Goat), Mum(Dog)


Looking forward to your advice, thanks a lot!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Joey,

Sent you an email. Thanks

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Gerald,

Both 8th and 9th August are not general Tong Shu auspicious dates for wedding purpose, regardless of the animal zodiac signs. If you are doing ROM, I will advise you to choose another day as ROM is very important and you can easily book the venue for ROM.

However, this is in general only as the Bazi will have to be used to determine if a particular date is specifically good or bad for both of you. The Tong Shu may indicate a good date for wedding, but if the Bazi doesn't match the day selected, it is still a bad day for both of you.

Hope this helps.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi all,

Recently, there are a few emails to me asking me why I mentioned that 21st Nov is not a good day for marriage even though the Tong Shu says so. I've addressed this sometimes back in a thread, but i will post it here again to answer anyone's doubts and for those who had missed my earlier post.

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21/11/09 is indeed listed in the Tong Shu as auspicious date for wedding. As i always explain to my clients, if you know how to read 3 chinese character words, you will know how to select dates yourself from the tong shu. All you need to know is "Yi, Jia Qu", which means "Good, For Marriage".

So this date is indeed listed as "Good, For Marriage' in the Tong Shu. BUT on that page of the Tong Shu, it consist of many many more other Chinese characters that many people did not take into account for. There is this particular one row in the Tong Shu that tells you if this particular day is good for what purpose. This is very important. Normally for wedding, we want to choose "Chen", which means Success Day; or other compatible days for wedding such as "Ding" (stable day), "Zhi" (initiate day) etc etc. This will ensure this day selected is good for the purpose of wedding, even if it is just a general good day. Tong Shu ASSUMES you know how to filter this out yourself. But most people don't do it.

So that brings us back to the date 21/11/09. This day is listed as "Wei" in the Tong Shu, which means Danger Day! A Danger day is a day that is not suitable for any important activities. And to me, marriage is a very important activity. The calculation cannot have any mistakes. I want to be "kiasu" for all my clients and make sure the dates selected for them are really the best.

So even here in the forum, for those of you who had asked me for general wedding dates, the dates I've given to all not only avoid clashes to both the bride, the groom and the parents, I have ALSO taken into account this factor by filtering out the unsuitable dates for you. Which is why some of you might have noticed the dates i gave are significantly lesser than what you might find from the Tong Shu. And this also explains why I said that 21st Nov 09 is NOT a good day for marriage.

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However, do note that I am saying this from the perspective of a GENERAL good date only. If your date is calculated using Bazi, which is the correct and authentic method of date selection, then that day might still be good for you. This is why Bazi date selection is very different from a Tong Shu date selection. Tong Shu date selection is too general and more for "mass consumption". If your master calculates the dates for you using Bazi, then yes, perhaps he did take your Bazi into account to derive that 21st Nov is good for both of you from the Bazi perspective. If only the Tong Shu is used, then unfortunately, this is not an ideal general date for wedding purpose.

I hope this clears up any doubts you might have

 

[belbel]

hi david shi fu,would like to seek yr advice whether this is a good date for us.thanks a million...09 Oct 2010

Groom-Pig bazi(shi yue er shi liu)time(0325hrs)
Bride-Pig bazi(shi yue shi er) time (1300hrs)
Groom dad-snake 1954yr
bride dad-snake 1953yr
bride mum-monkey 1956yr

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Bel,

The Tong Shu for 2010 is not out yet, so for general tong shu dates, I can only give you when it is out around July period. The best and correct method to choose a wedding date now will be using Bazi.

But for 9th Oct 2010, it is a bad day, so definitely not a day I would recommend you to use at all for your wedding

 

[belbel]

hi david...so for yr suggestion..if i would to arrange for a sat wedding date...prefered to be in oct..which will be good?

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Bel,

If you are referring to Oct 2010, in order for me to provide you with a general Tong Shu auspicious date, we will have to wait till the Tong shu is out. Right now, all my date selections are chosen using both of your Bazi and other date selection techniques, which is independent of the Tong Shu.

Hope this helps

 

[cheekzy]

Hi David,

My friend is holding her customary wedding on Beg Feb & I'll be having my ROM on End Feb. Will it be alright that I attend her wedding coz I heard of some sayings that one shouldn't attend others' wedding 3 months before and after his/her own wedding. I only heard that this is true for customary wedding, but mine is ROM only, will it clash? Thanks!

 

[deris_tan]

Hi David,

Is 20 Mar 2010 or 27 Mar 2010 an auspicious date for wedding?

Bride: Goat
Groom: Snake

Thanks!

 

[shinqane]

Hi David,

This sounds silly but i'm rather concern about the compability of our Bazi as there is one shifu who told me I'll 'ke' my husband, and i definitely do not want that to happen.

Will it be better if we calculate our compability or it doesnt matter as long as our ROM / AD dates are calculated according to our bazi?

Also, is there any remedy if what the other shifu said was true?

Thanks!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi CK,

It is a Chinese belief that 3 months before and after your own wedding, you should not attend any funerals, wakes or weddings.

Although for you it is ROM, but ROM is the day both of you become officially and legally husband and wife. Hence, it is still considered your wedding day. If you asked me, I will advise you not to go. I am sure your friend will understand it as he himself is also getting married

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Deris,

Both days will not clash to both of you. But, since the Tong shu is not out yet (it will be out sometime in July/August period), I cannot give the Tong Shu auspicious dates to you now.

The only way to do it now is to use both yout Bazi to calculate an auspicious date for your wedding. This is much more accurate than using a Tong Shu, which is too general and often, a good day in Tong Shu may still end up a bad day for you if the day doesn't match both your Bazi.

Hope this helps.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Shinqane,

There is no such thing as a silly question, so not to worry

Yes there are such cases. Meaning that there are some people who will "ke" the husband, which means bring bad luck to the husband. After marriage, the luck of the spouse may go down. Similarly, the kids may also "ke' the parents. After child birth, the luck of the parents may go down, or in the worst case scenario, the parents' may pass away after the child is born.

Compatibility has to be calculated using Bazi, but from the perspective of destiny analysis. If your Bazi really "ke" your husband, often yes there will be ways to overcome or minimize it but it is no magic miracle cure. You have to put in the effort and using human actions to change it. There is no use to buy some pendant or jade to wear, and thinking that it will "magically" cure away your problems. How to overcome will depends on each individual bazi.

A good wedding date for ROM/AD is selected to pacify some of the issues you might encounter in your marriage. And yes, it might pacify the issues you mention above.

Therefore, in this case, both Bazi destiny analysis and a good wedding date will have to work hand in hand to pacify or minimise this issue.

Hope this helps

 

[shinqane]

Thanks David! What will be required for the Bazi destiny analysis? Can you help to email me your rates for the dates and destiny analysis as well?
My email add is [email protected], thanks!

 

[nickagnes]

Hi David

I understand that the Tong Shu is not out yet. However would it be possible to know whether 27th March 2010 is a good day to hold wedding dinner?

Bride= Monkey
Groom= Rat
Bride's Mother= Rooster
Bride's Father= Monkey
Groom's Mother= Rat
Groom's Father= Dog

Thanks!

 

[bigman]

wat's Bazi? how to determine Bazi?

 

[topaz]

Harlow David,
Just read that you mentioned there 's a "Chinese belief that 3 months before and after your own wedding, you should not attend any funerals, wakes or weddings." why is this so?? bring bad luck??
Thanks!

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Shinqane,

Sent you an email. Thanks

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Agnes Song,

The only way to know now will be via the Bazi Date selection method, ie, using both your Bazi and in combination with other date selection techniques to select an auspicious date. This is independent from the Tong Shu method and is more accurate. It will be able to tell if a particular day is specifically good for both of you (and not a general day like in the Tong Shu).

The Tong Shu method is not accurate. If you have the chance, flip open the Tong Shu from different publications, online Tong Shu etc and you will find that on one Tong Shu, it says a particular date is good for marriage. But on the other Tong Shu, it may not reflect so. There are inconsistencies between different publications of Tong Shu.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi bigman,

Bazi refers to your birthday and time of birth.

 

[cmg_consulting]

Hi Jalene,

This is just a Chinese belief. Strictly speaking from the perspective of Chinese Metaphysics, there is no such thing. Chinese Metaphysics is independent from culture, traditions and belief. But as a Chinese and this involves marriage, I will still advise you to follow unless both of you and both your parents don't mind.

It is said that it will "chong" and bad luck will happen to either side. Of course this is a Chinese belief and how true it is, no one can measure it

 

[deris_tan]

Hi David,

We are not too sure of our bazi but would you be able to check based on our date and time of birth?

Wedding Date: 20 Mar 2010 or 27 Mar 2010
Bride: Goat (1 Apr 1979, 4.45pm)
Groom: Snake (24 Oct 1977, 3.55pm)

Thanks so much for your help!

 

[bigman]

HI david,

Is it ok if I PM u my bazi , can u check for me?

 

[zlynn]

Hi David,

We are looking to hold our Chinese Wedding on either 1st Nov 2009 or 22nd Nov 2009. Kindly advise which of this is auspicious date for us.

Bride - Dog ( Year 1982)
Groom -Rooster (Year 1981)
Groom parents -Both Roosters
Bride Parents - Dad (Dragon) & Mum (Horse)

Thanks & awaits your reply.

 

[thommy]

Checking of Bazi is chargeable, not FOC if I'm not wrong. David can only give FOC general Tong Shu dates, not Bazi.