I will be conducting a second run of the Wedding Feng Shui Seminar on the 14th November 2009 (Saturday) at SMU. Seats are limited so do register early if you are keen
This seminar is unique in a way that the contents are specially designed and catered for couples who are getting married soon. As far as I know, we are the pioneers in this field and my aim is to address and answer all your doubts so that at the end of this 4 hours seminar, you will leave fully prepared, knowing what to do for your wedding. You will have a clear idea what is a must to do for your wedding and what is a superstition, which if not followed, will not affect your marriage.
You will also gain a full understanding how authentic Feng Shui and Bazi works and how it can help you in changing your destiny and daily lives. I will also show you techniques on how you can select a property on your own. Some of these techniques are worth its weight in gold, if you apply them. Getting it wrong in the first place will bring disasterous results to the feng shui of your house. You will also learn tips and tricks on face reading and palmistry to understand a person's character, which can be used to improve relationship.
For full details about this seminar and reviews from past participants, check out the September section of David's Blog on my website at www.cmgconsulting.com.sg
Dear Master Tong,
Must we always include our parents' horoscope when we calculate dates for AD?
Why is that for some masters, they require only the bride and the groom's details as they said that even if the dates were counted to avoid clashes with the parents' horoscope, even on the day of wedding, there will still be other pple with these horoscopes that clashes in the house and they will just have to turn their back when the the brides first step into the living room.
Here are some general dates you can use for Dec 2010:
- 06/12, 07/12, 18/12
For the seminar, it is more of an informative type of seminar, rather than practical. I want to give everyone as much info as possible within the 4 hours, so it will be jam packed with tons of information. At the end, you will have a clear idea what Feng Shui, Bazi and Date Selections (including all Wedding Customs & Superstitions) is all about. Some face reading and palmistry tips and tricks will also be included. You will also get to see some of my real life case studies from my past audits and how the Qi affects the feng shui of the home. If you are buying a new flat, i will teach you how to do the first layer of filtering which will save you lots of headaches later when you discover you get a lousy facing house with bad feng shui. And much more...so hope to see you there.
Oh yes, after the seminar, you will also understand exactly why using Tong Shu to select a date is wrong
Yes, parent's zodiac signs must be included for wedding dates calculation. This is the way it was practised in ancient times in China. The classical texts of date selections takes the parents' data into consideration. So i have no idea why those masters don't do that...but any decent masters will know that parent's data is important as well.
Why we need to take parent's zodiac signs into consideration is that we must ensure that day don't clash the parents. If it clashes, it could mean possible future sour relationships with parents after the marriage.
Yes there are others around that clashes as well, but they are not going to stay with you right? In the olden days, the bride will stay with the groom's parents after marriage, so avoiding the clash is very important. In modern times, even though some of us shift out to stay outside, still i am sure we don't want any possible sour relationships in the future.
As for the rest of your friends that clash, they just need to "hide" when the groom/bride arrives.
Dec 18 - General tong shu good day. Don't clash to anyone. Can be used.
Nov 13 - Clash to Rooster. Cannot use
Oct 10 - Not a ideal day for marriage.
Oct 23 - Clash to Rat. Cannot use.
Wedding Dinner + ROM (wkday
Dec 20 - Clash to Dog. Cannot use
Dec 29 - Not a ideal day for wedding
Nov 17 - General tong shu good day. Don't clash to anyone. Can be used.
Oct 11 - Clash to Rat. Cannot use
Oct 20 - Clash to Rooster. Cannot use
Nov 4 - Clash to Rat. Cannot use.
Note that these are general dates only. Bazi is not taken into consideration yet as a good date in the tong shu can still be deemed inaupsicious for both of you if the date is not compatible with both your Bazi. Hope this helps
August 27th 2011 is a very bad date for wedding. Avoid at all cost.
However, i will not be able to advise on general tong shu auspicious date for 2011 now as the tong shu will only be out next year around 7th lunar month period. Hence the only way and right way to do it now is to use Bazi to select the wedding dates for 2011 and beyond.
Yes if you are born in year of the Monkey, year 2010 is not a good year for marriage. Monkey and Tiger clahes. Best to do it in year 2011 if possible.
A good date will help to a certain extent if you really want to proceed but the good date chosen cannot be a general tong shu good date. It must be selected using Bazi to ensure the date is specifically good for both of you and no one else. Tong Shu is way too general and for mass consumption only. However, this will be your last option. Ideally still better to do it in year 2011.
Since you are looking at 2nd half of 2010, why not wait a few more mths till Feb 2011?
We like this date a lot so is this date so bad that we cant tie knot on this dat? can you further define clash? What are the outcome of such clash? Is there any help we can do to alleviate besides changing the date?
I have a question here, our sign is Monkey and Rooster, we are actually planning for next year but it seems next year is not a good year for Monkey. Rooster is clashing with Rabbit year. Does that mean in the next following year is not suitable for us to get married as well?
hi master tong, i've asked for a weddings date from a geomancer (requested that ROM and banquet same date) & was given a specific timing for ROM, (11am-1pm) which is right after the "Chu Jia" in the morning. Need your kind advice on the following:
1) How important is it that i follow the ROM timing?
2)What encompasses the "Chu Jia" process? Both of us do not pray to gods or have any ancestor altars at home.
3)Is it necessary for Tea Ceremony to be during the "Chu Jia" timing?
Besides the date clash, it is not a general good day for wedding, which is y i don't advise using this date.
A clash in this case, to your HTB's mum, means that getting married in this day could result in next time relationship with your future monther-in-law may not be so good. And in wedding dates selection, the date selected cannot clash to any of you or your parents. This is the most basic you must do.
Therefore if you ask me a "nice number" date vs a good date, a good date is still more important
Yes that is correct. This is the most tricky situation coz it could mean ideally you must wait till 2012!
So if you cannot wait that long, try to ROM before 4th Feb 2010 (in ox year), and do your AD in 2010 or 2011. And the date selected must be using Bazi to make sure that is a specific good date for both of you, and not using the tong shu method. At least in this case, your ROM is done in a year that does not clash
But use only this method is you really have no choice and cannot wait coz ideally, AD date must be a good date as well.
ROM is VERY VERY important. I cannot stress enough of this, but it is THAT impportant
It is the time both of you officially become husband and wife, so this is the most important thing to follow. Try to follow
I assume you are referring to fetch the bride (jia xin niang)? This is very simple.If your Fetch The Bride timing is 9am - 10.59am, the groom must step into your home at 9am (or after...therefore gate crash is before this timing), fetch u to his home and complete tea ceremony with his parents by 10.59am. After that going back to your new home or parents home for tea ceremony is not within the auspicious timing.
Tea ceremony is normally done within the 2 hrs of the fetch the bride timing.
My brother is getting married in Dec 2009. I am getting married in Jan 2010. This is because someone that I consulted said "one in one out" is ok, will not xi chong xi. However, right now there are disagreements within the older extended family members. Some say me and my htb cannot attend my brother's wedding in Dec and my brother and my future sister in law cannot attend ours in Jan. My brother and me are very close and I would be disappointed if we are not able to be present at each other's wedding.