Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)
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cmg_consulting
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Hi Jean,
As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.
As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.
If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.
As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.
If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
cmg_consulting
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Hi Shaling,
You are welcome
You are welcome
cmg_consulting
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Hi glasse,
For general dates, you can use one of these:
- 10/6, 14/6, 22/6, 26/6, 04/7, 15/7, 18/7, 27/7
Hope this helps
For general dates, you can use one of these:
- 10/6, 14/6, 22/6, 26/6, 04/7, 15/7, 18/7, 27/7
Hope this helps
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Jean,
14/5 is not a good date for wedding
15/5 will clash to Goat, not advisable to use
16/5 doesn't clash to anyone. If it is compatible with both your Bazi, it can be used.
Tong Shu will come out between July-Aug period.
Hope this helps Jean.
14/5 is not a good date for wedding
15/5 will clash to Goat, not advisable to use
16/5 doesn't clash to anyone. If it is compatible with both your Bazi, it can be used.
Tong Shu will come out between July-Aug period.
Hope this helps Jean.
cmg_consulting
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Hi zrluvkt,
If you use a Tong Shu, you will realise that in the Tiger year (2010), every single day for those born in the year of the Monkey will be listed as "Xiong", which is inauspicious, in the Tong Shu.
Hope this helps.
If you use a Tong Shu, you will realise that in the Tiger year (2010), every single day for those born in the year of the Monkey will be listed as "Xiong", which is inauspicious, in the Tong Shu.
Hope this helps.
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi elcp7880,
10th Oct 2010 is not a general good day for wedding.
10th Oct 2010 is not a general good day for wedding.
cmg_consulting
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Hi glasse,
You are welcome
You are welcome
cmg_consulting
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Hi ELCP7880,
Yes you are right.
In 2010:
Oct 03 - Not a good day for wedding
Oct 31 - Clash to Monkey, not advisable to use.
Nov 07 - Does not clash to anyone
Nov 21 - Clash to Snake, not asvisable to use.
Only 7th Nov is ok. Whether if it is good or not, i will need to use Bazi to determine. For general auspicious days, we have to wait till the Tong Shu is out.
Hope this helps.
Yes you are right.
In 2010:
Oct 03 - Not a good day for wedding
Oct 31 - Clash to Monkey, not advisable to use.
Nov 07 - Does not clash to anyone
Nov 21 - Clash to Snake, not asvisable to use.
Only 7th Nov is ok. Whether if it is good or not, i will need to use Bazi to determine. For general auspicious days, we have to wait till the Tong Shu is out.
Hope this helps.
cmg_consulting
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Hi Vicki,
I will need the parents animals signs as well.
"My mum was saying that people don't GDL on chinese 3rd, 6th & 7th mth and this year there are 2 5th mth" --> This is defintely not true. This is just a Chinese belief or superstition. But if this pleases your mum, then you are advised to go ahead and follow her wishes
I will need the parents animals signs as well.
"My mum was saying that people don't GDL on chinese 3rd, 6th & 7th mth and this year there are 2 5th mth" --> This is defintely not true. This is just a Chinese belief or superstition. But if this pleases your mum, then you are advised to go ahead and follow her wishes
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi holyn,
This is not a general good day for wedding.
Hope this helps.
This is not a general good day for wedding.
Hope this helps.
Hi Master Tong,
Can you kindly advice in general which weekend in june 2010 is possible for a traditional wedding? I understand you need to do ba zi calculation for more accuracy. I just need a general date for now.
Groom: Dragon, 1976
Father: Rabbit, 1951
Mother: Rabbit, 1951
Bride: Pig,1983
Father: Dog, 1958
Mother: Dog, 1958
Thanks a lot for your help.
Can you kindly advice in general which weekend in june 2010 is possible for a traditional wedding? I understand you need to do ba zi calculation for more accuracy. I just need a general date for now.
Groom: Dragon, 1976
Father: Rabbit, 1951
Mother: Rabbit, 1951
Bride: Pig,1983
Father: Dog, 1958
Mother: Dog, 1958
Thanks a lot for your help.
Hi Master TOng,
Can you kindly advice if 10 Oct 2010 is a good date for traditional wedding or can you provide some general good dates between the period Oct - Dec 2010?
Groom: 28 Nov 1983, Pig
Father: 16 May 1955, Sheep
Mother: 3 Dec 1957, Rooster
Bride: 12 oct 1983, Pig
Father: 29 april 1953, Snake
Mother: 12 sep 1958, Dog
Can you kindly advice if 10 Oct 2010 is a good date for traditional wedding or can you provide some general good dates between the period Oct - Dec 2010?
Groom: 28 Nov 1983, Pig
Father: 16 May 1955, Sheep
Mother: 3 Dec 1957, Rooster
Bride: 12 oct 1983, Pig
Father: 29 april 1953, Snake
Mother: 12 sep 1958, Dog
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi ELCP1880,
Definitely Rabbit yr will be more favourable coz in Tiger yr, it will clash to Monkey, which is the bride. For parents, we only need to take into account the day don't clash to them, not the year.
Definitely Rabbit yr will be more favourable coz in Tiger yr, it will clash to Monkey, which is the bride. For parents, we only need to take into account the day don't clash to them, not the year.
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Christie,
For general dates, i can only give it when the Tong shu is out sometime in July period. For now, i won't know how the Tong shu is going to chart out the dates. In authentic date selection, we don't use the Tong Shu at all.
For general dates, i can only give it when the Tong shu is out sometime in July period. For now, i won't know how the Tong shu is going to chart out the dates. In authentic date selection, we don't use the Tong Shu at all.
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Jean,
No worries. Here it is:
27/3/10 - Clash to Horse (none of you).
29/5/10 - Clash to Rooster, hence cannot be used.
Hope this helps.
No worries. Here it is:
27/3/10 - Clash to Horse (none of you).
29/5/10 - Clash to Rooster, hence cannot be used.
Hope this helps.
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Cindy,
10 Oct 2010 will clash to Pig, which is both your animal sign, hence cannot be used. And that day is not a good day for wedding as well.
For 2010 general good dates, i will need to wait for the Tong Shu to be out sometime in July period. Right now, all my wedding date selections are done using Bazi, which is the correct and accurate method. This is the only way to tell if a particular day is specifically good for the birde and groom and no one else. Tong Shu is for mass consumption only and a good day listed in the Tong Shu can still turn out to be a bad day if the day is not compatible with both your Bazi.
Hope this helps.
10 Oct 2010 will clash to Pig, which is both your animal sign, hence cannot be used. And that day is not a good day for wedding as well.
For 2010 general good dates, i will need to wait for the Tong Shu to be out sometime in July period. Right now, all my wedding date selections are done using Bazi, which is the correct and accurate method. This is the only way to tell if a particular day is specifically good for the birde and groom and no one else. Tong Shu is for mass consumption only and a good day listed in the Tong Shu can still turn out to be a bad day if the day is not compatible with both your Bazi.
Hope this helps.
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Vicki,
The nearest date to your wedding for GDL will be 15/08/2009. You can't do it in the 7th month, and it is normally done within 1 month of your AD date.But 15/8 is in the 6th month, so if you mum don't want to do it in 6th mth (which by the way is just a superstition), then you will have to do it 2 months before your AD date! Which i think is a bit too far off from your AD.
Hope this helps.
The nearest date to your wedding for GDL will be 15/08/2009. You can't do it in the 7th month, and it is normally done within 1 month of your AD date.But 15/8 is in the 6th month, so if you mum don't want to do it in 6th mth (which by the way is just a superstition), then you will have to do it 2 months before your AD date! Which i think is a bit too far off from your AD.
Hope this helps.
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi ELCP7880,
You are welcome
You are welcome
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Vicki,
The 3 months is used as a guide. Since 4th July is + - 3 months of your own wedding, I suggest not to go unless both sides (including your parents) feel comfortable about it.
The 3 months is used as a guide. Since 4th July is + - 3 months of your own wedding, I suggest not to go unless both sides (including your parents) feel comfortable about it.
styleinyou
New Member
Hi Master,
1) Would liked to know which dates is more important (dif days) ROM date or Chinese AD?
2) Heard that next yr is a blind year which is not advisable for marriage?
1) Would liked to know which dates is more important (dif days) ROM date or Chinese AD?
2) Heard that next yr is a blind year which is not advisable for marriage?
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Siy,
ROM is more important than AD. ROM is the day both of you officially and legally become husband and wife. AD is only the banquet and tea ceremony. In the old days, there is no such thing as ROM. Everything is done on the AD day, hence AD is ver important in olden days. In modern day context, if you split your ROM and AD to 2 different days, then ROM will be more important.
For your question on Mang Nian, I've actually written a short explanation of it some time back in one of the threads here. Here is a "repost" of that thread:
It is certainly not true at all that "Mang Nian" is not good for marriage.
First, we must know what a "Mang Nian" means and why is it call a "Mang Nian". Most of the time, we just know "Oh..next yr is Mang Nian, cannot get married coz not good for marriage and no good to have kids". In acutal fact, we must find out WHY. The WHY is important in everything we do. Whether it be Feng Shui, Bazi or Date Selections, sometimes we must ask ourselves WHY?
Coming back to "Mang Nian", basically a yr is considered a "Mang Nian" coz the 1st day of the Lunar New Year falls after 4th or 5th of Feb. This is the case for year 2010. The 4th/5th of Feb every year is call the "Li Chun", which means the "Beginning of Spring". It is a belief that if the "Li Chun" is before the 1st day of the Lunar New Year, then when the Lunar New Year comes, there is "No Spring" or "No Li Chun" in that Lunar Year. This is why it is call a "Mang Nian".
There is no logic as to why you cannot get married in "Mang Nian". If every person in this world who gets married in "Mang Nian" gets divoced, then yes I am convinced that this is a bad year for marriage. But this is not so. And there are so many couples who get married in "Mang Nian" are living happily ever after, right?
Whether a person's marriage is good or bad is not determined by all these tradition, culture, beliefs or myths. It is determined by your Bazi Destiny Chart, which is the date and time you are born. And along with the Feng Shui of your house which will affect and influence your life as well as our own decisions and human actions that we make daily, these will "form" our Destiny. These 3 factors are also what is commonly known in Chinese as "Tian, Di, Ren", which means "Heaven, Earth, Man", the cosmic trinity that governs our life and destiny.
Coming back to "Li Chun" again, in actual fact, there is still a "Li Chun" every year. It is just a matter of before or after 1st day of the Lunar New Year.
And "Li Chun" in Chinese Metaphysics is a very important transition point between each year. It is the date where the Feng Shui of a house changes yearly. It is the date where the Destiny of a person changes yearly. It is also the ACTUAL transition point between 2 animal signs, which means whatever animal sign you are is determined not by the lunar new year but by 4th/5th Feb each year. So this means that if your child is born on the 29th Jan 2009 this year, it is a Rat and not an Ox. Some people make this big mistake and tell their child they are born in the year of the Ox. Imagine the horror 30 years later when he/she grows up and go for a Bazi Destiny Analysis or Wedding Dates calculation, only to realise he is a Rat and not a Ox!
I hope this clarifies your doubts
ROM is more important than AD. ROM is the day both of you officially and legally become husband and wife. AD is only the banquet and tea ceremony. In the old days, there is no such thing as ROM. Everything is done on the AD day, hence AD is ver important in olden days. In modern day context, if you split your ROM and AD to 2 different days, then ROM will be more important.
For your question on Mang Nian, I've actually written a short explanation of it some time back in one of the threads here. Here is a "repost" of that thread:
It is certainly not true at all that "Mang Nian" is not good for marriage.
First, we must know what a "Mang Nian" means and why is it call a "Mang Nian". Most of the time, we just know "Oh..next yr is Mang Nian, cannot get married coz not good for marriage and no good to have kids". In acutal fact, we must find out WHY. The WHY is important in everything we do. Whether it be Feng Shui, Bazi or Date Selections, sometimes we must ask ourselves WHY?
Coming back to "Mang Nian", basically a yr is considered a "Mang Nian" coz the 1st day of the Lunar New Year falls after 4th or 5th of Feb. This is the case for year 2010. The 4th/5th of Feb every year is call the "Li Chun", which means the "Beginning of Spring". It is a belief that if the "Li Chun" is before the 1st day of the Lunar New Year, then when the Lunar New Year comes, there is "No Spring" or "No Li Chun" in that Lunar Year. This is why it is call a "Mang Nian".
There is no logic as to why you cannot get married in "Mang Nian". If every person in this world who gets married in "Mang Nian" gets divoced, then yes I am convinced that this is a bad year for marriage. But this is not so. And there are so many couples who get married in "Mang Nian" are living happily ever after, right?
Whether a person's marriage is good or bad is not determined by all these tradition, culture, beliefs or myths. It is determined by your Bazi Destiny Chart, which is the date and time you are born. And along with the Feng Shui of your house which will affect and influence your life as well as our own decisions and human actions that we make daily, these will "form" our Destiny. These 3 factors are also what is commonly known in Chinese as "Tian, Di, Ren", which means "Heaven, Earth, Man", the cosmic trinity that governs our life and destiny.
Coming back to "Li Chun" again, in actual fact, there is still a "Li Chun" every year. It is just a matter of before or after 1st day of the Lunar New Year.
And "Li Chun" in Chinese Metaphysics is a very important transition point between each year. It is the date where the Feng Shui of a house changes yearly. It is the date where the Destiny of a person changes yearly. It is also the ACTUAL transition point between 2 animal signs, which means whatever animal sign you are is determined not by the lunar new year but by 4th/5th Feb each year. So this means that if your child is born on the 29th Jan 2009 this year, it is a Rat and not an Ox. Some people make this big mistake and tell their child they are born in the year of the Ox. Imagine the horror 30 years later when he/she grows up and go for a Bazi Destiny Analysis or Wedding Dates calculation, only to realise he is a Rat and not a Ox!
I hope this clarifies your doubts
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Vicki,
You are welcome.
You are welcome.
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Hershey,
As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.
As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.
If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.
As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.
If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
styleinyou
New Member
Thanks Master Tong for your clarification
msdomestic
New Member
hi master tong,
can you pls kindly help me check my date? AD: 23 july2010..
groom: 4th jan 1984 (pig)
bride: 3rd april 1983(pig)
bride's
father: dragon
Mum: horse
groom's:
father: monkey
mum
ig
my younger sis is tiger.. does it matter?
i heard she cant be around for my gateclashing and she is pretty upset abt it..
thanks alot
can you pls kindly help me check my date? AD: 23 july2010..
groom: 4th jan 1984 (pig)
bride: 3rd april 1983(pig)
bride's
father: dragon
Mum: horse
groom's:
father: monkey
mum
ig my younger sis is tiger.. does it matter?
i heard she cant be around for my gateclashing and she is pretty upset abt it..
thanks alot
Hi Master Tong,
Can you kindly advice if below these dates is a good date for our traditional ceremony ?
22 June 09
19 Sept 09
20 Sept 09
Groom : Rooster, 1969
Father : Pig, 1935
Mother : Ox, 1937
Bride : Tiger, 1974
Father: Dog, 1943
Mother: Rat, 1949
Thanks in advance.
Can you kindly advice if below these dates is a good date for our traditional ceremony ?
22 June 09
19 Sept 09
20 Sept 09
Groom : Rooster, 1969
Father : Pig, 1935
Mother : Ox, 1937
Bride : Tiger, 1974
Father: Dog, 1943
Mother: Rat, 1949
Thanks in advance.
Hi Master Tong,
Can you kindly advice if below these dates is a good date for our traditional ceremony ?
05/03/2011
21/05/2011
Groom : Chicken/Monkey, 23 Jan 1981
Bride : Rat, 20 May 1984
Groom
Father : Snake
Mother : Rooster
Elder Brother: Rat
Younger Brother: tiger
Bride
Father: Dragon
Mother: Pig
Sister: Goat
Elder Bro: Monkey
Younger Bro: Rat
Thanks in advance.
Can you kindly advice if below these dates is a good date for our traditional ceremony ?
05/03/2011
21/05/2011
Groom : Chicken/Monkey, 23 Jan 1981
Bride : Rat, 20 May 1984
Groom
Father : Snake
Mother : Rooster
Elder Brother: Rat
Younger Brother: tiger
Bride
Father: Dragon
Mother: Pig
Sister: Goat
Elder Bro: Monkey
Younger Bro: Rat
Thanks in advance.
hi master tong,
can you kindly advise, is it a must to light the lamp in room or "chuang tou deng" on the actual day? is there a timing for this or something?
must we keep the lamp light up for the entire day?
PS: i had asked u regarding what is "everything" that we have to complete on the actual day previously. thanks!
can you kindly advise, is it a must to light the lamp in room or "chuang tou deng" on the actual day? is there a timing for this or something?
must we keep the lamp light up for the entire day?
PS: i had asked u regarding what is "everything" that we have to complete on the actual day previously. thanks!
Hi Master Tong,
Could you advise us on the dates for wedding?
We are looking at 29nov 2009.
Is this a good date for a ROM/wedding dinner?
We will not have traditonal ceremony in the morning, is the date still impt?
alternatively, is there any dates we could look at?
Groom - Rooster 1969
Bride - Dog 1982
groom mom - dragon 1940
bride mom - snake 1944
bride dad - rat 1948
Could you advise us on the dates for wedding?
We are looking at 29nov 2009.
Is this a good date for a ROM/wedding dinner?
We will not have traditonal ceremony in the morning, is the date still impt?
alternatively, is there any dates we could look at?
Groom - Rooster 1969
Bride - Dog 1982
groom mom - dragon 1940
bride mom - snake 1944
bride dad - rat 1948
cmg_consulting
Active Member
Hi Siy,
You are welcome
You are welcome