livelaughlove
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hello everyone, need some help with an issue.
My bf and I are getting married next yr and have been planning for our wedding. Everything has been really nice and merry, just like how you would expect a couple in love and preparing to spend the rest of their lives together.
My bf is very loving towards me and believes that a man should take up the bulk of expenses for the wedding and I do not need to worry about it.
But being me, somewhat independent and having a mind of my own, I would want to contribute to the wedding.
Here lies the problem, I do not have adequate savings or rather, I barely have any savings. So I am planning to get a personal loan from a bank and play my part in paying for stuff in the wedding.
And, I am planning not to let my bf know about it because I am sure he would ask me not to get the loan and that he can afford everything. But the PRIDE in me is saying that I need to help to pay at least for certain things...
If I go ahead and take the loan and hide it from him, I would have the cash. But if he finds out eventually, he will definitely be very unhappy.
If I just let him pay for everything for the wedding, I would feel very indebted to him... And I would feel useless....
I ever bring it up to him that my efforts will be limited and he always assured me that I can play my part by giving more to our household expenses in the future...
I do not know what to do... I really want to pay for stuff but I know at this current point, my efforts are limited... And if I get a loan, and my bf finds out, he will probably be really angry and disappointed.
How how how??
My bf and I are getting married next yr and have been planning for our wedding. Everything has been really nice and merry, just like how you would expect a couple in love and preparing to spend the rest of their lives together.
My bf is very loving towards me and believes that a man should take up the bulk of expenses for the wedding and I do not need to worry about it.
But being me, somewhat independent and having a mind of my own, I would want to contribute to the wedding.
Here lies the problem, I do not have adequate savings or rather, I barely have any savings. So I am planning to get a personal loan from a bank and play my part in paying for stuff in the wedding.
And, I am planning not to let my bf know about it because I am sure he would ask me not to get the loan and that he can afford everything. But the PRIDE in me is saying that I need to help to pay at least for certain things...
If I go ahead and take the loan and hide it from him, I would have the cash. But if he finds out eventually, he will definitely be very unhappy.
If I just let him pay for everything for the wedding, I would feel very indebted to him... And I would feel useless....
I ever bring it up to him that my efforts will be limited and he always assured me that I can play my part by giving more to our household expenses in the future...
I do not know what to do... I really want to pay for stuff but I know at this current point, my efforts are limited... And if I get a loan, and my bf finds out, he will probably be really angry and disappointed.
How how how??