wat_are_dreamz
New Member
Hi Spiderman, i can't speak for every female. But for myself, even if i were to have wedding jitters, i wld speak w my gfs n not tell my bf tat i need time to consider. Cos i am matured enough to understand tat sometimes we have abit of fear n anxiety over the future. Being scared n worried abt the long road ahead doesnt mean i dun want to spend my life w my bf. It just means its a gd time to go for a drink w the gals.
For ur case, it sounds as though ur gf is not even interested in the marriage. If she is really having wedding jitters, chances are she shd be feeling confused n confiding in her close frens, not playing mahjong. Plus i wonder y is it tat after 4yrs+ of courtship, u arent close to her family? Unless she isnt close to them. If she is close to her family n frens, then u shd have made the effort to forge a comfortable r/ship w them.
I wld strongly recommend u to postpone the wedding. U apparently do not understand her heart, though u keep saying nothing has changed. Truth is tat ur r/ship doesnt seem strong n stable at all. Both of u might be at v different stages of ur life. Dun make the mistake of following thro w the marriage plans, only to be trapped in a lonely marriage or end up in divorce. Wateva it is, stop the plans for now n sit down to really trash things out.
For ur case, it sounds as though ur gf is not even interested in the marriage. If she is really having wedding jitters, chances are she shd be feeling confused n confiding in her close frens, not playing mahjong. Plus i wonder y is it tat after 4yrs+ of courtship, u arent close to her family? Unless she isnt close to them. If she is close to her family n frens, then u shd have made the effort to forge a comfortable r/ship w them.
I wld strongly recommend u to postpone the wedding. U apparently do not understand her heart, though u keep saying nothing has changed. Truth is tat ur r/ship doesnt seem strong n stable at all. Both of u might be at v different stages of ur life. Dun make the mistake of following thro w the marriage plans, only to be trapped in a lonely marriage or end up in divorce. Wateva it is, stop the plans for now n sit down to really trash things out.