Kids to continue contact with ex after divorce?
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He is not abusive to kids. The kids is actually seeing him very Sunday for almost 8 hrs.
Because of the kids' growing up phrases, i let my kids to see him every week. But now he request 2-3 times pick them from school, stay over at his place 2 times a month, bring them overseas trip. These which i find it difficult to give in. Of course, then he will start to threaten to go to court to apply for custody or care and control. I'm not afraid of him, just that i dont want to go through any unneccessary procedures, and which in turn, affect the kids.
What is reasonable access? Once a week is consider reasonable access to him already right?
Because of the kids' growing up phrases, i let my kids to see him every week. But now he request 2-3 times pick them from school, stay over at his place 2 times a month, bring them overseas trip. These which i find it difficult to give in. Of course, then he will start to threaten to go to court to apply for custody or care and control. I'm not afraid of him, just that i dont want to go through any unneccessary procedures, and which in turn, affect the kids.
What is reasonable access? Once a week is consider reasonable access to him already right?
miloice
Well-Known Member
if the concern is about the trouble of court proceedings, negotiate it with him. Instead of fixed agreement of picking them up 2-3 times, give a bit flexibility for him to pick up the kids sometimes but not as a regular arrangement? Likewise, overseas trips why not? It just needs to be planned ahead.
Does your children enjoy staying over with him? If yes, then why deprive them from it? If no, its good reason to decline citing the children doesn't want to stay over.
Does your children enjoy staying over with him? If yes, then why deprive them from it? If no, its good reason to decline citing the children doesn't want to stay over.
mum_of_2_girls
New Member
Hi poppy,
May I know if you and your Ex had other partners now? If not, why don't you just join him for the Sunday outings and overseas trips?
Even if divorced, still can be friends, provided both of you don't have partners now.
May I know if you and your Ex had other partners now? If not, why don't you just join him for the Sunday outings and overseas trips?
Even if divorced, still can be friends, provided both of you don't have partners now.
Hi poopy, any reasons why do you want to restrict his access? One of my friends (guy) visit his kids everyday. He will send them to school and have dinner at his ex's place every night before he go home. He will also spend his weekends with them (plus his ex).
He told me that he can forgo everything in the world just to participate in his kids' growing up phase.
He told me that he can forgo everything in the world just to participate in his kids' growing up phase.
Sorry, another selfish mother that wants restrictions on child access..
How about turning the other way round. Assuming, hb has care and control - is once a week of access good enough for you.
time with children is NEVER enough. Just need to compromise and balance. Give as much as possibly can practically.
How about turning the other way round. Assuming, hb has care and control - is once a week of access good enough for you.
time with children is NEVER enough. Just need to compromise and balance. Give as much as possibly can practically.