Just also to get things straight, in my very first post in response to yours, there was no malice in it. I was cordial and just only stated the fact that the ROM recommends that we give an AP of between $50-$100. And as you indicated to Jerry, it was not quite right for Mr. Chan to demand for more ang pow not once, but twice. Yes, $48 may have been a bit "too small" in the eyes of some, and while Mr. Chan could have requested for more (Already very distasteful to do this, especially when Jerry was in the midst of conducting the tea ceremony) to recover the supposed $60 in transport costs , there was absolutely no case in asking Jerry for more after Jerry gave him $20 more, since $68 is within the guidelines given by the ROM.
Second point: "You only paid the administrative fee at ROM and signed your cert at ROM without presenting an ang pow. (SCORE!!!) " I don't know if there was any hidden meaning behind (SCORE!!) but if you were of the opinion that I should have given an ang pow, then I'd say, just as what was indicated by you above, the ROM staff are paid to do it, and everything is done in 10-15 mins, unlike a "good" roving JP,I don't see why an ang pow is needed in the first place. To add, I am not aware of anyone who actually gave an AP to the ROM solemnizer, and there is the question of whether they are supposed to accept it, as I believe they are considered to be civil servants, unlike a JP?
And unlike comparing a Lexus vs a Toyota, where there are clear, objective criteria (e.g. horse power etc), how do you define a "good" JP? One that is very humorous, or one that gives you a long talk about managing the relationship? And how much of an ang pow do you consider "too small"? How much would you consider sufficient for a "good" JP then? $120? $200?
It's helpful that ROM provides a rough guideline on how much one may give. If a couple gives more than $100 (the maximum amt of the range), that's a bonus. But is it correct of the JP to demand an ang pow, like what Mr Chan did? Somehow that defies the spirit of voluntary public service, no?
I am just airing my views in a polite manner in tis post, just like anyone else here can, and should. But I do not expect to be flamed the way I was yesterday for no good reason.