Is it considered cheating?

[misssleepy]

Hi everyone, I would like your opinions on this: Is having fling/ons considered cheating when a couple is on a break (decided to pause the relationship and give each other time/space)?

Thank you!

 

[beaverjuice]

Depends on what "giving each other a break" means to him. In my mind, it is so that one can reflect on whether the relationship is worth salvaging.

Bottomline, there is still unfinished business. And i don't think it is right to go find a comfort woman or man in the meantime. It does not edify the existing relationship.

 

[DWiz]

In my pov, it's consider as cheating. You both are still in relationship, despite having a 'break' or so-called cooling period.
Unless both have totally break up, and no longer can/want to be together.

 

[buddhabar]

Hi everyone, I would like your opinions on this: Is having fling/ons considered cheating when a couple is on a break (decided to pause the relationship and give each other time/space)?

Thank you!

This is really subjective, what was the mutual agreement and understanding during the "break".
- cooling off period where a couple remains in a committed relationship but cooling off to sort out their thoughts and their
future respectively.
- cooling off period where a couple can open their social circle without the restraint in relationship to evaluate some different perspectives in the
other aspect in their life

If yours falls under the former, then he is wrong and had cheated behind your back using the cooling period as an excuse.
and in the later , he is technically not wrong of infidelity. But in a relationship, sometimes there is no right nor wrong.

Personally, i went thru the later cooling break with my Ex whom during the break had a 1 month relationship with her colleague. She was working in a global fund house while i was doing my final year in university, the vast differences between a sch boy and some suave high flying colleague led to some very unfair comparison imo. Though she said she was swayed, misled during our most mundane stage and was most affirmative about our relationship coming out of our cooling period, i was the one who could not reconcile with the fact she had sex with another man. The thoughts of their intimate physical moments were killing me everyday then. In the end i could not torment myself any further and choose not to reconcile our relationship. She wasn't in the wrong, but neither am i.
What is your acceptance level without compromising self-torment ? If you choose to accept it, you cant use it as a ground in future.
Don't be mean to yourself.

 

[weicaihong28]

It all depends on what giving each other a break means to you all, are all relationship privileges revoked during that period of time? Because officially you're still in the relationship.