I just got married, less than six months ago. The wedding ceremony....wow. It really touched my heart when we finally made it with so much hurdles.
A month to our marriage, I found out he have been having an affair with a married woman, and it started before we got married.
My question was, “Why did you marry me if you already had an affair/two timing with someone else?”
His answer was, “Because I love you.”
I swear to God it was so painful living with him after knowing his affair with another woman. A married woman, to add on.
I’ve been lied to so many times within less than 6 months of marriage. I’ve given him multiple chances but his relationship with this lady kept on going. I asked for a divorce because it is really mentally exhausting having to live with a man who said “I love you” to me everyday but never fail to surprise me with his daily stunts.
Instead of apologising, he asked me to be better than that woman. He asked me to be more intelligent than that woman. Told me that this incident should have already given me a boost to step up my game - shouldn’t he be stepping up his game for his loyal wife instead? He would say there is no point of praying everyday if I can’t stop thinking negatively about that woman.
I mean...if she have all the qualities he needs, then let me go and find that perfect woman that he needs. How can I not feel negative and insecure about this situation when my own husband have been comparing me to his “scandal”?
We’ve been living separately for a month now, and every time I texted him to proceed with the divorce, he would ignore my texts. He doesn’t even come over or meet me. He doesn’t even want to let me go. I don’t think he even knows what he wants.
I feel so mentally exhausted with this situation and needs help on how to proceed with a divorce, and how to move on with life without abusing myself for feeling that I am never enough for anyone.
A month to our marriage, I found out he have been having an affair with a married woman, and it started before we got married.
My question was, “Why did you marry me if you already had an affair/two timing with someone else?”
His answer was, “Because I love you.”
I swear to God it was so painful living with him after knowing his affair with another woman. A married woman, to add on.
I’ve been lied to so many times within less than 6 months of marriage. I’ve given him multiple chances but his relationship with this lady kept on going. I asked for a divorce because it is really mentally exhausting having to live with a man who said “I love you” to me everyday but never fail to surprise me with his daily stunts.
Instead of apologising, he asked me to be better than that woman. He asked me to be more intelligent than that woman. Told me that this incident should have already given me a boost to step up my game - shouldn’t he be stepping up his game for his loyal wife instead? He would say there is no point of praying everyday if I can’t stop thinking negatively about that woman.
I mean...if she have all the qualities he needs, then let me go and find that perfect woman that he needs. How can I not feel negative and insecure about this situation when my own husband have been comparing me to his “scandal”?
We’ve been living separately for a month now, and every time I texted him to proceed with the divorce, he would ignore my texts. He doesn’t even come over or meet me. He doesn’t even want to let me go. I don’t think he even knows what he wants.
I feel so mentally exhausted with this situation and needs help on how to proceed with a divorce, and how to move on with life without abusing myself for feeling that I am never enough for anyone.
