Inauspicious wedding date

[cococherry]

Hi all,

I konw its abit silly to ask but will it really affect happiness for choosing an inauspicious date?
alot of friends have been saying negative remarks and it scares me when i had picked an inauspcious date for my AD.

 

[miloice]

Depends on the individual... if you are this easily influenced to worry this and that, that, you will be affected by it in more than one way. It will be endless worries, its about you. If you are not comfortable with it, then choose another date. Simple as that. Don't complicate something this simple.

My MIL and some relatives insists that we cannot say anything good or nice about my baby in his presence, it will bring him bad luck. They also believe I cannot move the bed or do any renovation. I got the bedroom ready for baby, got a new bed and paintwork. My son have not been affected badly by all the good things we say of him.

It affects only the people the believes in them. This is because, we enjoy living our lives, living every moment of it and not sitting and waiting all day to bring relevance to everything to our hearsay beliefs. This is self fulfilling prophesy. When u have a bunch of family waiting for things to happen to pinpoint and blame, they will always find something. It will be very irritating coping with their rants.

 

[simpleman]

Dates will not affect.. but the thoughts of you thinking that it will affect will definitely affect you.

So, like what Milo has suggested. Just choose a better date if you are so uptight about what friends are saying.

 

[cuclainne]

it's more common among the older folks .. i think the young ones just follow along for the sake of not taking chances ..

talking about babies - when my 1st one was a few weeks old, i took her to visit my pregnant cousin .. her MIL touched my daughter's face and then rubbed my cousin's tummy, saying hopefully her baby will turn out to be like mine!!! (?????)

 

[ariel84]

Chocolatte, my hubs and i did the "auspicious" date thing because his parents insisted and i went along even though i don't believe in it.

My good friend got auspicious date too when she got married.. She's divorced now, due to varius reasons.

So imo the date doesn't matter.

 

[blueprincess]

Hi Chocolatte, i agree w Ariel. Wat is more impt is u n ur hubby love n trust each other n r ready for marriage. I hav a friend who married on d 13th n she is still happily married and her hubby is a good man who loves her.

 

[tomasulu]

i am sorry, it is perhaps rude to ask but... why do you believe in stupid things? why do you succumb so easily to irrational fears? why can't you exercise logical thinking? what made you so? was it because you were scarred by granny's dark tales? or were you just born with a weaker constitution?

just curious.

 

[powder]

we're just mere humans, how would we know?

u should conider going to the guanyin temple at waterloo there... if the medium there can tell u the gender of your unborn more accurately than the gynae, i would think auspicious wedding dates would be within the powers. gynae is human, just like the rest of us... so our advice is moot actually.

personally, a good date is very important. the best date for marriage is 29th of feb, 2nd best would be 25th dec or spouse's bday...

the amount of time & money u save by cracking your head and fighting over presents and remembering the dates, would allot u alot of time for more impt things, and create a very harmonious environment becos u take away unnecessary reasons to quarrel.

but do check with the medium first, pls remember to tip heavily...

dun forget to thank your frens who advise u on an auspicious date, they are true frens. Others just leave u to wilt...

 

[tomasulu]

For the future to be deterministic there must be an entity to ensure it is so. Such an entity we call God. I'm simplifying things but you can't believe in "fate" or agents knowing about the future unless you also believe in God. If such an entity exist, do you think he would alter the events of the future based on you choosing the dates of events in your life? If that's the case it almost makes this "God" a servant to your whim. Just think of the downstream implications of that one change and multiple that by thousands of people around of world who worry like you do and attempt to better their futures like you do. The future in such a world can no longer be deterministic. Even the matrix would have to reboot every few seconds. And if the future cannot be determined your happy marriage because of auspicious wedding date cannot be guaranteed.

Even if we assume such is the case, what dates are we talking about? Do we have to account for time zone? Different calendars?

And think about the one person who had the most and best resources to do all things according to the most ausipicious dates. The ancient Chinese emperor! Did it help? Did all emperors enjoy a so called good life and had happy domestic lives? No fights among the concubines no ungrateful kids attempting coups to take over the throne?

 

[min_min_87]

i think nothing worth more than peace of mind.. if raelly disturbing you, i will change it cos i want everything to start on the right footing and with lots of blessing!

 

[miloice]

hi min_min, that dream of the perfect start often leads to no peace. Burns bridge and lots of disappointments. There could be no perfect wedding if the bride is unhappy. It will be perfect for the couple as long as enjoy it perfectly. It doesn't have to depend on all the external factors, many are beyond our control.

 

[saggitarian]

Dont be stupid .. 天时 åœ°ç† äººå’Œã€‚

Dates just took 1/3 of the factor in. They say June July cannot get marry. Do you see ROM close for these 2 months?

It doesnt mean that dates are impt or not impt. Its a matter on how you approach it. IF you think landing a gd date will be successful without effort is wrong. Neither a bad date with strong effort in will always be a failure.

Did you go check the date when you 2 get together ? maybe it was on a bad date that you agree to be his girlfriend but you are still marrying now.

Think abt it and friends are just idiot who loves to comment, watch free shows and gossip behind your back. Do they help you to manage your husband ?

 

[cococherry]

hahz, how dumb isn't it to believe them but couldn help feeling scare & disturb whenever others make comment abt it.
my logical mind has become weaker because of few mishaps that happened in the family lately. we arent changing our date and thats for sure.