rubbermaid
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Hi girls, I need help with this problem...i feel so STUCK.
I have VERY traditional parents. My HTB comes from a more ang-moh sort of family, where my father-in-law insists that he will NOT do any form of ti qin nor provide any guo da li, he feels it's meaningless. My parents are insisting that they do something, are waiting for them to propose and ask them what they want in terms of the dowry.
I feel very frustrated and angry. On one part, I know that my in-laws have been very kind and they have not asked for anything AT ALL for our wedding, they will just follow whatever we want and just want us to have a good time. On the other part, my parents are just insisting that they have this and that...it makes me SO TIRED.
I really don't understand why they must be like that? It has ended up in so many quarrels and arguments..why can't they just let go of the tradition and let us have a happy wedding instead? While I understand that a wedding involves both the families coming together and I do respect them very much, sometimes I feel as though they have no respect for what we want, as the bride and groom, either!
My HTB is very busy, granted his line in the finance industry. We absolutely have no time to do all these...and sigh, we're both not traditional at all....sigh, how do people manage a wedding when everybody else, who is NOT part of the wedding, tries to place in their own agendas???
Need help.....!! I'm so tired....
I have VERY traditional parents. My HTB comes from a more ang-moh sort of family, where my father-in-law insists that he will NOT do any form of ti qin nor provide any guo da li, he feels it's meaningless. My parents are insisting that they do something, are waiting for them to propose and ask them what they want in terms of the dowry.
I feel very frustrated and angry. On one part, I know that my in-laws have been very kind and they have not asked for anything AT ALL for our wedding, they will just follow whatever we want and just want us to have a good time. On the other part, my parents are just insisting that they have this and that...it makes me SO TIRED.
I really don't understand why they must be like that? It has ended up in so many quarrels and arguments..why can't they just let go of the tradition and let us have a happy wedding instead? While I understand that a wedding involves both the families coming together and I do respect them very much, sometimes I feel as though they have no respect for what we want, as the bride and groom, either!
My HTB is very busy, granted his line in the finance industry. We absolutely have no time to do all these...and sigh, we're both not traditional at all....sigh, how do people manage a wedding when everybody else, who is NOT part of the wedding, tries to place in their own agendas???
Need help.....!! I'm so tired....