I am v disappointed at sm and powder actually asked TS to "take the step to "try" with him". Is this trial a game? How much pains is this trial going to bring on innocent parties especially the kid? Sm and powder don't even know whether TS' boss has problems with his family but just because TS has a crush, then she should "try". What if her boss falls into temptations and causes a breakdown in his family? Then TS, SM and powder will be directly responsible!
How many men can resist temptation and like what Junkie said a lot of men usually "accepts cos it's FREE...."
Milo said "The TOW was full of hatred and resentments towards my mum and uncle still. " I believe most TOW are full of hatred for the wife, if so what's wrong with me the wife full of hatred for the TOW and detest women who are TOW?
I simply don't understand why most of you sympathise with TOW just because of TOW's love and crush for the man is real. So the wife's love is fake? I simply don't understand why most of you can go ahead with love at the expense of other people. Does it mean as long as you found love (even with married man), you have the right to fight for you love at the expense of another woman and their kids' pains?
I have been thru the pains, I feel for the wife and kids of prospective broken families and I am not "rubbing salt into TS' wound" but is love so overpowering and unstoppable that your happiness is greater than prospect of breaking up a family? I guess these are the same mentality of my hb and TOW. Why can't more ppl be so sensible like Milo? Crush is crush, but the partners in a marriage should have respect for each others and resist the temptation and prospective TOW should not "try" to break up the family.
I know I am harping on the same topic again. I know my plea to TOW and prospective TOW is of no use. Why would they want to listen to me? But I talk with pains from bottom of my heart the true feeling of one who have gone thru these pains. I know my opinion differs greatly from many of you and you find my posts very irritating. Many of you said should do this and that and seek out happiness and leave the unhappy marriage, many of you did not go thru these pains, so it is easy to dispense such "standard" advice - it is easier said than done. But how many of you speaks with true pains from experience?
powder, thanks for the reminder, I know "it's lost even if u dun let go." I know so I am not hoping much now, actually I am the one who wants out now, I want to let go even go to the extend of persuading daughter to let him go. But since hb wants in now, (P.S. I let him decide, I did not force him to be in"), daughter still wants both, why should I select out?
Sorry for harping on the same topic and no new contribution. But you will not feel my pains unless you are in my shoes. TS may not listen to me, I don't expect anyone to listen to me but at least I feel at least I did something by telling the pains to let prospective TOW knows of consequences of their action. Sorry for long post, for those irritated by me, maybe you would just like to skip my post on seeing my name.
