lonelymoon
New Member
Hi,
I saw a lot of kind people here who offers their 2 cents worth of advice and I decided to write my situation here. I have been with this man for 8 years (Married for 7 years) since I was 19. We have no kids. Things went on quite well initially until few years ago, I felt the gap between both of us. He has been jobless for past few years and I have been supporting the family solely then. But it was ok I thought because, as a wife I should go through the hardship with him. A year plus ago, he told me he wants to do his own business and i said yes, I supported him. I helped him to see customer, help him in whatever I can to let him on the track. But I am quite disappointed now, because things doesnt move when I dont push. He is too dependant on me and basically now, I am the man of the house, I provide everything. I feel so tired...Last year, he had an affair and I found out. He said he will break up with the woman and ask me to forgive him. I just felt that all these little thing had accumulated to the points where i cant take it anymore. But to be fair to him, I had a talk to him last week, tell him how i felt and what i wanted, what i am hoping for as a woman. I dont think he got it because things remain unchange, i dont see and feel his sincerity in changing in order to salvage our marriage. I had give him one last chance, which is half a year time to show me he is willing to change for us. I want to move on so much with my own life, but I am so afraid, because I do not have anyone here. I am so afraid and yet I am hoping so much to move on, everyday i am living in dilema. Last, i just want to say, i came to know another man a month ago during my depression, and i confessed my situation to him yet he accepted me and love me for who i am. Would you kind souls out there, please advice me what should i do?
I saw a lot of kind people here who offers their 2 cents worth of advice and I decided to write my situation here. I have been with this man for 8 years (Married for 7 years) since I was 19. We have no kids. Things went on quite well initially until few years ago, I felt the gap between both of us. He has been jobless for past few years and I have been supporting the family solely then. But it was ok I thought because, as a wife I should go through the hardship with him. A year plus ago, he told me he wants to do his own business and i said yes, I supported him. I helped him to see customer, help him in whatever I can to let him on the track. But I am quite disappointed now, because things doesnt move when I dont push. He is too dependant on me and basically now, I am the man of the house, I provide everything. I feel so tired...Last year, he had an affair and I found out. He said he will break up with the woman and ask me to forgive him. I just felt that all these little thing had accumulated to the points where i cant take it anymore. But to be fair to him, I had a talk to him last week, tell him how i felt and what i wanted, what i am hoping for as a woman. I dont think he got it because things remain unchange, i dont see and feel his sincerity in changing in order to salvage our marriage. I had give him one last chance, which is half a year time to show me he is willing to change for us. I want to move on so much with my own life, but I am so afraid, because I do not have anyone here. I am so afraid and yet I am hoping so much to move on, everyday i am living in dilema. Last, i just want to say, i came to know another man a month ago during my depression, and i confessed my situation to him yet he accepted me and love me for who i am. Would you kind souls out there, please advice me what should i do?