i saw my ex few yrs ago... act' oso nt prepared .. kana dumped few yrs back.. worse.. its 2gather twice... gt patched after 1st break.. when i saw him, i oso duno hw to react but is lk he oso saw mi, i cant possibly wlk off bah.. so juz smile looo.. then wlk off.. no contact le la.. i find it hard to contact wif ex..
He said he tried means to get in touch with me, call my old residential no, hp and go to my working place to look for me but still can't find me so he wrote me a letter lor. Not about regretting anything.
dimpxtt: Awkward because we have seen each other naked? She has become a stranger whom I know intimately (yeah, very cheem).
coco: I think most men will try to avoid their exes if possible - unless they (the men) still have feelings for the girl and hope to reconcile. It is also very awkward to meet the girl's new bf as both he and I know that we share the same pot of honey - so to speak
dimpxtt: Not laughing, no. I suppose you could say it has a little to do with "old shoes". I will never feel comfortable meeting the ex-bf of my gf in her presence, so I suppose the feeling is the same as far as the new bf of my ex is concerned.
the past is past. don't hold on it. after all, both of you did love each other once.
for me i will also look out for my ex if i am at a place that we used to go to together. a bit nervous also, but i will def smile at him, rather than avoid him. unless he is with another girl, then better not to interrupt.
what is more awkward is meeting my ex's parents... don't know whether to smile or not. i hope i nv meet them.
i think most prob i will act like i didn't see him..
it's quite scary as we had broke up due to my pregnancy and he had threaten that if i am to ask for a single cent from him, he will fight for the baby.. even if he won't be granted the custody, he will also make the government remove my baby from me..
although this was 3 yrs ago and now i know he was just talking bullsh*t and not legally possible.. but still, some kind of fear and anger still lingers in my heart..
so ya.. i hope i would nvr bump into him face to face.. or at least, not wen i'm alone or with my daughter..
occassionally i still chat with my ex.. of course its like 2 years later after we broke up... last year i attended his wedding which the invite was sent by his wife la...
kinda complicated.. he cheated on me with a close ex-colleague and now they are married.. back then the woman knew I loved him alot an ya.. they are still together and he chose to break up with me..
no hard feelings towards the couple.. I had forgiven the man even though he think that I shouldn't have forgiven him.. gave him my heartfelt blessings during his wedding.. It only seems like he is a little awkward to see me.. coz he don't even dare to look at me and not to say talk to me during the wedding..
He is not the first ex who I am able to chat with.. There's still another one who I even club with once.. with a group of friends and my fiance knew about it.. so i think its up to each individual on how you wana see things and let go of it..
Actually sometimes it is quite sad when I see friends who couldn't get out of a broken hearted relationship even after years.. they continue to dwell in the past and forget about how the world can be so much better...
I have supper with my ex yesterday after a year of break up.. and then, he also come and fetch me after school. quite strange. One year ago, we were quarreling like hell, and one year now, we take as nothing happened, and become netural friends
this kind of thread can only be started by... sometimes i wonder why there is a need to know how each other react, or if we should react at all... we should be wishing each other well in life, and if we do meet - becos we Actually agreed to meet... then it should be pretty "old fren" level rite?
maybe some pple get a kick out of others pining for them or something... being unforgotten.
it's a bit of a conundrum for many lah. I don't get it (understand) all the time too.
Sometimes, you may wonder, if you are able to think back on the past relationship without bitterness, anger, resentment or sadness, you wonder if you really loved the person or not. And if you didn't then when will you ever love someone as strongly as you see others do.
yes sm. I meant all the different feelings collectively actually. If you break it down then some are really unnecessary. But disappointment and sadness, if it should still remain, is really very subjective.
If there is still a hint of it, does it mean you have not let go?
If there isn't a shred of it, does it mean you never loved him/her that much in the first place?
I still do love my ex of 8 years but more in a way where I hope she finds her happiness and a man who can take care of her well, amongst other things she may hope for in a man and in her life.
There is no disappointment, bitterness, resentment whatsoever. Sadness, maybe just a teeeeeensy weeeeeeeensy bit if I happen to drive past her place or somehow am led to think of her, which is very very infrequent and random nowadays.
I do however feel that, such a 'love' from afar concept is really quite noble to behold and I am indeed quite proud of myself that I am capable of it. Please note this is not the psycho type of 'love from afar' where you cannot possess the person but are still very keen on the happenings of the person ah? haha.
So if can practise this 'love from afar' concept on the next one would be good. This does not mean the next one will not see me for weeks and then I come back from partying still profess my love for her. More that I should love her and not possess her.
Hint or no hint, loved or not, does it matter anymore? They are but memories from the past. I can't say I din feel anything when I had some recent updates, but the feeling's mild and I got over it pretty fast. It's been years. Feels like I no longer know the ex since we have both moved on. I dun love anymore, but I wish him well.
wah i thought u disappeared into lala land liao....
all these looking back is more meant to re-affirm who we are and how we got here... i dun believe there's still pple out there looking to point fingers or blame pple for whatever they wanna blame for... and it's a freakin relationship that we know risk of breakup is there.