yes sm. I meant all the different feelings collectively actually. If you break it down then some are really unnecessary. But disappointment and sadness, if it should still remain, is really very subjective.
If there is still a hint of it, does it mean you have not let go?
If there isn't a shred of it, does it mean you never loved him/her that much in the first place?
I still do love my ex of 8 years but more in a way where I hope she finds her happiness and a man who can take care of her well, amongst other things she may hope for in a man and in her life.
There is no disappointment, bitterness, resentment whatsoever. Sadness, maybe just a teeeeeensy weeeeeeeensy bit if I happen to drive past her place or somehow am led to think of her, which is very very infrequent and random nowadays.
I do however feel that, such a 'love' from afar concept is really quite noble to behold and I am indeed quite proud of myself that I am capable of it. Please note this is not the psycho type of 'love from afar' where you cannot possess the person but are still very keen on the happenings of the person ah? haha.
So if can practise this 'love from afar' concept on the next one would be good. This does not mean the next one will not see me for weeks and then I come back from partying still profess my love for her. More that I should love her and not possess her.
But still think I don't totally get it lah.