How do you know?

Discussion in 'Matters Of The Heart' started by babystorm, Mar 9, 2017.

  1. babystorm

    babystorm Member

    How do you know when it is time to end a marriage or relationship?

    They said all relationships have their own struggles, it just depends on who you want to struggle with.

    Anyone care to share their stories? It can be success or failure.

    Like what happened and why did you decide to end it.. Or what steps did you and your SO take to solve it and eventually move on stronger?

    Appreciate any input.

  2. newproject

    newproject Active Member

    I think when one side has sheer contempt for the other is most likely over.

    Contempt by the way is different from anger or hatred.

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  3. babystorm

    babystorm Member

  4. newproject

    newproject Active Member


    Anger "Why don't you do house work? I work as well yet I'm doing all the housework! I am so sick of this crap "

    Hate " i really HATE you. Always leaving me to do all the housework while you relax and do nothing"

    Contempt (to others) "bah. Expect the useless bum to do housework? More likely sun will rise from west. "

    Remember the opposite of love is not hate , it's indifference .

    When a woman has contempt for a guy in particular , its 99% hopeless.

    The other way around maybe got more chance but still pretty bad.
  5. miloice

    miloice Well-Known Member

    Agree. It takes 2 to tango, when you are doing solo, you know its already gone.
    Commitment is important, when both are still committed to work things out, couples struggles. That is normal.

    However, when your partner accepts the state of broken marriage and do not intend to do anything about it. Then, you should accept the reality that he has already given up.
  6. Staypositive

    Staypositive Active Member

    Hatred should be a deeper feeling than contempt
  7. newproject

    newproject Active Member

    You missing the point as usual.

    The point isn't which feeling is deeper.

    The point is at least with hate you still care enough to have strong feelings.
  8. Staypositive

    Staypositive Active Member

    With reference to what you said,then indifference would render the relationship hopeless because there are no more emotions evoked and the party simply do not care anymore. with contempt there are still some emotions involved and perhaps some hope in the relationship.
  9. likethathow

    likethathow New Member

    Well, in my case is that whenever my ex-wife is angry with me, she will threaten me with divorce. After some time, I gladly grant her wish.

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