Quoting this from the book :-
The Age-Old "I'm Just Not Ready" Excuse
Dear Greg,
I've been dating a guy since I was twenty-three. I'm twenty-eight now. We started talking about marriage two years ago, and he said he wasn't ready. So we moved in together to help him get "ready". We talked about it recently and he said that he still wasn't ready. He reminded me that we're young and there's no need to rush. In a way, he's rigt. I'm only twenty-eight and people get married much later these days. And sometimes it takes longer for guys to grow up than girls. So I want to be understanding, but I'm just not sure how long I'm supposed to wait. Does he need more time or is he just not that into marrying me?
Danielle
From Greg
Dear Waiting at the Altar.
He's right. Why rush? It's only been five years. He's going to know you so much better after ten. And you have all the time in the world, right? You know, in case after ten years he decides he's still not ready. I hate to tell you this, but here's why he feels rushed : He's still not sure you're the one. Yep, my lovely, I know it's hard to hear, but better to hear it now than ten years from now. So you can stay with him and continue to audition for the part of his lucky wife, or you can go find someone who doesn't need a decade or two to realize you're the best thing that ever happened to him.
I'm not ready. This is the most often used excuse in the world, but it always seem to do the trick. Women love waiting around for men to be ready. You woen must enjoy it, because you do it so much of the time. Which is ironic to me, since you're the ones with the biological clocks that are supposedly ticking away. Listen, we all know that couple who's been dating for five years... eight years and still hasn't got married. We know it never works out well for that couple. So how about you stop waiting - and start looking for that guy who can't wait to love you.
Q : How do we know if we are wasting our youth on someone?
The Age-Old "I'm Just Not Ready" Excuse
Dear Greg,
I've been dating a guy since I was twenty-three. I'm twenty-eight now. We started talking about marriage two years ago, and he said he wasn't ready. So we moved in together to help him get "ready". We talked about it recently and he said that he still wasn't ready. He reminded me that we're young and there's no need to rush. In a way, he's rigt. I'm only twenty-eight and people get married much later these days. And sometimes it takes longer for guys to grow up than girls. So I want to be understanding, but I'm just not sure how long I'm supposed to wait. Does he need more time or is he just not that into marrying me?
Danielle
From Greg
Dear Waiting at the Altar.
He's right. Why rush? It's only been five years. He's going to know you so much better after ten. And you have all the time in the world, right? You know, in case after ten years he decides he's still not ready. I hate to tell you this, but here's why he feels rushed : He's still not sure you're the one. Yep, my lovely, I know it's hard to hear, but better to hear it now than ten years from now. So you can stay with him and continue to audition for the part of his lucky wife, or you can go find someone who doesn't need a decade or two to realize you're the best thing that ever happened to him.
I'm not ready. This is the most often used excuse in the world, but it always seem to do the trick. Women love waiting around for men to be ready. You woen must enjoy it, because you do it so much of the time. Which is ironic to me, since you're the ones with the biological clocks that are supposedly ticking away. Listen, we all know that couple who's been dating for five years... eight years and still hasn't got married. We know it never works out well for that couple. So how about you stop waiting - and start looking for that guy who can't wait to love you.
Q : How do we know if we are wasting our youth on someone?