Help.. Need advice on our marriage.

[Happyclara]

We got married in 2014. We are almost 30 and is currently expecting our 2nd son. My husband's workload is really heavy.. He works OT almost everyday, 8 or 9 plus. And as we are working in the same company, I will always wait for him to leave office together. He also had to work at home on weekends due to the tight timeliness..

Lately, he has been playing game during weekend.. I am not against paying games, but would good that he gets more rest during the weekends

During the weekends, we will bring our son for a walk at our neighbourhood. . About 1 to 2 hours. Other than that.. If he is not working, he will be playing game.. I am not against it.. But just felt that he plays for too many hours. On weekdays, if he doesn't work late, he will also play games after dinner.

Some the day that e stayed saying, in 2007, I was hoping that he can reduce his weight... He promised to control.. But it didn't happen.. Other than his BMT days, his weight is always >100kg.. And is on the increase.. I am starting to get worried and afraid looking at his growing tummy.. He would always say that he has no time and is too tired to exercise.. I really hope that he can control his weight for our children.. But am unable to motivate him.. Disappointed..

Felt that our life is just about work.. Recently I felt that we are drifting apart.. Not sure if I am expecting too much from him.. But I just hope that we can do more things together. We have few occasions of unhappiness recently.. over him playing games.. But the issue still goes on..

 

[Infernolord]

Hi Happyclara,

Not too sure about your hubby. I do play games as well. Playing games is a way for me to de-stress/rest. You might think that I am not "resting."
Whenever i play games, i do not think about all the stressful matters. lol

And you guys are very young. 30s and having 2 kids. **Envy
Ya. i think u urge your hubby to do a regular checkup. Sometime guys like us need a "wakeup" call.
Alot of my friends including myself tend to change diet, workout when we see our "report cards." haha
Aiya.. it is norm for ppl get lazy, after all your hubby aldy so stress up at work.

 

[Happyclara]

Hi Happyclara,

Not too sure about your hubby. I do play games as well. Playing games is a way for me to de-stress/rest. You might think that I am not "resting."
Whenever i play games, i do not think about all the stressful matters. lol

And you guys are very young. 30s and having 2 kids. **Envy
Ya. i think u urge your hubby to do a regular checkup. Sometime guys like us need a "wakeup" call.
Alot of my friends including myself tend to change diet, workout when we see our "report cards." haha
Aiya.. it is norm for ppl get lazy, after all your hubby aldy so stress up at work.

Hi Inferno Lord..

Thank you for your advice. I will try to persuade him to go for health check. Thank you! =)

 

[miloice]

We got married in 2014. We are almost 30 and is currently expecting our 2nd son. My husband's workload is really heavy.. He works OT almost everyday, 8 or 9 plus. And as we are working in the same company, I will always wait for him to leave office together. He also had to work at home on weekends due to the tight timeliness..

Lately, he has been playing game during weekend.. I am not against paying games, but would good that he gets more rest during the weekends

During the weekends, we will bring our son for a walk at our neighbourhood. . About 1 to 2 hours. Other than that.. If he is not working, he will be playing game.. I am not against it.. But just felt that he plays for too many hours. On weekdays, if he doesn't work late, he will also play games after dinner.

Some the day that e stayed saying, in 2007, I was hoping that he can reduce his weight... He promised to control.. But it didn't happen.. Other than his BMT days, his weight is always >100kg.. And is on the increase.. I am starting to get worried and afraid looking at his growing tummy.. He would always say that he has no time and is too tired to exercise.. I really hope that he can control his weight for our children.. But am unable to motivate him.. Disappointed..

Felt that our life is just about work.. Recently I felt that we are drifting apart.. Not sure if I am expecting too much from him.. But I just hope that we can do more things together. We have few occasions of unhappiness recently.. over him playing games.. But the issue still goes on..

Report card is a good wake up call but sometimes it could be too late.

40 yrs of cholesterol restricting drugs, insulin meds, has not at all help with the growing health issues in almost all countries, developing or developed.

The reason why the world is facing obesity issue is party because we have the wrong food knowledge that has brainwashed us for the longest time. We are made to believe exercise is super tough and burns very little calories, while all the nice food we are addicted to are so calorie densed. So, its a battle we can never win with the traditional knowledge we are given.

Its very wrong. We crave for food because of our appetite. No one will continue to overeat if we do not crave for the food. Our bodies are designed to know how much is enough. The reason we overeat is because processed foods, sugar, insulin resistance, metabolic sydromes confuses the body. We are hungry, we eat. Its instinctive.

For the past 4 years, i have been experimenting with my diet with all the internet contraversial articles about effects or sugar vs fat, kinds of exercise, consumption of cholestero. Right knowledge on things that works, that is sustainable, that we can live a fulfilling lifestyle without needing to exercise so damn much and go hungry not eating.

 

[Cath_rina]

We got married in 2014. We are almost 30 and is currently expecting our 2nd son. My husband's workload is really heavy.. He works OT almost everyday, 8 or 9 plus. And as we are working in the same company, I will always wait for him to leave office together. He also had to work at home on weekends due to the tight timeliness..

Lately, he has been playing game during weekend.. I am not against paying games, but would good that he gets more rest during the weekends

During the weekends, we will bring our son for a walk at our neighbourhood. . About 1 to 2 hours. Other than that.. If he is not working, he will be playing game.. I am not against it.. But just felt that he plays for too many hours. On weekdays, if he doesn't work late, he will also play games after dinner.

Some the day that e stayed saying, in 2007, I was hoping that he can reduce his weight... He promised to control.. But it didn't happen.. Other than his BMT days, his weight is always >100kg.. And is on the increase.. I am starting to get worried and afraid looking at his growing tummy.. He would always say that he has no time and is too tired to exercise.. I really hope that he can control his weight for our children.. But am unable to motivate him.. Disappointed..

Felt that our life is just about work.. Recently I felt that we are drifting apart.. Not sure if I am expecting too much from him.. But I just hope that we can do more things together. We have few occasions of unhappiness recently.. over him playing games.. But the issue still goes on..

he's not worth it. just a loser game boy. it's your right to pursue your ideal husband. Leave him. Get a good lawyer and make sure he pays for his neglect.

 

[Staypositive]

he's not worth it. just a loser game boy. it's your right to pursue your ideal husband. Leave him. Get a good lawyer and make sure he pays for his neglect.

Mad woman.not everyone is like you.not happy then must break up and be vengeful.

 

[Adrian7878]

Hmmm ..... hope you all don't mind uncle (56 yo liao) give some advice. We both had high corporate positions and financially independent. 3 years ago, struck by medically induced coma (2 years) nearly died, spent last year physiotherapy ... now quite independent but retired. Loving wife (then) who said the vows "Till death do us part.". When I woke up, almost couldn't recognized her. Looked like Sun Ho ... with new Rolex and 1 carat diamond ring, those I already bought her before .... she buys her own set.

Come home at midnight (Mon-Fri) after clubbing ... saying "motivating staff". I have my own dinner on weekdays. Suspected she sexing out there. Just engaged a PI to check her clubbing activities. Filing for divorce if got evidence and not giving her a single cent. She still thought I blur-blur .... I am acting to bring her defense down. Getting less than 15 mins face time with her per day.

 

[arsenal_84]

try going some places for long walks, walking can help to slowly get 1 person to move around.

 

[newproject]

Hmmm ..... hope you all don't mind uncle (56 yo liao) give some advice. We both had high corporate positions and financially independent. 3 years ago, struck by medically induced coma (2 years) nearly died, spent last year physiotherapy ... now quite independent but retired. Loving wife (then) who said the vows "Till death do us part.". When I woke up, almost couldn't recognized her. Looked like Sun Ho ... with new Rolex and 1 carat diamond ring, those I already bought her before .... she buys her own set.

Come home at midnight (Mon-Fri) after clubbing ... saying "motivating staff". I have my own dinner on weekdays. Suspected she sexing out there. Just engaged a PI to check her clubbing activities. Filing for divorce if got evidence and not giving her a single cent. She still thought I blur-blur .... I am acting to bring her defense down. Getting less than 15 mins face time with her per day.

Lol so naive. Even if you catch her in affair doesn't mean you can avoid give her a cent.