hi to all who ve been reading this thread..was quite bz lately, thus the delay in posting...
ic, did u mean to say, after u ve stopped trying to do anything, ur PIL finally accept u after a few years? During tt few yrs, did u continue to visit ur PIL or u jux stay away fr them? i do hope my parents will one day appreciate my bf like the way ur PIL finally did...even if we really ve to wait...
songfeng, i do understand wat u mean...demanding too much fr my boyfriend to gain my parents' acceptance may backfire...his patience may be stretched n may even sour our relationship...right nw we ve slow down a bit as i dun wan to over-trampled on his pride as well...bt he promised me he will still continue to try...
pink cloud, sorry if i miss out some details of your posting...so will u n ur bf continue wif ur wedding plans?...we r gg to choose our flat soon bt so sad tt we cant share the joy with my family...
anyway, jux an update of what we ve done recently...on my mum's bday, we bought a bag for my mum...as expected, my mum rejected it and place it at the doorstep again...however, tt evening then i realise sth which my dad nvr told my mum...
few mths ago, my dad was in need of a lump sum of money...i'm the only one in the family who can get a bank loan bec my bro n sis did nt ve a clean financial credit card record...however, there was a limit hw much i can borrow n the total sum is still nt sufficient...it was only financial help fr my bf then we manage to get the required amt...i admit we were hoping tt my parents will be touched if they eventually know tt my bf contributed his help...however, we were also prepared tt my parents will nt appreciate n blame him for being nosey bec getting my bf to help is our own idea as well, nt sth my parents requested...to my astonishment,my dad admitted during 1 quarrel tt it did come across his mind tt i may get help fr my bf...bt bec i am given the responsibility of getting the money, he wun interfer where i will get it from!...i was quite furious when i heard it...i mean, i'm ok if they dun appreciate if it is our own initiative n my parents ve no idea abt it, bt my dad actually had the tot tt my bf may help n bec he need help, they r ok to close 1 eye!...tt nite when my mum rejected the gift, i finally exploded n asked y din they reject his money tt time...my mum looked shocked then i realise she was nt aware of it...all along my dad only keep it to himself!...nevertheless, upon finding the truth, my mum was nt v touched as well, she say since they ve returned all money, they ve nth to do wif it anymore...my dad,after knowing wat i ve told my mum, flew into a rage n threw temper in their room...i dun wan to bother n went to sleep...
then 2 wks ago, another drama thing happened to my family...we ve jux shifted into our new flat nt more than 3 mths n the stupid prev owner actually went to borrow fr loan shark!tt nite, a runner actually splashed coffee outside our doorstep n wrote our unit number all over the blk, claiming tt we owe them money...luckily,our neighbours told us the prev owner was renting a room somewhere nearby n we manage to track him down...all this while, i was observing my dad...he was ok wif walking to the police station n back hm n to the prev owner place w/o feeling tired or chest pain...then when we meet the prev owner, my dad raise his voice n demand explanation from him in anger w/o looking in pain at all...of cox, i keep all these observation to myself cox i knw i ve no right n it will be v unfilial of me to suspect my dad of faking his illness to scare me...anyway, the next day, i went back to the police station with my parents to get a printed report(my bro n sis, as usual, say they ve to work, nt free)...at the station, my bf was already there waiting for us...when he open the door for my parents, my dad did nt recognise it was him n actually smile at him...i thk it was until he addressed them then my parents realise it was him...my dad's face turn black n keep chasing us to go while waiting for the report...my bf went to buy some drinks n offer to them bt my dad jux pushed them away...when we were out of the police station, my dad walked v fast n my mum ve to keep up with him...then he put his hand on his chest...i was prepared to call the ambulance at this pt of time, bt they jux continue to walk faster, yelled at us nt to follow them anymore n walk off, w/o hand on his chest...i thk it is pointless to keep following them so i told my bf to stop there n carry on with wat we ve plan for the day...
everytime when i see my dad continue with his smoking n late nite mahjong, i feel like asking him y he din bother to take care of his own health...even my mum still continue to buy his fav peanuts for him...n when i tell my mum nt to buy bec of his health, my mum will jux say, ur dad will be ok as long as u all listen to us...i really feel unfair, bt wat can i say...
coming mid-autumn, we ve plan for my bf to buy some mooncakes, even though we know for sure wat the outcome will be...