My htb also not for idea of gatecrash. I don't want to put him through it because I dont want him to look silly on his big day! Lol. I have some telling me I shouldn't try to "protect" him so much. But I'm the one marrying..not them! I don't want him to be all sweaty and smelly after e gatecrash. Hah!
I never liked gatecrashes. Have heard helpers complain at hongbao being too little/ men not sporting/ etc... to me it's a hassle so I just have my htb pick me up from home, videographer can still video the usual prep and pickin up of bride. More impt to me is the church ceremony!