Im very upset.. Its only 1 week into the start of our preparation and my bf and I have already gotten the quotes for all the hotels/venues, sorted them out and prioritize them, read up on forums on each hotel's review and found someone to choose a date for us.
I was hoping to settle the banquet booking and dates fast so that I can concentrate on my studies for this sem as I know I will be very busy..
Bf's father have his priorities.. He wanted somewhere with
- Very good food
- Accessible to his relatives and friends
We stay in the west and he suggested place like Yun Nan Restaurant, Chevrons, Boon Lay Restaurants, bla..
Tell me, which bride would like having their wedding at such places?
Spoken to bf about this issue.. He suggested that we get a date first, filter and check the availability of the hotels, make sure what we want and propose to his dad.. And seek his approval..
I think likewise.. My thinking is, what if he still doesn't agree? Are we going to compromise to his request since we have already gotten a date and this will mean most of the relatives will already know about it? And will this also mean we die die have to get married? If this is the case (cannot compromise on my requirements), I really rather not have a wedding you know?
Bf say I don't give him breathing space.. I know he is stuck inbetween, so am I.. The thought of bf's father upset makes me upset.. But the thought of even him approving our request and later sulk makes me even worst..
I have heard stories about how he forces his bro to get married at the restaurant he wanted.. And Im really worried I have to end up like that.. So if you ask me, I really rather not get married.. Really...
Can anyone please.. Please tell me what to do?
1) Suggest a place with very good food + nice ambience (Any suggestions to me? Please...)
OR
2) I just get married at the venue he likes and forget about myself..
3) I just ROM at the place he wants and take it that our wedding is done.. I don't want anything else..
4) Get married overseas, go honeymoon, register overseas and thats it(low chances).. If so, any recommendation and how can i go about doing it?
I'm not too sure if Im too demanding.. But as a gal, I also hope to have my fairy tale wedding.. Friends/relatives around me are getting married in nice place, hotels, having lavish weddings.. Me? Because of budget, I can compromise on a not so nice hotel but ambience is impt.. Imagine if everyone ard me is having their wedding at nice places and I have it at places like YUN NAN Restaurant, how wld I feel and how wld people talk behind my back? How wld my parents feel as well? Poor daughter cannot get married in nice hotels when their friends daughters all get married in nice hotels..
I really don't feel like getting married anymore.. I really really regret agreeing to even start the preparation...
I was hoping to settle the banquet booking and dates fast so that I can concentrate on my studies for this sem as I know I will be very busy..
Bf's father have his priorities.. He wanted somewhere with
- Very good food
- Accessible to his relatives and friends
We stay in the west and he suggested place like Yun Nan Restaurant, Chevrons, Boon Lay Restaurants, bla..
Tell me, which bride would like having their wedding at such places?
Spoken to bf about this issue.. He suggested that we get a date first, filter and check the availability of the hotels, make sure what we want and propose to his dad.. And seek his approval..
I think likewise.. My thinking is, what if he still doesn't agree? Are we going to compromise to his request since we have already gotten a date and this will mean most of the relatives will already know about it? And will this also mean we die die have to get married? If this is the case (cannot compromise on my requirements), I really rather not have a wedding you know?
Bf say I don't give him breathing space.. I know he is stuck inbetween, so am I.. The thought of bf's father upset makes me upset.. But the thought of even him approving our request and later sulk makes me even worst..
I have heard stories about how he forces his bro to get married at the restaurant he wanted.. And Im really worried I have to end up like that.. So if you ask me, I really rather not get married.. Really...
Can anyone please.. Please tell me what to do?
1) Suggest a place with very good food + nice ambience (Any suggestions to me? Please...)
OR
2) I just get married at the venue he likes and forget about myself..
3) I just ROM at the place he wants and take it that our wedding is done.. I don't want anything else..
4) Get married overseas, go honeymoon, register overseas and thats it(low chances).. If so, any recommendation and how can i go about doing it?
I'm not too sure if Im too demanding.. But as a gal, I also hope to have my fairy tale wedding.. Friends/relatives around me are getting married in nice place, hotels, having lavish weddings.. Me? Because of budget, I can compromise on a not so nice hotel but ambience is impt.. Imagine if everyone ard me is having their wedding at nice places and I have it at places like YUN NAN Restaurant, how wld I feel and how wld people talk behind my back? How wld my parents feel as well? Poor daughter cannot get married in nice hotels when their friends daughters all get married in nice hotels..
I really don't feel like getting married anymore.. I really really regret agreeing to even start the preparation...